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Old Mar 17, 2016, 02:28 AM
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You are having a Pagan/Wiccan commitment ceremony at Disney World?
No, who on earth said that?
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 02:31 AM
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So you're not actually getting married?
No, don't have the money for the wedding we want to have saved up yet.
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 02:32 AM
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Are you ready for your hand fast in 8 days?
Yeah, I'm pretty excited about it.
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Psych meds:
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 02:37 AM
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My take on this is that it's a commitment ceremony that basically commits to nothing since it seems like the only commitment exists on the part of the guy......I do wonder if he really knows where you are coming from angelwings or if you haven't truly been open & honest with him about what you want in your life? Lets see, you are the one that wants the open arrangement to be with more than just him & you are the one that doesn't want to live with him........

what exactly are YOU committing to?
So not true, he flat out told me it's fine with him that we live alone because he also prefers to live by himself. Stop being an *** and pretending you know what my Fiance is thinking. It's me that's known him and been with him for 8 years, not you! So stop being rude to me.
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 02:52 AM
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You mentioned that if he inherits the house you'd probably live with him.
Why? What difference would it make, unless you're thinking about rent money. Are you building a retirement plan together ?
Do you share assets now? Are you in a 50/50 state?
I would move in there because I have always wanted to live there and did at one point for a short time. And yes, it would save us more money living in that house together. I don't know what you mean by a retirement plan? We do not share assets now, sometimes he gives me money for my birthday or holidays or buys me stuff I can't afford but that's it. And I don't know what you mean by a 50/50 state? I live in Phoenix, Arizona.
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Lupus
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 03:00 AM
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I am wondering why you are asking if it is weird.

This proposed arrangement would have its pluses and minuses, just like any arrangement. Perhaps responses here can help you clarify the pluses and minuses. But if, after due deliberation, you and your fiance together decide that living apart is best for your marriage, what difference does it make if the arrangement is "weird"? What difference does it make if others don't see the point, or don't approve?

It sounds like you have already discussed this plan with your fiance, and it sounds like he is open to the concept. I am thinking that you would live together in his parents house because in that house there is sufficient room for you to have the aloneness and independence that you seek. Yes?
To answer your question "Yes".
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I have a boyfriend named Daniel who I met on Facebook and we have been together since March 6th, 2019. He has Asperger's Syndrome and a master's in homeland security studies and a 4.0

Diagnosis:
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PTSD
ADHD
Social Anxiety Disorder
Medical problems:
Fibromyalgia
Lupus
IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome)
Asthma

Psych meds:
Haloperidol 15 MG
Desipramine 75 MG
Bupropion 150 MG
Prazosin 1 MG
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 03:04 AM
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Sounds to me like you don't want to get married, or are not ready for marriage. You DO know what marriage is? Right?
Yes, I know what marriage is.
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PTSD
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IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome)
Asthma

Psych meds:
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Bupropion 150 MG
Prazosin 1 MG
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 03:07 AM
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All you've written in your post is that you don't want to live with your fiance.... What does he want?
He agreed we will live alone unless/until he inherits the house his parents and him own which when his parents do die the house will go to him as he is the only child.
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I have a boyfriend named Daniel who I met on Facebook and we have been together since March 6th, 2019. He has Asperger's Syndrome and a master's in homeland security studies and a 4.0

Diagnosis:
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PTSD
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 03:13 AM
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I ask again: if this proposed arrangement is discussed and agreed upon by you and your fiance, why does it matter if it is "weird" or if others don't approve?
It doesn't I was just curious.
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PTSD
ADHD
Social Anxiety Disorder
Medical problems:
Fibromyalgia
Lupus
IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome)
Asthma

Psych meds:
Haloperidol 15 MG
Desipramine 75 MG
Bupropion 150 MG
Prazosin 1 MG
Lamotrigine 200 MG
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 05:33 AM
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 07:06 AM
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So not true, he flat out told me it's fine with him that we live alone because he also prefers to live by himself. Stop being an *** and pretending you know what my Fiance is thinking. It's me that's known him and been with him for 8 years, not you! So stop being rude to me.
She wasn't being rude to you. If anything, she is as confused as I am. What's the point of committing to someone if you don't want a monogamous relationship with them?
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 07:08 AM
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No, who on earth said that?
You did. You explained you've recently become a Wiccan and were going to have a Wiccan/Pagan ceremony in the fall around Halloween.
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 07:35 AM
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No one is intentionally being rude to you. Everyone is rather confused.

