relationship virgin in my 30is

Not sleeping with others is just common decency imho. Not necessarily a commitment. Plus he doesn't want to be referred as BF. It's not a commitment. And he is not over his ex.

So what exactly is going on now? Is he calling you daily? Wants to see you? You are going on dates? What's really happening?

so what would you do call a commitment, at this stage?? no im on holidays since that "commitment talk", which we made 2 days before i left. hes not calling daily, but i keep waiting for his intiatives, he texted me a4 days after i left, than we skyped for 2 hours, and than texted the days after.. i waited for him intiate the next text, and it came after 5 days. asking how im doing informing me he past a driving test etc about his past days. this was yeday, and i didnt answer. im thinking what to do, i dont wanna give a "buisness as usual" atmosphere, but i DO not want to make the closer talk on skype, if i do decide to break up with him (which i probably will) i do want to make it as meaningful as possible, to get as honest feedback as possible from him, and to let him know that i was vulnruble infront of him for confessing about my "virginity" , and perhaps if i need some to do some appologising myself, bcs i know he gut hurt from me too.

thank you bill, this is very supportive. you do have a point, although, its not "who he is", its where were at.
i guess my wish now is to get a serious look inside myself, to search what made me reject him in the begining, when he WAS indeed acting like he really likes me. was it my defence and fear of leting someone get close, OR was it actually a very sharp instinct that i somehow picked that hes not really available bcs hes heartbrocken? (he did mention the ex who left him at the begining but it was few words and didnt sound so traumatic, and i had the impression it was a bit longer ago than it actually was..
i honestly didnt imagine i could ever develop warm feelings for him, and that is a heck of a lesson for me. bcs he was very kind to me, and gentlmen. like i mentioned along the thread- i have major insecurities for never having a long term BF.
and its the reason ive been avoiding relationships all along. the other day, one friend suggested that next time id better just tell a white lie(like that ive had couple of bfs but long time ago..) when i start dating someone,and than if i see that he actually is someone for the long term, id tell him. she said, its just taking all the attention inside of me, the fear of when and how i will "out" myself about it, and possibly be rejected bcs of it. when actually there are SO many other important things the guy cares about when he gets to know me, and i should care about when i get to know him, that has nothing to do with my virginty, but just who we are and what kind of comunication we have togather. what do you think about this idea?