Are these signs of inexperience?

I didn't read rapist/abuser, either. Maybe because, as you say, I'm not familiar with the history here.

To the OP: from what you describe, I just get an image of an overly nervous guy. If he's lying about past relationships, it's probably because he feels as if he needs an ego rush.

It sounds like your friend is nervous and that you're a bit overly critical. I can't stand cologne on myself but I've known a lot of perfectly wonderful guys who wear cologne as if it's part of regular grooming.

Lord. If you're looking for a good relationship and if you're attracted to the guy, keep seeing him. I just don't see the red flags that others perceive. I agree that his fast dive for the goodies and ineptitude once there speaks to inexperience, but it doesn't cry rapist to me.

Nervous and inexperienced and trying not to be either.

Dating. Hunh. I had my last date in 1999, just before going into hospital. Hope you make the best of it.

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Why didn't you say that previously?

I still just get the sense of an inexperienced and nervous man.

I was overly sexually active way back when and for some reason I think that you may be as well? Just guessing.

If you think of this man as a "jerk" then, were I you, I would let him down gently (as a courtesy) and get on with life.

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It saddens me that you believe men who like and respect you will have to treat you bad and force themselves on you. I would recommend working on your self esteem so you can start value yourself. Then you can surround yourself with men who respect you

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