I know this is a rant and I know the obvious answers to this non-question...

I really really get frustrated being the only person in my house to see problems that need fixing...

Dumb stuff...like a leaky faucet. Cheap stuff, like clearing out the garage. Expensive stuff like renovation.

Why am I the only one to SEE them? I have tried leaving things hoping someone else will notice and maybe take action to deal with them. I have tried complaining that I seem to be the only one to notice them.

Why am the only one to take initiative? We live together.

I'm so effing tired. I'm so effing sick of being the one to complain. I'm so effing tired of dealing with stuff myself. I'm so effing tired of nobody noticing.

[TishaBuv]

You are not the only one to SEE, you are just the only one who CARES. That's my situation, too. I feel you.

You are not alone in this respect. I finally got pretty good at turning a wrench and lifting a hammer. I figured at least half of the stuff was my responsibility anyway.

I do most of the work.

I do simple plumbing, some electric, I paint, I repair, I can drywall....I know how to use a mitre saw....I'm really pretty handy. I know how to put things away. I know how to clean things out and donate.
For those things I cannot do, I know how to pick up the phone...

But I'm kinda sick of being the one who SAYS, lets get this and that done...I don't really get putting things in a closet that should have gone to Goodwill....I don't understand ignoring things. I wasn't raised that way. Why do the boring things in life get left until I have a meltdown?? Why do I have to have a meltdown in order for things to change?? Why do I have to appear to be bat-shyt crazy?

"Accept the things you cannot change" does not feel good...



Is there a way to learn NOT to care?

Sorry.

Massive upset.

Massive rant.

Minor in the grand scheme of things, I know. I am a lucky woman, really. I get that I am.

[divine1966]

I hear you. My fiancée is good in doing things around the house BUT most of the time he does it only when I point it out. If I don't point it out he wouldn't know to do it. He often asks " what needs to be done". Well it's nice he asks but we live together so why do I know what needs to be done and he doesn't?

I agree that in a long scheme of things this isn't a big deal but I know it's exhausting. Sending you hugs.

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I think it's part of being a woman! In England, some men say why run after a bus when you've caught it. It's tiring but it won't be forever. Things change as people get older and when kids leave. Their attention is on themselves for now. Hugs!

[barbella]

Yes, I know this one as well.

[Crazy Hitch]

For some reason or other the first thing that came to mind was this poem I remember reading when I was in High School. Here it is:

That’s Not My Job

This is a story about four people named Everybody, Somebody, Anybody and Nobody.

There was an important job to be done and Everybody was sure that Somebody would do it.
Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it.
Somebody got angry about that, because it was Everybody’s job.
Everybody thought Anybody could do it, but Nobody realized that Everybody wouldn’t do it.
It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody when Nobody did what Anybody could have.

It really sucks that you've been put in this position and I'm not surprised you're feeling somewhat frustrated.

I understand where you are coming from. Sometimes I think I am the only one to see something that needs to be done. I think some things don't hit a person's radar.

For me, it's visual things. I hate clutter and I like things to be clean. I think I have a more sensitive "radar." I feel like it needs to be done now. I usually do it myself.

[Ceridwen18]

I'm in the same boat. I feel for you. I used to get really frustrated, then angry. Why? Why? Why? Here's a German saying for you: Warum ist die banana krum? Why is the banana crooked?
Nobody knows (except maybe some super brainy plan geneticist!)
I've learnt to issue orders, and be tough about it.
Clothes on the floor get thrown into the yard. Game controllers left lying around "disappear"....
I have a partner who is a slob, and two teenage boys who can't get their noses away from screens. I disable the internet, and I tell them what needs to be done.
It doesn't solve the problem, no....the problem is that I/you/we are the only ones who notice! But it gets it done...
I guess I just accepted that I'm the only one who really cares, they don't and I can't make them, so I'm not going to waste energy trying.
Happier house!
And I only threw the clothes off the back deck twice

[hvert]

You are definitely not alone...

My favorite is when the way I've taken care of something is critiqued when I am the only one doing it.