Love You To The Moon and Back - Childish Expression?

In light of everything that has gone on with my now former girlfriend, would the following feel a little odd to you:

Would it strike you as odd if your girlfriend said that she 'loved you to the moon and back' even though you are two fully grown adults in their thirties?

It just strikes me as unusual way of expressing love since the term is typically used from a parent to a child and does seem a childish way of expressing love to an other half.

Depends on the relationship. If someone is treating you badly and saying nice things, it's just a "hoovering" method or manipulation to keep you around. I agree that it's not a usual expression used in romantic relationships, but not necessarily childish. I would just be cautious with this woman in every way, given the history.

Here is an article on hoovering.

7 Tips to Avoid a Holiday "Hoover" by a Narcissist | The Savvy Shrink

Nothing wrong with saying stuff like that.

I don't see a problem with being a bit immature. I'm a 27 year old man but more often than not I act like a teenager. I don't see the point of acting "all grown up" if it reduces my overall happiness.

So yeah, if I had a girlfriend I would say stuff like "love you to the moon and back" or if she said "I love you" I would reply "I love you more". That's just how I am and how I will remain 10, 20, and even 50 years from now.

I don't see anything wrong with using this expression once in a while, Depressed-Fiance I guess it depends on what kind of person you are. Sending many hugs to you

no I dont see anything wrong or odd that an adult says this. my wife and I have many endearments we say to each other to express our love and feelings for each other and this is one of them.

the saying I love you to the moon and back comes from a book. it means you love this person more than you or anyone else can imagine.

love is a feeling thats hard to put into words. sometimes just saying "I love you" just doesnt do the feeling justice...

its kind of like someone can say "I am so angry" but does that really touch on what you are feeling sometimes?

just saying I love you or I am feeling loved just doesnt touch it. but if you add something like to the moon and back the other person can grasp that the love that you feel for them is something that isnt readily touch able/ explainable.

my wife and have expanded on this by adding the toy story symbol for the unending of feelings and situations "to infinity and beyond"
by saying....

I love you to the moon and back and on through infinity and beyond.

it just gives a clearer picture of how much someone cares for you, they care so much for you that its just as untouchable and unending as being able to reach your hand out and touch the moon and never ending.

our love for each other is so deep and so lasting, never ending.

My husband and I say all kind of goofy lovey dovey things to each other and we are in our 50s. I see no issues with this.

The issue is that she unfortunately didn’t mean it, judging by her actions (not wanting to spend time with you and cheating). Hope you forget about her and move on soon

All expressions of affection are lovely if they are reciprocated...I wouldn't read too much into the actual words used.

I used to say to my boyfriend over the phone when the was travelling overseas for work...'I miss you like it's a Thousand years'. Over exaggerated words of affection preclude the need to explain ones feelings literally.

Hi,

No, for me it wouldn't strike me as odd. Sometimes couples like to use expressions from their childhoods as terms of endearment. Even a kind of baby talk can creep in there sometimes, as well.

If someone said they loved me to the moon and back, I'd feel happy.

But my apologies for how everything turned out between you and your ex.

I don't think it's childish. I actually think it's a sweet thing to say.

I wonder if the pain from being hurt by her actions is causing you to see little details as all flawed?

this is a term of endearment which is actually adult in origin.

Take it as a loving compliment. And remember, the intent counts.

I don't think this is childish at all. This makes me want to know if this is an example of her general behaviour? If she behaves immaturely in the first place then maybe you could say this is another example of childish behaviour. Otherwise, i take this as absolutely normal. My boyfriend and I have similar expressions for one another, including the "Buffalo girls won't you come out tonight..." song. Some might find this odd I suppose.

I did take it as a compliment always when she said it but it did strike me as a bit of an unusual expression coming from a fully grown woman.

I'm not sure I understand if you mean does she always behave childish, as in to what extent?

I say things like this to my partner all the time (I’m 27). I don’t see a problem with it personally! It’s just a playful way of telling somebody you care about them

It is a learned IDIOM used to express how someone feels towards someone else. Not very original when idioms are used in place of expressing one's heart felt feelings but some people aren't good at originality

Not childish.....just an idiom.

I've even seen pillows and plaques with this expression on it. It's become a popular one.

I think it's a matter of perception and the perspective of the recipient. It matters very little if 10 or 1000 people here think it sounds acceptable in the context you offer. If it is odd to you it says to me that your perspective on such things just happen to be such that mature people don't say things like this and there is nothing wrong with thinking that. There is no rule of law or standard that says what people in a relationship should say to each other and what is or isn't correct or acceptable. If it bothers you then that's as valid as people saying it's normal.

I personally find that terms of endearment and little silly phrases are acceptable and typically welcomed when I am involved with someone.

I actually tend to think more like you Depressed-fiance.

I find cliche sayings & terms of endearment to be meaningless because they are JUST USED by many & are just being copied & I want original from the heart meaningful things in my relationship. That has always been me all my life & I am 65 now....that is NOT going to change at this point in my life.

Meh, I prefer the simplified phrases myself. I'm not somebody who really cares about deep 'serious" stuff, nor do I expect a lot from lovers or friends. I'm just a simple man with simple needs.

Guess I really am immature like people say. Not that there is a problem with immaturity

Actually there is if you ever want a truly intimate relationship with someone. My H's immaturity was part of the death of our marriage. Our T said my H at 54 had the maturity level of a 12 year old. I had no interest in being his mother.....I wanted a partner & there is no way one can be a partner with someone who was incapable of maturing.

Just depends on what one wants in life & what kind of relationships one wants to have whether immaturity becomes a problem or not.

I suppose it is all in the eye of the beholder, isn't it. I guess the problem then is if the two persons are not on the same page.

For awhile, I thought that I wanted an intimate relationship. The older I become though, the more I realize that relationships aren't for me. If I need somebody to show me love or compassion, I will rely entirely on friends if possible to get my needs met.

I'm too independent by nature and I feel like I would be trapped in a relationship. I value my personal freedom above all else. I don't want to be tied down by a relationship or anything else that requires too much responsibility and commitment.

If I ever got into a relationship, it would be strictly for short term pleasure and nothing else. I wouldn't stay in a relationship for any longer than a few years. Once I am done, I would move on with no hard feelings towards the person.