I only sleep with married men

You're creating a lot of bad karma for yourself which you will eventually have to repay.

If you are truly desperate for human affection, that's NOT what you are getting from a married man, you are just being used for sex....an unpaid prostitute? They just make it feel like affection to lure you in.

With all due respect, this seems to frame those married guys (or women in cases where this is the case) are evil people using someone for sex in a way that the person involved has no say, or choice. OR that the person involved in such detached situations for sex are in any way doing anything different. Pick someone attached and you should know what you're getting into. Expect to go into a fling like that and have some kind of commitment from either side and you're just fooling yourself. NO, the only cases where the married side is any worse is if they do it without letting the person they are having sex with know that they are attached/married. Which means this really doesn't apply here.

I fail to see how in a situation where someone is aware of what they are getting into (as clearly laid out by the title alone) they are a victim of anything.

It is merely common sense that if someone wants more than sexual attention and any kind of affection that is real, you wouldn't find already married or attached people to hook up with. Wait, let me rephrase. IT SHOULD be common sense.

I wonder if there is also the aspect that you are afraid to be with men who are single because that means being vulnerable and trusting, and all the mess that goes along with being with someone who is free to be with you on every level.

Also,.to those judging your moral character must live in glass houses. Seriously, if I had never been with a married man when I was single (I had) I still was doing other things that I felt were wrong. I didn't judge myself more harshly for the married men then I did for some of the other acts I committed that were considered immoral or whatever. When we are lonely we do what we need to do to fill something inside us, and far be it for anyone especially in this forum to judge another person for being lonely.


*life is a beautiful lie*

Umm, if that is how you define an unpaid prostitute you are pretty much saying that all sex without the intention of love is prostitution?

*life is a beautiful lie*

If this was the wife here asking for help then it would be okay to side with her. As it is, it isn't the wife it is a member of this community and she is hurting and lonely and asking for help. She didn't ask if what she was doing was wrong or immoral. Certainly the wives could be hurting and the men are jerks, but that isn't going to help her face her loneliness.

We don't know the wives or the men, we just know that this human came for help.

*life is a beautiful lie*

I agree that this thread has derailed a lot and I am ashamed to say that I am responsible for part of it focusing in on the adultery side of things. I had to go back to the original post to realize how far it has gone from the intent shown in that post.

She has not said anything about asking whether she is doing anything wrong or right (I think it was subsequent posts that directed it that way) in fact in her op she implies that she knows something is off and is more seeming to ask how to get on a path that would make her happier and more satisfied.

@OP
I apologize for my part in the derailing here. I think that the posts that address you asking why you might be going after married men may be the best way to figure out what it is you're looking for, what it is that these married men have that you believe is more attractive. Of course assuming you know you'd probably be better off with a single person, maybe it's all about the fact that you may feel that a single guy may expect a commitment right away and that's what you fear? just assumption here but I dont' think out of left field.

figure out what it is that is good about the relationships or hookups/flings with married men. Then from there see if you can find a more appropriate partner that can give you those things.

This is true. I apologize.