Dating website?

wasnt hard to improve really... starting to be an alcoholic at age 13 and drinking till you could swim to the clouds is just...
well all you have to do is skip a few days and you're better hehe :/

but ill just drink a few beers maybe once or twice a month now...
tonight ive drank a bottle of wine and about 5 beers... i just dont enjoy getting drunk so much anymore so i guess it all worked out for the best, just hope i didnt kill off too much of my brain...

i have a high tolerance to alot of things... abused my body a little too much for a young buck :/

not exactly a cool thing to brag about... something i feel like would scare people off from even wanting to just be friends..

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how do normal people fall in love?
are there precautions that you are supposed to take?
im a super sensitive guy and if someone touches me the wrong way i might get the wrong idea, kind of thing

should i even mention my music stuff?
im not a professional by any means... just a hobby i do... everyone that knows me enjoys the stuff to different extents...

like this -

its just a hobby

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im Loaded btw....

tis ilnnes i have makes me feel so pathetic... not worthy of a good woman....

You might scare girls by these background images in the first video. It scared me.

How "normal" people fall in love? Good question. I doubt anyone knows the answer. I think it just happens. I mean even if you have many similar interests with a girl, it's still not enough. There is a chemistry plays in. But I would say if you like a girl in real life, you need to take certain steps: make an eye contact, make a little talk, ask for date, and then see what happens. I should put my advice to action for myself.

I even tried speed dating but there was no luck. It cost me alot of money and parking fees.

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Those famous dating websites, I have accounts on many of them, yet, each time a cute girl wants to talk to me and I reply, I never hear of her again! Kind of illogical, if you ask me, either you want to talk to me or you don't but why do you do the opposite of what you really want, so illogical.

I once talked a lot with a girl, turns out she really wanted us to go for a walk, her only interest seemed to find someone to distract her while she took walks to lose weight (she wasn't huge, had maybe 10 pounds to lose, it was kind of hot) but after a while of turning in circle and her only wanting to go for a walk, I told her ''I'm not your pet''. HAHAHAHA!! I mean, I could see from miles away that our relationship would be dysfunctional. I only liked her for her body and she only saw me as a pet. lol

Today, I still have accounts on those dating websites but I'm thinking of removing all informations about my wealth. Many girls would me ''So you're an engineer, you must be rich?'' and I'd say ''Yeah but I'm no sugar daddy '' then no reply. I hate it, I want a deep relationship, not just being a father to young women that think they can get anything they want in exchange of sex. It offends me, like, I feel as if I was paying for prostitutes. To me, sex should come naturally, out of love, it should be deep and we should live incredible feelings. It shouldn't look as if it was a business.

I might be mistaken but many times, I wish I could find a shy girl, looks cute but doesn't have a pornstar body and I wouldn't even care! Shy girls give me the feeling of often being less material girls, you can identify yourself to them on a more deep level. They seem more genuine and more lovey-dovey. lol I miss the affection of teenage relationships... Sadly, I have yet to find a SINGLE shy girl on ANY dating website.

Anyone know where to find this rare breed of girls? I feel like as if I was looking for the legendaries unicorns!

That's so unfair sito. You see, lots of nice guys like you and me do tons of efforts to find a girlfriend because we'd like to have relationships and get nothing, yet, douchebags treat girls like s*** and get all the girls they want. I'm sorry girls if I can't treat you like a bi*** but that's because I genuinely have respect for you and don't see just see you as a sexual object. I wish girls could give more chances to nice guys, it should be us that get all the girls, not the other way around.

The other day I went to a bar, and there was this guy with 4 girls around him, and wherever he moved all 4 moved with him. And while he was talking with them, he would stop another girl in his way and start talking to her, too. I was amazed why the girls were OK with all of this. Said that, I don't think it's something general, and that all girls like these type of guys. May be it has something to do with confidence that these type of guys show an excessive amount of confidence, and confidence is something attracts females subconsciously.

crazy stuff

definitely not fair game for the nice guys

It's a match game. For me, I wouldn't talk to any of the 4 girls mentioned above regardless of their outer beauty.

I agree Wandering Soul. Most of the girls I lust over, I wouldn't have as a girlfriend, got not interest in this type of girl but I'm facing a wall right now and so far, I haven't found the answer that will allow me to break through this blockade. You see, I'm a nice guy and haven't got a girlfriend in a long time. I read a book about how alpha males got all the girls they wanted but one of my most important mantra in life, is ''don't try to be someone else, be yourself'' so how am I supposed to get a girlfriend if it didn't work during the last 14 years, being myself?

I'm blocked by this inner paradox and I'm tethered to my desk, like some sort of animal.

I can appreciate what you’re saying about not being interested in a lot of these girls. Remember, we are social creatures even if we have social anxiety or depression. You bond with people based on communication. So, unless their profile is very inappropriate be careful about saying whether you would like them or not. A lot of times profiles are very misleading, and that one girl who didn’t say a whole lot may be a perfect match for you as well. The algorithm used on dating sites is notoriously bad for picking good mates. It’s that first meeting that will seal the deal.

