[Angel_baby]

i love my boyfriend very much, but all of a sudden he stoped calling me, and replying to my e-mails, my best friend stacy e-mailed him and he told her that he needed "space" but y couldn't he have just told me, he also told her a bunch or other stuff, that i didn't know, y is he talking to her and not me? i can't deal with this, i have so much [censored] going on as it is

[curlyq]

Sorry to hear he is acting that way and not having the decency to tell you instead of her. I know I would be upset about it. I don't know what else to say really but I hope you will be able to find the answers you need. Men!!

<font color=purple>Peace to you. CQ and the babies.</font color=purple>

<font color=green>"I am beginning to learn that it is the sweet, simple things of life which are the real ones after all."
- Laura Ingalls Wilder
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[Angel_baby]

ya i know and he also told her that he's steril, not me but my best friend, i just don't know what to do, everytime i try and get close he pushes me farther away

[curlyq]

I know it can be hard but if he keeps pushing you away maybe you need to distance yourself from him, for your own sake. It really hurts to be pushed away all the time and it can hurt your self esteem if you try harder to get close after that. It can make you feel like "what's wrong with me?" You are okay and lovable but you deserve someone who will love you back. Think about it, okay?

<font color=purple>Peace to you. CQ and the babies.</font color=purple>

<font color=green>"I am beginning to learn that it is the sweet, simple things of life which are the real ones after all."
- Laura Ingalls Wilder
</font color=green>

[Angel_baby]

the hardest part is that he used to tell me he loves me, even in the ast e-mail he sent me, i just wish i could at least talk to him, just to know whats going on

[curlyq]

Sometimes people will tell us what's going on and sometimes they won't, I've found. What about writing him a letter, not an email, and just telling him that it is important to you to know what is happening between the two of you, and ask him if something has gone wrong. If it were I, after I wrote how I felt about what's going on I would ask for a reply. It's hard not knowing what's going on and waiting and wondering. I know it could hurt even more what he says (if he answers) or maybe something is going on you are not aware of.

How long have you known him? Just curious here. I know that love can be almost instant sometimes, too.

<font color=purple>Peace to you. CQ and the babies.</font color=purple>

<font color=green>"I am beginning to learn that it is the sweet, simple things of life which are the real ones after all."
- Laura Ingalls Wilder
</font color=green>

[Angel_baby]

he finaly wrote back to me, but he didn't specify anything about "us" he said that he's in dept and he ows his parents money, both of wich i already knew, i'v offered him money just so he can pay off some of his bills, but he won't take it, i probeby wouldn't have taken it either, but then again he reay needs the money, he told my friend that there's a warrent for his arrest cuz he has fines to pay off that he can't afford, i'v known him since june and we hve been dating for2 months (the 10th), when we met there was a really strong bond between us, i'v never trusted anyone like i trust him, i have a lot of trust issues due to my past, i sent him back a really long e-mail, most of it didn't even make sence, i just wish he would let me help him, it's so hard loving someone so much and not being able to be there for them

[CarmenMCL]

I have been there exactly where you are now. you have known him for 2 months and you really care about him. Mine went the same way he told me I love I want you to be with but I have all these problems. Sound Familar? Except with me I found he another girlfriend who was pregnant and living with his parents and lets not forget his wife who he has not divored yet either.While all this is going on he is telling me I want to have a baby with you. I was 15. This may not be your life butit could be. I knew my husband ever since I was a child. Granted he was a teenager then and we went our seperate ways until years later. Maybe you need to give him space and let him make his own descecion. Just like some famous poet once said ' If you let it go and it return then it was meant to be' You can't force some one to be with you they will wind up hating you in the long run I know.

[Angel_baby]

actually i'v known hom for 4 but we've been dating for 2, but the first 2 i knew him we only talked on the phone and the net, then we met and started going out, his living situation is really ackward, he dated this girl for a few months and she ived with him, then she dumped him for his brother, and now she ives with in in the next room, at first i had a huge problem with that, but i like her we have a lot in common, but i'm 16 and he's 20 and i think part of the problem is that i scared hem really bad, i thought i might have been pregnant and i told him, but when he went to the doctor we found out that he can't have kids, i think that might be part of his problem, i know when he gets older and gets his life in order he wants to have kids, and maybe knowing thaat he might not ever be able to hurts him, i know it would hurt me, but he did tell me he loves me, and when he first said it i didn't really say anything, i was to scared to, i have a really bad dating history lol, but the next day i looked in his eyes and i fell so hard for him, when he wrote me he didn;t sigh the letter like he normally does with "i love you" or "love always, carl" he said "ttly, carl" i was so upset by that, it was like someone had put a bullet in my heart, i'm still waiting to see if he writes back to me again, i asked him whats going on with us, the waiting is killing me, he might not get on till 5am, and i have to be up at 8 lol, but i need to talk to him the matter how little sleep i get

[Angel_baby]

well i didn't stay up lol i was way to tired for that lol, but he sent me an e-mail and he said he wants to be friends i was really upset about it, but thats besides the point right now, i was taking to my friend about the whole sitution and she said that she would talk to him, so i gave her his sn and then a few hours ago i talked to her and she showed me the convo and he made up so many lies about me when he was takling to her, he told her that i lied to him and that he "basicaly told me to ***** off" y would he do this to me

[CarmenMCL]

right now it hurts I know it does it took me months to get over to get over the scrumbag with the wife and girlfriend but you will. Eventually, you will find that some one who makes you feel whole I did and the funny thing was I wasn't even looking. For now just enjoy being young and single don't worry about guy for there will be many of them to come.
Carmen

[Angel_baby]

i think i'm going to stay single for a long while, i'm sick of guys walking all over me

[jsc1972]

some people are scared to tell the truth. or they create a new truth to manipulate others with.... it's in human nature to tell the story in one's own perspective. i tend to believe EVERYONE HAS AN AGENDA....the question is, what is it?

what if Stacy is telling him things and you things that are not true? i'm not trying to say Stacy is untrustworthy, but that, because you were not there during the conversation you do not know what was truly said between those two.

try LISTENING more, reacting less. time tends to sort out these problems.

<font color=purple> But a stranger in a strange land, he is no one:
men know him not and to know not is to care not for.
Bram Stoker, Dracula, 1897 </font color=purple>

[Angel_baby]

stacy isn't very trustworthy, but i know that she hasn't been because i'v read al the convos without eithr of them knowing, but i'm done with him, me and his one friend got along well and now he hates me cuz yet again carl lied about me

[amandaheelen]

You're going to shoot me for this but try leaving him alone. Give him the space. He has to miss you. Just go with me on this one. Get busy. Break a date (not something I typically recommend, but int his case, very necessary. Become unavailible but don't just tell him you're busy. actually be busy. go to the movies with a friend or have a girls night out. or say he doesn't like bowling. it would be a good time to go do that. When a man says he wants space it means you are crowding him. Use your new found spare time to do things you enjoy that he doesn't. He has your contact info and will contact you when he misses you. and if he doesn't it's his loss.