[LiteraryLark]

My parents prohibited me from spending the night at a guy's house. I'm 25. I had to tell them where I'd be because being gone overnight would be something they'd like to know so they wouldn't worry about where I'd be which was awkward enough. Irregardless of the reason why I'd spend the night at a guy's house, they have no business telling me no or giving me their opinion of how I should carry out my sexual/romantic life. I got in the car and couldn't help but cry, I was so embarrassed to tell my date my parents said no like a little kid. My parents want me to live with them forever and they make it so impossible for me to want to stay. I'm so embarrassed and angry right now.

[littleblackdog]

Is this the guy you only met yesterday (and had only started talking to a couple of days ago)?
In which case, I am sorry but I don't think your parents are out of line. You may be an adult but you live in their house and are still their daughter and it is natural that they would be concerned about you spending the night with a man you barely know.

[MickeyCheeky]

((((LiteraryLark)))) I agree that you're an adult and that you have to make your own decisions. Your parents probably mean no harm; they just want you to be safe. Have you tried to discuss this with them? In any case, remember that the final decision is up to you.

LL, the decision is up to you. If you are 25-they don’t have a say in anything you do. I would have gone anyway-but that’s just me. I also didn’t live with parents when I was 25. But even when I did live with them as a very young adult- (until I was 20) once I turned 18-I made it very clear it was my life, I would do whatever I wanted and if they didn’t like it-it’s fine-I would just go.
I think once you are no longer angry you can sit and tell your parents that you are an adult, you want the respect of being treated as such and that you will not not allow them to have that type of control over your life going forward.

[lady411]

I went thru the same ordeal at your age. But I also lived with them which in turn does give them the right to try to impose certain rules. Not saying I agree with them still trying to treat you like a kid. First thing you need to do is find a good time when you and your parents are able to speak openly about how you feel. Them wanting you to live with them forever will have to come with some boundaries as adults. You may be 25 but you will always be their child to them. They are only trying to look out for your safety. But if they can't trust that you can make safe adult decisions for yourself on your own then maybe it is time for you to find your own place and show them that you can stand on your own two feet.

I also think parents treating their adult children like a child is just a pitfall if you live with your parents into your adulthood. Do you pay any bills at home? “Rent” to live there? If not-they will try and assert control over you but you can certainly set limits with that.
When I was in my early 30’s I moved back in my parents for 90 days while I was waiting to close on my house. I paid them 600 a month for the 3 months I was there. Even though I haven’t lived with them for a long time prior to that 3 months every time I walked out the door my father would be like “Where you going?” I either never replied or asked him “Are you seriously asking me that?” And I would just walk out the door. Some would think that’s very rude and disrespectful. I saw it as keeping my independence.

I couldnt handle rules at 17 and got kicked out. It suited me quite nicely to have the freedom.

I think telling a grown woman what she can and can not do is absurd. However it those are the terms and conditions of living there, I guess you have to weigh your options.

I'm assuming there is a reason you live there. Not being able to do sleepovers is also going to really hamper your dating life (in my opinion). I cant tell you what to do because my advice would be terrible. I am defiant by nature. However your frustrations are legitimate and I believe the only person who truly knows what's best is yourself.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by LiteraryLark

My parents prohibited me from spending the night at a guy's house. I'm 25. I had to tell them where I'd be because being gone overnight would be something they'd like to know so they wouldn't worry about where I'd be which was awkward enough. Irregardless of the reason why I'd spend the night at a guy's house, they have no business telling me no or giving me their opinion of how I should carry out my sexual/romantic life. I got in the car and couldn't help but cry, I was so embarrassed to tell my date my parents said no like a little kid. My parents want me to live with them forever and they make it so impossible for me to want to stay. I'm so embarrassed and angry right now.

Start saving money and move out.

[healingme4me]

I stayed with my parents right out of college for about a year. I didn't come home one night after a game/date. After that, it was just let them know if I planned to be out. I was working two jobs at the time. They had my stepdads mom staying with them for a while after a major ice storm. It was cramped and she was a *biting my tongue here*...
You're working, right?

I hear you about being treated or subjectively treated like a kid. My father looked at me one of the days that I spent at his place last winter and commented his surprise we all hadn't gone outside to enjoy the weather. gawd...my sons and I had literally driven 1200 miles even filled up their gas tank. Jet lagged and exhausted I just shook my head. Here I am a divorced single mom with jetlag after a long journey and he's wondering why we were all lounging around??? That's being spoken to like a child, no doubt.

Is there a really good reason they push for you to remain living with them? My mom felt abandoned she once told me. But that was her issue not mine...

[SorryShaped]

In the end, you have to make your choices, and you live with the results