relationship and communciaton

Dear someone.,
I am very depressed tonight and wish some advice. My daughter is home with her new daughter, I offered to help and I am going to help this coming Friday. But, i found out from my Mother that my daughter told her I wasn't coming to help and she did want me to help. But, my daughter tells me to come and help her on Friday. This is not the first time the cycle has happened between us. I don't khow whom to believe in this conversation. I have walk this fence before and i tell myself not to get hurt again. I love my new grandaughter and my daughter what should I do or think. Help me

Hello Cathy!
Congratulations on your new Grand daughter! Please do not be worried about hearsy...any concerns you may have will be settled through communication with your daughter directly. Think positive, let the love flow. You never know, maybe even being busy with helping around will make you feel so good inside! Let the new cycles begin...ask for the old cycles to be left behind. A new birth always is a new beginning. Bless you and take care!

Missywoo,
That does sound very sensible. I am going to go with the flow and this new birth maybe a new beginning for me and my daughter. This new granddaughter is just beautiful.
Thank You
Cathy56

Just wanted to say Congratulations on the new grand-daughter

I've recently started taking care of my god-daughter during the day while her mom is at work, and being around a young one has helped me alot...I hope it does the same for you

Take care



<font color=purple>Pain can indeed be a beautiful thing</font color=purple>

I read your reply and thank you. I have enjoyed taking care and doing things for my new granddauther and Daughter. It is nice to get close to my daughter again like it should be.. This is all worth it. I under how you can love doing the helping part.
Thanks again for telling me your short story.
Cathy56

Having a third party in the communication is not always a good idea. Let the messages flow between your daughter and you, and leave your mother out of it. If your mother tells your that your daughter told her that....sounds like a potential opportunity for manipulation to me.
Talk to your daughter and listen to your daughter, the others are not needed messengers .... This should keep your relationship healthy with both your mother and your daughter.

gab

Gloria,
You are the second person to tell me about this cycle of manuiplation and that was my spouse. I am trying not to get into anymore of this happenings. I keep to myself what is said because it a good communication between my daughter and I now. My mother has been this way for years. She has been so used to doing this to me or anyone else. I am doing good so far. I and my daughter are enjoying our company and my new granddaughter.
Thank you
Cathy56