A Promising First Date on OKCupid!

Last night I went out to a local bar to meet up with someone that I had reached out to on OKCupid. His profile was very well done, insightful and genuine and his personality shone through. He has a charming, "Meet-the-Parents" appearance and a long beard and very attractive. There wasn't much discussion online, he asked me out and I chose the bar. All the times I've been to this bar it has been quiet, but it was Friday and karaoke night on top of it, so it was extremely loud, bright flashes of light, and packed with people. Big crowds and loud activities make me extremely uncomfortable, but there was nothing he did wrong, in fact he kept the conversation going, and the crowd was in a good mood and I had a great time despite the crowd and the noise. He even sang Metallica and Sublime in karaoke and we spent a good chunk of the night outside on the back patio talking. We both realized the venue wasn't the best for a first date, but he promised me we'll have a better first date getting a cup of coffee and I told him I still enjoyed myself and enjoyed meeting him.

Yay me!

Yay you!

How fun!!

I think after a few dates I wouldn't mind going back and trying my hand at karaoke. I absolutely love karaoke and I've done karaoke at bars before but with friends. Not that I was afraid of making a fool of myself last night, I wanted to focus on the first date and get to know him and I was happy watching him sing. But yes, next time I'll be up there singing.

That's great to hear!

I see a head banging duet in your future.

My next karaoke date song line up!

1. Rubber Biscuit, The Blues Brothers


2. Somebody to Love, The Blues Brothers


3. Shake Your Tail Feather, The Blues Brothers FT Ray Charles


And if I have time

4. Dragula, Rob Zombie


5. Candy Man, Christina Aguilera


Yes, I love, love, love karaoke, and I'm over the moon to find someone who isn't too embarrassed to make a fool of himself and sing and have a good time.

Yay!!! Well done you for getting out there. You're an inspiration. You stuck it out despite the initial hurdle of the venue not being as planned.
I would probably have lost it and ran home.
Thank You.

P.s, hope your mum is doing better.

It took all my effort not to run and ruin the date. I'm terrified of crowds, especially at a bar where people are drunk because they act stupid and fight. I overheard a couple antagonizing comments not directed at me or my date, but overall the crowd was very happy. Drunk and wasted, but everyone enjoyed themselves and were singing and dancing along to the tone-deaf karaoke. The loudness made it very hard to hear, and I was very overwhelmed, but I reminded myself that I was on a date and to think of it like an interview for a prospective boyfriend. I would be off-putting if I complained or acted moody because I was uncomfortable, so I put all my focus into enjoying the date and I turned it around and made it a positive experience. Out of two hours of tone-deaf karaoke, two girls were actually amazing. One girl did a spot-on breathtaking performance of "Part of Your World" from the Little Mermaid and even the police officers who were acting security cheered and clapped for her. My date did a good performance of Metallica, and when Guns n Roses came on he gushed about how he would spend hours and hours playing the guitar riff and that Slash was his inspiration to continue playing. I have a bad habit of running away from my problems, so I'm very proud I stuck it out despite being overwhelmed and out of the house way past bedtime.

Attitude is everything!

How nice it is to just have fun in the experience, enjoying it just for what it is.

I love that simplicity, before issues arise, before having to deal with disappointments. I wish it would last like that forever.

How do we keep things simple and happy like your first karaoke date?

I don't know. I've never been in a relationship. I'm going to wait until we're in a relationship before sex. Sex is a big issue for me. I've had guys wave the "Let's be BF/GF" and then "change their mind" after sex. So my goal is to take things slow.

I didn't go in with any expectations, nor did I try to fantasize or worry if he's "the one". I was surprised when I walked in and met him and he gave me a big hug as if I he'd known me forever, and we hugged as we departed. We never talked sex. We didn't talk past relationships. It wasn't an interrogation of "let's see how compatible we are", and we just let the conversation run it's course and simply enjoyed each other's company.

I think that's great! Maybe something more will come with him, maybe he'll be a karaoke friend and introduce you to someone else who something more will happen with...

That's right, don't jump into bed. If he liked you, he'll be calling within a few days and asking you out for a more intimate date like dinner.

Just don't forget the first rule of dates arranged on OKCupid:

Always
Wear a
Blade.

We're meeting tomorrow for coffee as a second "first date"! <3

Have fun!

Glad to here you're doing well!

Great stuff LL

My date went really well. We met up for coffee and spent a few hours talking. We walked around town and went into a couple music shops and talked music and he bought a ukelele to take backpacking. He's actually quite the gentleman. I've gone into these dates without expectations and just enjoy each other's company. I don't feel rushed or pressured and he hasn't even mentioned sex or slobber all over me like some other guys have done. I think we're both on the same page of taking things slow which is really nice.

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He sounds like a class act

I thought I'd have more to say about my date, but he's very promising. Got his life figured out, he's an entrepreneur of multiple businesses that are all really cool like breweries and web design. He's very laid back but he's into philosophical conversations, and we have a lot in common.

EDIT: I think I'm just very tired. I've had a very intense week. But I really like this guy and he likes me, and there's no rush or pressure and so far so good, and I told him I'd be up for karaoke sometime.

Awesomeness
Sounds like it could be an adventure!

I don't think this is working out. He hasn't made any effort to contact me. In fact, I've messaged him twice. A few days ago I messaged him and he didn't want to hang out because he caught a cold. And then today I messaged him and he was busy working. But no effort from him to contact me. So this isn't looking good.

I broke it off with him. No point in dating if he takes no interest in me.

I'm really sorry that it did not work out.