Husband Looking At Craigslist Sex Ads

I'm 26 and married for two years. My husband is the love of my life. I was googling something on his phone and when I typed in a Url Craigslist casual encounters came up he viewed like 15-20 posts. I don't think he's ever did anything like this before but I'm so upset and don't know if I can believe he was just looking at pictures. Before we were married that's how he hooked up with people. I don't know if I can trust him because I don't know what his real intention was--- local ads from our area. Any suggestions advice to deal with this is welcome.

Well, lol, where are the European girls to bust you out for snooping, I'm sure they'll show up shortly to let you know your the bad person in this story. I did same thing with my ex, who I still see for lack of my ability to find anyone else to drive me batshit crazy which seems to be a turn on from being verbally and physically abused by women as I grew up. Men are pretty visual, sometimes they just want to look but now you know to watch him, and ask him if he's satisfied with his sex life, who knows what his story is, communication my love, talk to him. And, be frank, STD are not cool..

Don't have unprotected sex with him. Go check yourself for STD. Confront him. If he hooked up for casual sex before marriage then that's what's he doing now or plans on doing. Sorry. This ain't cool

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I've read stories of people cruising the sex ads, only to try to meet up and have criminals rob them, steal their car, home invasion, etc. There's lots of other dangers associated with your husband's behavior IF he is actually trying to meet up with people, so personally I wouldn't feel comfortable keeping it a secret.

If he's not trying to meet up with people, maybe he's curious. Maybe it indicates that he isn't as committed. If you confront him outside of a therapy environment, do it gently and in a conversation, because what will likely happen is he'll get defensive, and then he will figure out how to hide the behavior better.

Ooh ick! I don't think I'd be staying with someone who went about finding sexual partners that way. I would definitely confront him about it, serve a cease and desist notice (not literally), and expect immediate change in that kind of behavior. It wasn't cool when he was single (very dangerous really) and it definitely isn't okay in a marriage.

Immediate change could mean he will hide it better. If he did it before and does now why would he stop? I see no point in ultimatums or demands. It is overall who the person is. If he is the type that likes casual encounters then that's who he is

You can only control what you do and in this case you either live in fear and lack of trust or leave

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Eh? If you can't trust him to make immediate change on behalf of respect for you and your marriage, perhaps this is a marriage not meant to be. This would be an absolute no-go in my book, but I wouldn't have married someone who I knew did this before I was married anyway. Just doesn't do much for my confidence in his common sense.

Okay, so I totally go through spurts of browsing the casual encounters section on CL, as well as the missed connections and "misc romance" sections. I think it's just a perverted, morbid curiosity thing on my part, and then the missed connections is just interesting, lots of little drama sagas going on there. "Rants and Raves" is sometimes entertaining but not usually because it's mostly just racist and political rage posts. So just throwing myself out there as an example of how someone might be gawking with no intention of acting.

What is troublesome about the situation you describe is that your husband previously used CL to hook up and have casual sex. What you should also know is that regular women wanting casual sex on CL are about as rare as fast food jobs that pay $50 an hour. Might exist somewhere but good luck with that. There is an extremely high probability that his "casual encounters" were with prostitutes, as the vast majority of women in the CC section are prostitutes. They require "flowers" for a "fun time".

So this not only means that your husband has a history of hooking with strangers from the internet, but he also probably has a history of using prostitutes.

Therefore, it is very likely that he was indeed looking to hire said-prostitutes. If I were you, I would get an STD check and just abandon ship.

Even more bothersome he is supposed to be Muslim recent convert which is a big no no which makes him more hypocritical. I tried to look past his past because people change but it's truly bothering me he was looking looking. I confronted him he said he was stressed, just looking at pics. But I'm sorry that's what porn is for and sounds like excuses to me. He has agreed to go to counseling at least. I don't know if I can trust him again. I'm heartbroken.

I have read this multiple times. Beyond troubling

We do have son which makes this more complicated. It also makes me even more depressed because I'm 2 months preggo and he was looking at those ads 8 days after I found out I was preggo again.

That's what I am saying. He won't change. You can either leave or stay in this mess. But I wouldn't expect him to change at all. I'd personally get out

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Uhm if he's done this before, he's not just looking at ads for fun and not going any further.

People don't really change. Chances are he's still looking at ads and hooking up with people (or if he hasn't yet, he will soon enough).

Get yourself tested for STI's.

Don't have any unprotected sex.

At least he's agreed to counseling, so that's a plus.

Just be careful and take care of yourself first and foremost, you are the most important thing in your life and your children.