I was told I needed to work on my jealousy

I always felt insecure about myself, I’m not outgoing and I always kept to myself. I’ve been cheated on multiple occasions and I guess I’ve never been able to put things in the past. But I could distinguish if they are right or they are wrong. I don’t think that any man while on a day will leave your side to go talk to other women. And it’s not normal that he will receive calls and text messages from 3 different women while you are together. I mean yes of course I got jealous but I feel I had a reason to. I’ve been through a lot but I never had this happen to me. I do know that you could have friends of the opposite side but what the text messages read did not sound like were just friends. (Why did you hang up is Karen) or (I’ve missed you). I guess writing about this kind of open my eyes. Things were not right. I don’t believe it’s normal that you’re with your girl and decide to pay more attention to other women.

The best way to defeat jealousy is to be with someone who makes your relationship all about you. Now before you the k this is a selfish act, keep in mind I dont mean he cant have any female friends. What he cant have is v close relationships with women outside of your circle. If you have friends in common for example than fine. Receiving texts are ok, however if they are from random women you dont know or are not friends with, then you are being played.

Dont allow yourself to be played. Your intimate relationship should be all about you and only you. If you ever feel like you are competing with other women, break it off, it won't change. If your man is bold enough to be entertaining with other women in your company ( texting etc) , you are not his focus or priority. YOUand only YOU created boundaries in your intimate relationships, if those boundaries are not making you happy, then leave, There are plenty of men out there looking for their queen, dont settle on being a sidekick or princess. Queen or nothing lol , I promise you you won't regret wanting and settling for nothing less. There isnt room in your Intimate relationship for 3 people, take back your power and Find a man who has the same morals and values you do.

I agree, you have every reason to be worried in this case. Are you currently in a relationship?

The guilty person who doesn't want to change will always shift the blame.

The solution to what this person is calling 'your jealousy' is to find a man who values fidelity and who wants to be faithful to you.

My guess is you may be appearing too accepting (in general) and men who want to take advantage latch onto to women like that (and as you have found out -- in multiples!)

Value yourself as the special, unique person you are and accept no less than the respect you deserve.

I literally feel like crying right now! I knew I’m not a psycho like he made me sound. 2 weeks i’ve been driving myself crazy thinking and going over everything that happened. He is a little arrogant and none of my family likes him much. He is not a person that I would date at all. He is this party person, drinks a lot when he drinks and wants to be the comedian. Me, I’m the quiet, barely drink and I’m ok with Netflix at home. I work at my family restaurant and bar and I met him there. He requested me on Fb and would write on messenger. I live in PR and we still didn’t have electricity at home and I only had celular signal in town, every evening my daughter and I would go to download shows so we could watch during the night at home. This day a tire got flat so we went to go to put air on it and our normal routine. Our car battery died, I couldn’t call anyone because we live in the country side, no telephone, no wifi, no cell signal reception. And just then he sent a message and came to my rescue. After that he would always ask me out and I would always come up with an excuse. 2 months went but one day he said you owe me. We went out and I had an amazing time! He was a gentleman, didn’t even try to kiss me. We went out again and soon after things started to get more serious. We would see each other every day, things were nice but I always told my brother that I knew that he was really nice to me but that I had a feeling he was going to change. I just knew! I would go over his apartment and bring dinner or cook over and stay until he would go to bed. Then things started to change, I would say something and he would start yelling and screaming at me. I would get mad, get my things and come home. The next day I would wake up to a nice message and forget everything and go on. I work only on weekends, so while I was a work he would go to hang out at bars until I got home, it never really bothered me but then one day I asked what did he do and he said I’m not a little kid, I don’t have to tell you everything I do. I was shocked, I find that as serious as we were, we’re spending the nights at each other’s houses, and I can’t ask?... The were so many shady things I could go on and on. I know it’s long, lol! Sorry!!! I always knew and I put myself in that situation! I didn’t even wanted to date him, he is like 150 lbs overweight, is always so negative and such bad temper and I still fell for him. I can’t believe that I wanted him back. There a lot of bad memories and as far as for the good ones, something bad always followed!!! Thank you so much for your replies, I like to be at home so when I’m feeling down, I come here and let it all out, at work when I’m not busy I’m always thinking and I hate to think so much! It hurts to know I let him be so manipulative...

He broke up with me 2 weeks ago. So, I’m not currently in a relationship.