[C2015]

My mom loves hurting me. A few years ago she was ripping me apart. I asked her if she was having fun she said yes. I was crying but that didn't matter to her.

The other day my mom said I disgust her, I make her sick, she has no respect for me & she called me Peter Pan. She did all this because I asked her for something. I asked could I have one of my birthday gifts early. I wanted a swim suit since it was on sale for $20 normally its $35. I owe her money which is why I can't buy it. She went on a rampage for 42 minutes.

I also confronted her about Florida. She has a place in Florida. She got me all excited about me going. Then when my sister was going I was supposed to ride with her. My mom desperately tried talking me out of coming. I confronted her about the other day when she went on a rampage. She got mad when I said admit it you don't want me there. Then when she went on and on about how awful I am I told her things like this chip away at my low self esteem. The second time I said it she said bye. She says I can't handle the truth. Well neither can she. Normally she says I love you when she hangs up she didn't that time. I haven't spoken to her since then. I have no desire to.

I instantly called my favorite aunt. She said I am nothing like my mom says I am. She said I am a very sweet person. She said I can handle the truth. She reminded how she once said by accident my weight problem isn't my stomach it's my hips. She instantly felt bad for saying it. She apologized several times. When she mentioned that the other day I told her I had forgotten about that. I was not mad when she said it since I know my aunt would never initially hurt me.

Several people said to not listen to my mom. That she was wrong and I'm not like that. For some reason the past few years my mom seems to hate me. It's probably because I stand up to her.

She was being hurtful the other day so I stood up for my self. I did get an attitude with her. Which she deserves for ripping me apart. I'm the only one with the guts to stand up to her and my step dad. I'm not afraid of either one. My sisters never do that. So many people are afraid of my step dad. I don't get it I'm not afraid of him. Usually I know how he will react over something. So I think that's why I don't mind standing up for myself.

My aunt said next time my mom starts saying awful things tell her goodbye and hang up. My aunt also said to not let her ruin my evening.

What should I do if my mom should ever called? Very rarely does my mom apologize for hurting me. I am always treated worse than my sisters. My sister is her favorite. I feel like all I am to my mom is something to take her anger out on. Once I confronted her about my sister being the favorite she of course denied it. Everyone but my mom knows my sister is the favorite.

[C2015]

I forgot to mention I am 33 and I live in my own.

[CoffeeJunkie2016]

I can relate my mother is the same way with me.. Sounds as if you need to walk away. Yes she is your mother but by the sounds of things she dosent act as one to you. Try and slowly detach yourself from her easier said than done I know. But you don't deserve to be torn apart by the one person who is suppose to love you unconditionally. Your mother had issues that she needs to deal with sounds like before your relationship could ever change. If she is not willing to take on any responsibility you can't make the relationship better. Distance yourself build up or own self esteem. That's the only advice I have for you.

I'm sorry about this

The best thing I ever did for my physical and emotional well-being was to kick my toxic family of origin (female parental unit included) to the curb!

It isn't easy, but it is doable!

Each day you put yourself back into their line of fire, the more damage they're doing to you!

Therefore, the sooner you make your break, the better it will be for you.

Again, it isn't easy, but it is doable ... And, I hope you find the courage & strength to free yourself from more of this senseless abuse!

Sincerely,
Pfrog!

[Marylin]

My only immediate family are narcissists two of them my mother and sister they had decided I wasn't useful to them anymore and since I own property worth money that they wanted to get their hands on they decided to drive me to suicide,by making me ill.They did this by entering my house without permission and gaslighting me the last time,and almost succeeded.The time before that they sent me a merry dance again by trashing my home,I endured 35 years of verbal,mental,emotional and psychological violence and cruelty from them.You are only 33,don't let the years go by getting abuse of your family do as pfrog did and I have just done kick them out of your life and don't ever look to bring them back in,you don't need them or if you do you need good physical and emotional health more.

[Celest Stone]

Originally Posted by Pfrog

The best thing I ever did for my physical and emotional well-being was to kick my toxic family of origin (female parental unit included) to the curb!

It isn't easy, but it is doable!

Each day you put yourself back into their line of fire, the more damage they're doing to you!

Therefore, the sooner you make your break, the better it will be for you.

Again, it isn't easy, but it is doable ... And, I hope you find the courage & strength to free yourself from more of this senseless abuse!

Sincerely,
Pfrog!

