Just ranting..

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He truly doesn't know how POOR he is, because
he is rich. He definitely has to learn compassion and
moral values

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Hit the nail on the head with that comment. Ooo how true!

The x did mention when my son was out of high school, that he told my son he wanted to spend some time with him. My son said, "well, you know dad, you never had any time with me when I was younger. I want to spend time now with my friends."

The x never even went to one basketball game or baseball game when my son was playing. He did "nothing" with my son. He did not even call him. And the few times he did pick him up, he left my son at his brother's house so he could go out and party. My son would call me crying and I'd go pick him up..

I am so glad you got back on your feet. I admire women who "make it" after a nasty divorce.

I've been divorced 12 or so years.. Maybe the lucky 13 by now?

Yes, he was physically abusive. I called the police 4 times. The 4th time was the last time as that is when we separated.

I think this is emotional abuse. He bought a house in the country, as not in a sub-division, anyway we did not have a phone for two years. My son had asthma and I'd have to go to the neighbors to use their phone to call the doctors. It was not because he did not have the money, he just did not want me to have access to a phone...He controlled the money. Did the grocery shopping. If I ran out of diapers, I had to wait till he got home, which was midnight. When I needed milk, he'd give me $2.00 which was not enough and I'd have to go back and ask him for 50 cents more. I was kind of stupid on that one, I could have bought a half a gallon of milk, but duh I did not think of it then. Just a few minor examples. It is the small things that add up that makes one go nuts...

oo yes, the tires on my car had no tread and he said it was all in my head, the tires were fine. The car would stall all the time, so he put it up on the rack, walked under the car, said there is nothing wrong with the car that I did not know how to drive it. So as I drove out of the parking lot, stalling several times, he would just laugh at me........

oooo my son had an asthma attack, he was around 4 at the time, anyway I went to the neighbors to call the doctor and he called in a prescription. the x would not get the prescription, so I had to drive to the gas station to get the money, then the prescription. Problem was it was in the middle of a snow storm. oo the defroster and wipers did not work, aand the windows kept freezing, so i had to pull off on the side of the road and clean the windows. every few feet I had to pull over. This guy stopped and was soo kind and asked me if I was ok..That is all I remember. I don't even remember where my son was or even if i got the prescription. Like a dead end memory.. just nothing... wild huh...

And then the verbal abuse, cussing at me and cutting me down . Nothing I ever did was right. I was nothing in his eyes. Bottom line, it was not a great marriage..

As for the money.. I don't want the money now. I needed it when I was a single parent. I have no desire to walk back in the "devil's pit" again.

This post is choppy .. hope it makes sense. later when i read it i pray i have not embarrassed myself ....

anyway, life is not always fair