Great guy, bad in bed

I've met a really wonderful man. He's so loving, caring and just amazing. I can see a real future with him and we talk about our future and what we want and I'm falling in love with him. The only thing is the sex is really bad.

He said he's been with over 30 women yet I find this hard to believe.

What would you do?

All suggestions welcome

I would teach him how to please you. So many men think they know how to please a woman and really don't so it's up to us to teach them. I hope this helps and best wishes to you!

Aaaannnnnddddd now you know why he's still single! Lol. But seriously....

You can try to teach him. Hopefully it's not a hopeless situation.

Technically someone could be horrible yet have slept with a ton of people. Quality doesn't always come with quantity.

What do you mean by bad sex? Selfish? Or just clueless? I am ok with clueless but not ok with selfish. I can live without sex but not with selfishness or lack of affection

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What divine1966 asks is important.

But whatever it is you need him to know in order to solve the situation. Besides, if it is the clueless situation, it might not be as bad as you might think. Good luck!

Funny you should say that! I didn't sleep with him until after we'd been out on a few dates first so i got to know him first and I joked to a friend that I can't believe he's single ha ha

Not selfish at all! Loads of affection and attention on me but clueless.

We're both in our 30's and I felt like a teenager again but not in a good way

I think it's HUGE that he's on the clueless side. I have lumped these guys in the same category before. I now know that was wrong.

Clueless is workable. Selfish in bed is indicative of being a selfish person overall. I won't deal with selfish people who don't reciprocate.

I think you should perhaps work on the sexual issue since he's otherwise a great guy. Communication is huge. Make sure you tell him what you like and don't like, repeatedly so that it sinks in (of course, in a nice way).

Good luck! You may have a diamond in the rough on your hands.

Yes I agree. He's not selfish at all and is adequately equipped ha ha.

The actual sex is fine it's the foreplay that needs work.

I will defo communicate with him but really don't want to hurt his feelings

My ex was clueless when it came to foreplay. The way I fixed it was by saying something like "I was reading this magazine and this sounded interesting could we try it?" and I always reciprocated by asking if there was anything he'd like or something I could do to really flip his switch.

It seemed by saying I read or I heard about might be interesting etc... he didn't take it personally and his feelings weren't hurt.

You can gently guide him (teach him) what you like in terms of foreplay.He really sounds like a great guy... as Chipper said a diamond in the rough. You just have to polish him up a little-- and believe me, most guys love it when a woman shows/tells them what she likes... we can all be pretty clueless sometimes.

Don't approach it from critical point of view, don't tell him I don't like this or that but tell him you'd also like to try xyz. Or do something on him and suggest he does the same to you

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Tell him what you want him to do with you, its nice to talk about it.

My ex didnt have experience (had sex only for two times a life before me), I was really bored when we had sex because he kissed my lips for 15 minutes or even longer but I wanted him to act faster but he was really insecure. Maybe I just didnt want him, i dont know. Our temperaments were too different, he liked slowly kissing etc, but I wanted wild sex. So I cheated on him but I would suggest to talk about what you want and I think that he would like to do with you this, he doesnt know what you want, you should tell him and it will be okay