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Hi all.....I just keep thinking , what if everyone stopped lying about things ?
I hate lying. But it seems like life can't continue without it. I know how much the truth can hurt. But if we didn't lie from the get-go wouldn't that just prevent much future pain and suffering ? I guess we're wired the way we are for a reason. Imagine what chaos being able to read other people's true thoughts would cause ? How much chaos and pain would it prevent though. It's hard to communicate effectively when the other party is holding back their true thoughts. Just thought I'd throw this out there. See , if I can accept the fact that people will lie for whatever reason , I can accept reality and greatly lessen my disappointment in people. ![]()
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#2
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A truth that's told with bad intent
Beats all the lies you can invent. --William Blake |
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#3
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Not the best to answer, but, hey... I'm either brutally honest or lie, but only when I believe that it's easier and kinder for all and, I'd say that it's more or less accepted for people to lie in communications with others....that's truly my observation. Possibly I am very cynical.
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People, in general, tell a lot of "white lies." We are socialized to think white lies are just fine. It keeps the peace.
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I am a firm believer in integrity and character and part of that for me is honesty. Dishonesty really bothers me. Having said that, 'brutal' honesty (just the facts mam) is not my style either. A lie by omission is also a lie in my book. Like the previous poster, I believe white lies keep the peace. What would you say to a child who shows you a special drawing that's not attractive? Are you honest as you interpret it and cause a psychological scar? What if your best friend asks if he/she is unattractive? Am I making any sense? I believe in honesty very much but I will tell a white lie so as not to wound.
I don't know if being able to read minds would be a good thing or not. It certainly would create chaos. |
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Say something like "Not to me!" while saying nothing at all about his or her physical attributes (assuming that is what is meant here by "attractive"). Even though I cannot say I never do it, I believe that is never necessary. Instead, I try to go more for something like "selective disclosure" as long as that does not include being deceptive or self-serving.
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In my experience the lies of omission hurt worse than the lies to my face.
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Sometimes I agree.
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