[TheBoredOne]

What is the point of having friends if every time you hang out with a friend(at your house or theirs) all they wanna do is sit on the couch eat/ watch tv/ text and post on social media? None of my friends like doing anything except those things and when I try to talk to them while they're doing it they give me a rude look and ignore me.

[MickeyCheeky]

Probably because they don't know what else to do..

[NewCommer]

Are you sure they're your friends?

[leejosepho]

Friends are people who enjoy each other as well as enjoying things they do together. If you are not enjoying the things some people do, try doing something different to see who might be there to enjoy that different something with you.

One time at lunch with family, I noticed a young lady sitting at a table alone. Her friend/relative jointed her and they greeted each other as if it had been quite a while since they had seen each other.

They individually spent the entire following hour or so with their faces staring at their phones, thumbs twitching...

They said nothing to each other.

It was really sad.

I would put the word out that you would like to have an electronic-free afternoon with someone. Make it a "thing"....

Well, look on the bright side - it's not a bad relationship. It's just not so active. It's ok.
It can take some effort, but hobbies can be forged. You can even play video games. The important thing is to do activities you all love to do, together.

[TishaBuv]

When I was growing up, we weren't allowed in the house, there were no cell phones/ computers, and if you wanted to play video games you had to go to an arcade. We were all over town. We got in a lot of trouble, but we had a great time. Memories we still talk about.

[Cyllya]

Allies? A support network? I don't have friends for the purpose of hanging out. Sometimes we do hang out, but that's never my goal when I make a friend.

As the above might suggest, I've got little experience planning group recreation... but I'm going to take a wild guess and suggest you might have better luck getting people to do something more fun if you plan it in advance. Don't just go to one of your houses with no plan and then try to spring something on them.

Originally Posted by sophiesmom

One time at lunch with family, I noticed a young lady sitting at a table alone. Her friend/relative jointed her and they greeted each other as if it had been quite a while since they had seen each other.

They individually spent the entire following hour or so with their faces staring at their phones, thumbs twitching...

They said nothing to each other.

It was really sad.

What's sad about that? Some of my nicest lunches with a friend have been pretty much like this. Not everybody likes chit-chat.

Well, Cylla, I am a human being. I'm right there.

To me, if I want to have lunch (or spend time) with you, I want to spend my time WITH YOU rather than whatever is on the other side of the screen. It's my priority.

If your "nicest lunches" are spent with your phone, then that's your own preference and priority.

Hugs to you.

[Scotty204]

It's really annoying how people these days are glued to their phones. When I'm out with friends I put my phone away out of respect. How important can it be really to check your social media...honestly

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by Cyllya

Allies? A support network? I don't have friends for the purpose of hanging out. Sometimes we do hang out, but that's never my goal when I make a friend.

As the above might suggest, I've got little experience planning group recreation... but I'm going to take a wild guess and suggest you might have better luck getting people to do something more fun if you plan it in advance. Don't just go to one of your houses with no plan and then try to spring something on them.


What's sad about that? Some of my nicest lunches with a friend have been pretty much like this. Not everybody likes chit-chat.

So many people have 'friends' because of motives other than genuinely they just like that person and want to be with them. Their friends are for the purpose of their own gain, business contacts. I have a really hard time with that, and that is why my business, which is a people service business, isn't thriving. I just refuse to be, what I feel, is a user.

Why bother going to lunch with someone only to talk with others on your cell phones? That is so rude. If I am with a person who keeps going on their phone, I won't see them again.

[bluejewelll]

Originally Posted by TheBoredOne

What is the point of having friends if every time you hang out with a friend(at your house or theirs) all they wanna do is sit on the couch eat/ watch tv/ text and post on social media? None of my friends like doing anything except those things and when I try to talk to them while they're doing it they give me a rude look and ignore me.

I don't think your friends have learned manners and they may not want to learn any. I would hang out with them knowing that this is what will go on. Sometimes, I wish I was able to have a friend where I could just sit with them in a room and not talk. So I, myself, wouldn't stop being friends with them, I would just hang with them when I was in need of quiet time.