You've changed plans so many times that it's hard to keep it straight. At one point you were getting married at Disney. Then on Halloween. Then on Christmas Day at Disney world. Now it is a hand fasting which isn't including a legal component.

A hand fasting without the whole legal marriage is a commitment ceremony, not overly viewed as a wedding/marriage. Especially considering that you have a non-monogamous relationship and have zero plans to live with each other. There's nothing wrong with the relationship as it is, nor having a hand fasting.

Legal marriages come with various legal benefits, so to have a legal marriage and yet have no indications of a marriage within the relationship - well yes, that will be viewed as weird. Because marriage is people commuting to each other and being part of a team. But you and your guy don't seem to want any of the team aspect, which makes the legal aspect of marriage seem pointless.

And really, if you don't want to hear people's actual opinions, you probably shouldn't ask.
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 10:58 AM
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 12:18 PM
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Eskie wasn't being rude, she asked valid questions, because this whole situation is REALLY confusing.


One of them you answered, kind of, by telling her off and stating your fiancé is happily agreeing to this arrangement and has known the score for 8 years..


The other question, "what exactly are u committing to?

Is just as valid.


Because if you are not in a committed relationship, what exactly IS your commitment here?


To not leave him?


(That's not sarcasm, I'm actually curious)


Again, to each their own, I'm just trying to understand, and if you're offended by the responses received, you probably shouldn't post questions you know the answer to, or if you know there's a good chance you'll dislike the answers.


It's just practicing good self-care, protecting yourself from feeling victimized, not censorship.

So don't take that the wrong way please.
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 12:40 PM
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Honestly I would not count on inheritance ( that house), as they might live another 40 years till they are a 100. Or they might sell their house etc I wouldn't put much hope in inheriting anything.

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Old Mar 17, 2016, 12:47 PM
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Hmm. Is this inheritance coming from your family, or your fiancé's family? If it's your fiancé's family it's never going to technically or legally be bequeathed to you unless you're legally wed. Better continue saving up for that legal marriage and good luck!
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 01:30 PM
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Hmm. Is this inheritance coming from your family, or your fiancé's family? If it's your fiancé's family it's never going to technically or legally be bequeathed to you unless you're legally wed. Better continue saving up for that legal marriage and good luck!

It is his family

. I am engaged myself and would have a problem if my fiancée planned on me inheriting my parents house. I would have a problem if he didn't want to live with me until I inherit my parents house. It doesn't sound right.

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[QUOTE=divine1966;4967241]Honestly I would not count on inheritance ( that house), as they might live another 40 years till they are a 100. Or they might sell their house etc I wouldn't put much hope in inheriting anything.

That's our family motto: "Don't count on an inheritance!"

Sorry, Angel, I got confused. it sounded like you were having your commitment ceremony at Disney. It's a small world after all...
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It seems like an excuse to be lazy. Its easy enough to hide an unkempt house (which you may try to justify as "your style" or a lazy lifestyle from someone you just see once in awhile. It seems like you are hiding from accountability vs commitment.
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Old Mar 21, 2016, 12:31 AM
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Yes, he knows I have a girlfriend. It's not serious seeing as she's not living in Arizona where I live she lives in New York so currently only in an online relationship but hope to find a woman I can actually be with in person.
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I have a boyfriend named Daniel who I met on Facebook and we have been together since March 6th, 2019. He has Asperger's Syndrome and a master's in homeland security studies and a 4.0

Diagnosis:
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Medical problems:
Fibromyalgia
Lupus
IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome)
Asthma

Psych meds:
Haloperidol 15 MG
Desipramine 75 MG
Bupropion 150 MG
Prazosin 1 MG
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Old Mar 21, 2016, 12:34 AM
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You did. You explained you've recently become a Wiccan and were going to have a Wiccan/Pagan ceremony in the fall around Halloween.
Yeah well, **** changed and happened. Why are we dwelling in the past? Oh, and I never fing said I recently became Wiccan. I have been Wiccan since December 2009. Seriously, stop putting words in my mouth.
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I have a boyfriend named Daniel who I met on Facebook and we have been together since March 6th, 2019. He has Asperger's Syndrome and a master's in homeland security studies and a 4.0

Diagnosis:
Borderline Personality Disorder
Schizoaffective Disorder
PTSD
ADHD
Social Anxiety Disorder
Medical problems:
Fibromyalgia
Lupus
IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome)
Asthma

Psych meds:
Haloperidol 15 MG
Desipramine 75 MG
Bupropion 150 MG
Prazosin 1 MG
Lamotrigine 200 MG
Benztropine 1 MG

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