Hi I am new here and forgot to list relationship and family as a concern in my profile....actually my profile has a bit of my stuff there... I too had to cut off my mom as did my sibblings she was lying all the time to one of us about the other and trying to play us off she did it for years and years, until one day she got caught and we all agreed that we wouldn't play her game and we were happy sibblings again, now when she tries to start anything the first thing we do is resend her message to the next so that she can't deny what she does, but she still ends up being the one to hurt us the most. she goes through other family to do it and then it get worse. So i took a stand about 10mths ago and told her enough of the b/s and when she really needed help and was legitimately sick with proof call me until then i have no more to say to you. she claimed to be dying of cancer, then something else, but i was power of attornery at the time which she changes monthly, and the Dr said right in front of me you don't have cancer your a diabetic, and she said you do now anything I don't have diabetis and i do have cancer and left the hospital. all of us sibblings know she has a mental health problem and have tried to help her get the help she needs but no it is not that, we are the ones that are stupid and not listening to her short of it after 20yrs of this on and off I had enough. You did the right thing and hang in there it hard but if that parent is as my sis in law says toxic stay away cause they will suck you in and hurt you more. My real name is Joanne. my friends call me Jo I don't get on my laptop to much as i have health issues that get in the way at times, breathing, heart, and I am a cancer survivor of 5yrs so far..... take care and hope to chat again.

[Crazy Hitch]

You don't need her nonsense. I'd say remove the toxic relationship and move forward having very little to do with her for the time being.

[C2015]

Thank you everyone for your kind supportive words. So far it will be a week tomorrow since I haven't spoken to her. I am seeing my psychiatrist next Wednesday. I am telling him what she did. It is nice not hearing her hateful cruel words. Years ago she said she regretted the day I was born. I screamed at her so do I.

Years ago I took an overdose of sleeping pills. I nearly died I had to be taken to the er. Would you believe she made fun of my suicide attempt?

I'm caught up on the fact you made an assumption about the bathing suit

[Crazy Hitch]

Originally Posted by C2015

Thank you everyone for your kind supportive words. So far it will be a week tomorrow since I haven't spoken to her. I am seeing my psychiatrist next Wednesday. I am telling him what she did. It is nice not hearing her hateful cruel words. Years ago she said she regretted the day I was born. I screamed at her so do I.

Years ago I took an overdose of sleeping pills. I nearly died I had to be taken to the er. Would you believe she made fun of my suicide attempt?

Yes, sounds like something a really abusive person would do and I'm sorry you had to endure that.

[Shirt1212]

The best advice anyone ever gave me about my mom is "if she was a friend would you hesitate to go no contact." And honestly I have been cutting out people like my mom for years. I'm glad you are going to talk to some one, you don't deserve to hear these things especially from your mom. Mine likes to call me Peter Pan too, said I never wanted to grow up, basically because my idea of fun isn't her idea of fun.

Hugs hope your doing better.

[Marylin]

The worst thing in the world is to have a mother with a low opinion of you,who insists you obey her and are at her beck and call day and night meeting her every need and is ultra sensitive to what you say, defensively so but doesn't respect or care one iota about your feelings,does not empathize when she hurts you,feels no remorse and only says sorry when she needs to suck you in to do more of the same!

That is toxic and very damaging,to self esteem,confidence,trust and emotional and psychological health.She is your mother does that justify keeping contact with her when she has neglected you from the age of 5 and harmed your emotional health,caused you emotional distress and driven you to suicide.

Have this woman in my life?Certainly not,feel any remorse or regret for cutting her out of my life,none, feel responsible or worry about her welfare,not anymore!

I come first and that is the bottom line from now on.I hope this helps you see you are important cos narcissistic mothers always ensure you put them first and grant them more importance than you do for yourselves.That is no way to live.

[Seablisse]

Originally Posted by Pfrog

The best thing I ever did for my physical and emotional well-being was to kick my toxic family of origin (female parental unit included) to the curb!

It isn't easy, but it is doable!

Each day you put yourself back into their line of fire, the more damage they're doing to you!

Therefore, the sooner you make your break, the better it will be for you.

Again, it isn't easy, but it is doable ... And, I hope you find the courage & strength to free yourself from more of this senseless abuse!

Sincerely,
Pfrog!

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I kicked all toxic ones to the curb myself and cut them completely out of my life. Best thing I have ever done..... Ahhh the peace now!