People suck

Friends and family think they know me when they really don't and it's frustrating when you have a hard time expressing yourself and even if I did say something they wouldn't believe me. I can't talk to anyone because of this. I just don't understand how people can just jump to conclusions so easily without thinking first. I think first before saying something. I try to look at every possible side I can think of before I make a decision. But obviously some people don't even try. They just say the first thing that pops into thier head and believes it without questioning it. No one will ever understand me or know who I am cause of this. There's just a bunch of stuff that would take a lot of explaining to do so they could see who I really am. I've always wanted people to understand me but that will never happen cause people suck. My dreams of people knowing who I am and understanding me have been crushed and now I feel alone cause of it. I thought part of having relationships with people was getting to know them. But I'll never be known because I'm bad at expressing myself and so I'll always be alone.

I'm sorry you feel this way. I think many people here can relate.

(((hugs))). I am very sorry for your pain. Do you have a therapist? This is something you could work on with one, i.e., how to express yourself so that you can feel understood better and not judged.

Many people do jump to conclusions without all the necessary info, and can misjudge a person and a situation because of that. It's a part of human nature. Also, my mother says things without thinking a lot of the time, and it drives me crazy, so I can relate. She has no filter. Some people are like this. And many people act without thinking. However, I believe it is each person's own responsibility to make themselves understood by those closest to them, but when it's hard to express yourself, it's becomes more challenging and can be isolating.

This can be worked on though.... you could approach it by saying you feel misunderstood, and then correct the misconceptions by saying how it really is, with any given situation. It's well worth the effort to correct them, even if you have a lot to explain. That way, you won't feel so alone and so discouraged.

A question for you: why do you think they won't believe you?

I'm sorry you feel this way. Not all people are like this. I call the good people diamonds in the rough. I agree with golden eve that a therapist could be a real game changer here. Best wishes.

And people say "confidence" is good

There are just times when I try to say something about myself and people act like it's not true. I mean I can't be mad at someone for not believing something just because I said it but they shouldn't just believe what ever they say either. I think people miss read me sometimes. I've even been told I can be hard to read.

Hmm, I find that providing specific examples helps to back up my statements so that they are more believable and more easily understood. When you can provide examples of what you are trying to explain about yourself, it's harder for people to misunderstand and misjudge. Perhaps that will help? And perhaps you hold your cards close to you out of self protection if you are hard to read? Many people do this... it is common and I think is self protective.

Well that makes sense. It's just hard to explain things sometimes and it's also hard to tell people things because you could easily just start doubting yourself because you want to try and understand what they're saying. So it's like you said it can be out of self protection. But I do try to explain things to them. It's just sometimes the words aren't there when you need them the most and you have to learn how to explain things better. But there's this one paticular person who I just don't think I can get through to because he thinks he's always right. My psychology teacher told me once that no matter how well you explain something it just takes a while for people to see your perspective. I don't know if that really makes any sense but then again I guess it does. Maybe they need time to understand it from thier perspective or maybe they weren't even trying in the first place. I still think people should learn to explain things in the best way pissible. Maybe the more complicated you make it the better. But then maybe they would have a hard time understanding it. So then you can try to simplify it.

Yes, you can try to simplify things. When you want to try and understand someone else, you could always ask them, "so as I understand it, this is what I hear you saying.. am I accurate?" This helps to get clarity and understanding, and they can correct you where you may have misunderstood. Same goes the other way... you could tell someone, "I have a hard time explaining myself.. do you think you understand what I am trying to tell you?"

And some people just don't think from another's perspective at all. They're the hardest ones to get through to. With those people, I don't even bother trying. Or, as you said, they may need to time to let it sink in.

Hello, I get it. There are only a few people I truly trust. The rest are just ships in the night. The nice thing is you can always write out how you feel and get it out. Today I had a really rude comment by someone. Some people just think they are above you and are allowed to be rude. Its there terrible bad life that they are living with for them to think they can act like that. Moral is, they suck, you don't and be happy.