therapist issues

Not sure if I'm posting this in the right section.......
I'm having major issues with my therapist.
I am required to see her once a week as part of my DBT.
She is a complete #@&*%!!!!
She is constantly putting words in my mouth and is always trying to find a crisis that just doesn't exist. She keeps telling me that I have been abused as a child, when Im quite confident that I wasn't. She has told me twice now that I have traumatised her, which has made me feel really bad, and she is always comparing me to her other clients. She calls my mum and tells her that i am suicidal, which upsets my mum greatly, when suicide is not even an issue. (Why she even needs to call my mum considering Im 25 is beyond me)
Therapy is becoming a massive ordeal as I'm spending the session trying to defend and justify myself instead of trying to improve my situation.
I want to ask for a new therapist but I have seen the hassle other people have gone through only to get no results.
I'd simply stop going but its a requirement of DBT that I have individual therapy and I don't want to stop going to the group therapy sessions cos I am finding them helpful.
I would love to hear anyone else's experiences or suggestions on where to go with this, cos I'm going crazy!!!

From what you wrote, it sounds as if you and your therapist may not be a good match. Sometimes you need to meet with several therapists before you find a good fit.

Can you bring up your concerns with your therapist and see if she can suggest ways to improve your therapy that deal with your concerns? Your concerns are very important and do need to be addressed if you are to continue productively with this therapist.

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She has told me twice now that I have traumatised her

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Inappropriate.

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She calls my mum and tells her that i am suicidal, which upsets my mum greatly, when suicide is not even an issue. (Why she even needs to call my mum considering Im 25 is beyond me)

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It sounds like she may be violating therapist-client confidentiality, an ethical breech. Please talk with her about this. I believe if suicide is an issue, she is obligated to contact someone who can help you (e.g. a hospital or in-patient clinic?). However, I don't think that even if suicide is an issue, she can call your mother, as you are an adult. Please make clear to her that she does not have your permission to contact your family members.

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I want to ask for a new therapist but I have seen the hassle other people have gone through only to get no results.

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Why is it a hassle? Is there a lot of red tape? Do you need to justify to your therapist's supervisor why you can't work with her?

There is a psychotherapy forum here on PC, and you may get some good advice if you post there. Some people there have experience with DBT.

Good luck. Sounds like a difficult situation.

Oh dear, I would seriously consider changing therapists in this instance silentlyscreaming.

She is not being professional by comparing you to other clients, putting words in your mouth, blabbing on to your mother & I cannot believe she says that you’ve traumatized her??!

Therapy shouldn’t be about defending yourself but having a companion on the journey – someone who is on your side, willing to listen to you, in many ways take cues from you but mostly respect you.

I really think you’d be better off with someone else. Yes, it can be a hassle at times (but not always) to ‘shop’ for a therapist but it *is* worth pursuing. After all, a good match between therapist-client goes a long way in establishing, and in assisting, the therapeutic relationship….

i'd go to the pyschotherapy forum here - read the posts from folks in therapy and how they relate to their therapists. i'm sure you'll see your therapist is WAY out of bounds!! i'd find a new one - you are worth it!

Thanx for the advice guys. I will definately check out the psychotherapy forum here.
The biggest thing that is making finding a new therapist harder is that this one has been provided by the people Im doing DBT through. Also because I live in a small town so the resources available are quite limited.
I've spoken to other people that I do DBT with and compared to some of the stories that they have told me about their individual therapists makes mine sound like an angel.
I put in a no show today, and 4 hours after my appointment, She hasn't got in touch.
So I'm faced with that fun question......Do I stay or do I quit??

If she's contacting your mother about you, you may have a legal right to sue.

I really think you need to find a new therapist.

The process is supposed to be confidential and it greatly concerns me that she is sharing information with your Mother when you are 25!

Take care.