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Yes but the fact that I stayed with the employer for 5.5 years makes it a little better.
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#202
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How does getting fired after 5.5 years for cause make anything better?
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![]() What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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Ruby, you've been fired from your last two jobs. Please talk to your counselor about how to handle your emotions better and be more professional at work. Last edited by Anonymous40643; Jul 04, 2018 at 12:25 PM. |
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Well, that's good news, right? That you've returned back to work.
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At Sam's Club, my supervisor said I was behaving professionally before March. I really wasn't doing anything bad then. After March, I did all sorts of things she didn't know about. She only knew about 2 incidents (swearing on the salesfloor and crying on salesfloor), out of countless. That was enough for consequences to happen. |
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My coworker from McDonald's where I worked back in 2009 been canned for her outside life interfering with work. She had since been rehired. Another coworker at Walmart been fired bc a manager didn't like him for no good reason. He has also been rehired. I'm back at McDonald's after 8 long years bc my records said I quit and nothing else. |
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She likely knew about all other issues. You can’t behave poorly in hopes that management doesn’t know. They usually do know. |
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![]() What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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I’ve been following this whole thread, keeping quiet and it’s driving me nuts. Good grief-it’s like beating a dead horse.
Ruby, it’s simple. Go to work. Do your job. Keep your head down. Act like the adult that you are. Don’t run to supervisors if someone does not want to be your friend. Don’t show up on your days off waiting around for people. If you make friends at work, schedule activities with said friends after working hours when convenient for everyone and meet up somewhere. Don’t call anybody mom or nurse or make statements similar to those of a small child in hopes that people will think it’s cute. It’s not cute. It’s all really very simple. You are there to do a job. So do your job, do it well, follow the rules, collect your paycheck on pay day and that’s it. Now I’m done. Last edited by Anonymous54879; Jul 05, 2018 at 07:58 AM. |
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![]() What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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Ruby, normally the usual advice would be for you to sit down with your case worker or counselor and talk about better ways to handle your emotional responses. In your case, I don't think that will do any good. You've been there, done that. There is nothing lacking in your level of intelligence. You simply disregard any line of reasoning that doesn't show you how to get what you want out of people.
You will continue to lose jobs and have little luck making friends. People will want friendship with you only if they believe you care about them. You talk like a person who only cares about the effect things will have on you. That can lead to great loneliness in years to come. When it happens, you won't even realize how you brought it on yourself. |
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People with ASD often have harder time understanding what other people might feel or how something might effect other person. That’s very very common for people on a spectrum regardless of their level of intelligence. In addition if a person has PD her ability to regulate emotions and impulses is impaired.
BUT it doesn’t mean people cannot learn what kind of behaviors are appropriate. Even if something doesn’t come naturally, it doesn’t mean it can’t be learned. Unfortunately something is preventing ruby from learning it all these years. |
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All I have to do is
1. Not stalk people 2. Not screw around 3. Not have anger outbursts or emotional meltdowns. Frankly, everything I've ever did wrong at work fell into these 3 categories. I done nothing wrong outside the 3 categories. For instance, my attendance is perfect, I work hard, and I'm nice to everyone. |
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I had a hard time learning these things. And i didnt have the support of my family - in fact, they actively tried to sabotage me. I think its great that ruby has an employment counselor and everyones support here to help her figure these things out.
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I agreed! It not fun being stalked by someone! It make a victim on edge, terrified to leave their homes and stay in their homes, go to work. It exhausting!
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I can relate to you when you say you just need to try not to have emotional outbursts. It’s easier said than done. I gave myself that same pep talk, but when triggered by what causes me those outbursts, I really can’t control my emotions. I have to avoid those triggers.
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THIS.......... is why I don't work with the public.
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I go about my own business, and keep my mind on myself and my life. I expect the same courtesy from the rest of the world. ![]() |
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I doun't understand why your case worker& support people don't find a job for you where you could really fit in & not a job working with the public. Something that works with your ASD.
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I'm an introverted lady living with ASD and GAD who is registered with a disability employment service. The suggested jobs the job developer provided were almost all customer service, because I have no experience and not much education. The world is made for the confident, cheery, and charismatic extrovert. This was proven to me when I applied for a job in a machine shop deburring parts. It required no experience at all, but because I was quiet in the interview, the owner decided I wouldn't fit in with his team. I'm always quiet around strangers. Once I get to know people I open up. It just takes time. Some people cannot cope with quiet people. Ruby2011, do you get obsessed with people? I've noticed that some people with ASD struggle with this and really suffer because of it. It is their 'special interest'.
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#223
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well said and just what was on my own mind
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Do you feel like you don't really need further advice? It sounds like you've gotten impatient with what you are reading here. But I have a feeling you'll be posting another thread within a few months telling us that something has gone wrong, and it will be a problem similar to those you've had. "All I have to do . . . " sounds like you think you've got it all figured out. Somehow I don't think you are really willing to alter your approach in how you interact with others. I'm not hearing where you have any motivation to change. Most of us have some basic tendency that we struggle with all our lives to try and correct. That's how human nature is. None of us succeeds in becoming completely who we wish we were. We have victories and we have setbacks. I think you will too. |
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