Why me? 😔

Hi I haven't been here in a while but I'm struggling
I have been going to this church and I started liking this man
I really don't want to fall for someone in the same social environment bc things get awkward when they don't work out.
The main problem is that he looks like he is in his early 40 and I am 24.
I find him so attractive it's everything I want in a man he has a heart for God, he is so funny and so smart he speaks 3 languages , he's so confident the opposite of me. I feel intimidated that I barely talk to him. He is divorced. I don't even know if he likes me.
But I'm falling for the perfect wrong man. I see no future because I'm nowhere near his level of maturity. He is older and divorced I don't know how I feel about
That. Why do I want someone I can't have!
I always fall for the wrong man I don't know why. Please advice
Should I leave church before making a stupid mistake
Should I date someone else to get my mind off of him.
Should I not avoid him and see how things turn out?
I kinda feel like he likes Me or it could possibly be my imagination.
I'm so lost. This might totally inappropriate but I had a dream that he and I were making love.
Please help me!

I worry my advise wouldn't be good so I'm refraining from commenting right now. I just wanted you to know I read your post and I'm thinking about the situation. If my thoughts clear and I feel I have good advise I will come back and let you know. (((Hugs)))

My thoughts on your questions Karlam -

Should I leave church before making a stupid mistake?

No. Nothing's happened. No reason to leave.

Should I date someone else to get my mind off of him.

No. This is never a good reason to start a new relationship. If you're going to date someone, date someone because you're wanting to start a new relationship, not because you're using your date as a decoy for your feelings.

Should I not avoid him and see how things turn out?

I wouldn't suggest avoiding him.

Impossible to say if he "likes" you - he doesn't even know you and you're probably hiding and aloof around him.

You have one of 2 choices:-

(a) Listen to your intuition and some of the reasons that you have stated for not starting / contemplating / even thinking about entering a relationship with him

(b) Try to get to know him better through mutual friends at the church; maybe a bible study class you two can go to or something

Thank you so much for replying.
My question is if I go with choice a and listen to my intuition
In order to do that I have to avoid him so that my feelings will die down for him
Because being around him just makes me want to hug and tell him how I feel
I can't get him out of my head it's been months now.
He approaches me and starts random conversations but he does that to a lot of people he is so smooth and iam extremely shy. He asked me for my facebook but I gave him my instagram bc I don't have facebook.

If he was younger and never married I would be with in a heartbeat.
I'm a wreck

Maybe go for coffee after services sometime?

There are things to consider about dating an older man. The first challenge is, does he have children? You must be prepared that you would always come second. Are you prepared to be a parent and take on the responsibilities? Interests may be different. While this can provide some excitement it may pass; but be prepared to make some concessions here (just as he ought to make some to you). Similarly different generations have differing responsibilities and priorities. And, to put it bluntly, an older man may have an ulterior motive for dating a young woman.

Still, with some work and understanding, it could be successful

He has no children and for some reason it came up on our conversation that he doesn't want any.. I don't want any either at the moment but who knows I might change my mind..
I think the best choice is to forget about him I will get over him somehow. He's too good for me.

"He's too good for me". <----I don't believe that for a second. You are obviously intelligent by how you are thinking things through. You seem very sweet and caring too. Don't sell yourself short. (((Hugs)))

choosing not to pursue or try with someone for reasons such as "he/she is too good for me" is entirely the wrong reason to make a decision. But then it's a matter of perspective, and your own self worth that comes into play here. Something that probably won't change by any amount of people telling you that you shouldn't think that way.

but I will say this. In matters of love, do you honestly think that relationships are built based on people deserving each other? This seems to be a performance based idealogy as if someone should not be with someone else if they are not at some abstract and unrealistic ideal of goodness. Which is not true. Rarely do we actually fall for people that we are perfectly equal to or deserve and vice versa.

No one is all good nor all bad.

I fear that you might be idolizing this person too much though and that's worth considering. Why do you think he's so much more valuable than you?

Hello thank you for the reply.
To your question I don't think he's more valuable
Just has way more knowledge not that it's a bad thing but I'm gonna feel dumb
When in deep conversations
Or more like social class he's high and I'm low.
But anyways he probably doesn't even like me like that so. I will just try to forget about him.