I think the thing that stands out to me most about your post is your lack of confidence with women. I can appreciate that, but it’s one of those things that you have to work on to become comfortable. If you sit at the house, you will never get a cuddle buddy like you want. Also, do not automatically assume that because you are shy that a woman won’t love you or be interested in you. I think a lot of women are happy to have someone who is working on improving their mental status, but some women have had negative experiences with men with depression because they put no effort into getting treatment. They will quit taking their antidepressants or quit going to therapy and get far worse. If you can avoid that, then you will most likely be okay.

As far as something nice happening to you, you can bring about that without a woman. In fact, I would say you could bring about something nice happening today. I would encourage you to go out and make some friends. There are groups for pretty much any hobby under the sun, and it will help you develop social confidence. I think where a lot of people go wrong is focusing too much on getting a romantic relationship, and they neglect the basic social skills necessary for romantic relationships to develop. One step at a time and you will enjoy the journey!

I agree. Be yourself. Something out of you might push you to change, but the change has to be internal and genuine, not just to manipulate people. That's why I don't like books that tell you how to be someone outwardly only by using body language, for example.

Yes, I tried doing that and I think I freaked out a couple girls! In retrospect, I must have looked so awkward, trying to look like something I was not.

Thanks for the reply!

I agree with this, as I think it's my issue right now. I'm so focused on getting a romantic relationship above all social relationships. I'm very conscious about this. That's why the last time I went to a meetup meeting at a bar I just talked intentionally with guys about soccer and manly stuff. It was fun. I didn't attempt to approach any girl, contrary to the previous meetings, although I had some prolonged and interesting chat with some of them. But it stopped right there. Some girls excused themselves, but that's OK. It's the nature of things.

Girls always go for the bad boys while ignoring the good guys. They get mad when the bad guys rape them. There is a pattern here. Jian Gohmesi supposed rape the women. They approach him like a mob.

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Good guys finish last

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Maybe she's off celebrating her birthday.

This was interesting to hear the guys' perspective.

Any time I ever tried to pursue a guy, they didn't like me. I just thought guys like to do the pursuing because they are the hunters, they like the conquest.

My mother grew up in the 50's and forced me to act like that elusive unicorn, nice girl when I started seriously dating. She said "Act like you just fell off a Christmas tree", like I was a shiny, perfect decoration, lol.

Well, the irony is that I am far from a sparkly ornament, for sure. So, my husband fell in love with the very best of me, who didn't tell him all the bad things that happened to me and that I had done. Those things started coming out later in our relationship. He still loved me. He hid plenty of skeletons in his closet, too.

In hindsight, I should have continued to keep my mouth shut about my past. There was no point in telling. I wish I never even gave it all another thought.

Anyway, guys, just keep being who you are. You all sound like really nice, genuine people with plenty of love to give. And there is someone out there for you.

I understand where this comes from, but being nice isn't enough. You need to communicate it properly. Girls aren't mind readers. For sure the guy who gets the girls is the guy who approaches and talks with them, and impresses them, not the guy who's educated and nice but doesn't talk.

Girls are passive, and it's unlikely they will approach you. They deal with what they have. If you want to win in this "game", you need to play according to the rules. (The rules are general as human beings aren't predictable, but it goes like this generally speaking).

Also, being too nice isn't necessarily a good thing. Some balance is required. Also, I think how you dress is important. I wear shirts (not very formal, though) all the time, so maybe I appear a little formal or serious. Maybe something casual is more intriguing to girls, I'm not sure. Many things play a role.

I get suspicious when she started addressing me with the word "baby" in chat. I have experience about girls who use this word before I know her well.

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A lot of women say baby. That's a big group to discount based on just that.

Dating sites are a waste of time.

I never call any woman by nick name such as honey or sweetie. I would be setting myself up for harassment lawsuit. These things are abundant nowadays.

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I know in my town, men got sued because the women were willing to have sex after having said men pay for drinks at the bar but the morning after, they said they were raped, like what? You can't want something than after having others pay for you, you change ideas and say ''oh, thank you for the drink and sex, I really wanted them but I'm gonna sue you because you raped me''. That's so ridiculous. Others, they are just as ridiculous, they're random girls that will do ANYTHING so you impregnate them even if you tell them you don't want kids and then they've hit the jackpot! You now have to support the kid AND the random girl because otherwise she will sue you.

I haven't gone into a bar for more than 2 years, lol, partly because of that. Gotta defend myself against these gold-diggers ...and it works!

That's true.

On my sons' college campus, there are signs all over to make sure she says yes before having sex. To me, that's so strange and takes all the spontaneity out of it, but with all the false rape allegations, that's the way it is now.



And I tell my sons to always wear a condom and don't trust the girl about it at all- The one with the birth control, has the control.