need your opinions

So I have a crush on a girl and was trying to hide it. She most have noticed because she asked me if I had a crush on her, which I denied. I feel bad that I wasn't honest with her...I'm not hoping for anything or expecting anything...I don't think you can control who you develop a crush on. Should I just go ahead and admit it?

Yes, I would try to think of some "sweet" way to tell her that, yes, you do have a crush. A single flower or a little poem if you can think of one. It sounds like if she asked/thought you might have a crush on her she might be interested too or she wouldn't have noticed you?

In my experience, admitting that you have a crush on someone is an inefficient way to do things. I once gave a girl in 5th grade a Valentine's Day card with a $75 turquoise necklace. Did it work? Hell no! I could have spent that money elsewhere, like on a video game of some sort...

More recently, I have admitted romantic feelings up front. Of course, that didn't work because I seemed clingy. Then I suggest a friendly outing to this next girl and I got a message back saying "I'm with someone else."

Romance is not an area I have much knowledge of. That, and the fact that I act like an idiot when I have a crush on someone. Like a fool in love. Trust me, it never works out, unless you get lucky...

well, it's not a huge crush...I can acknowledge that it's just a small crush and I'm really not looking for a relationship ( honestly! I'm more concerned about other things.) I won't be devastated if she says she is not interested....I'm just worried about being embarrassed.

You don't have to use the word "crush". I'd just tell her I was interested in spending more time with her, would she like to go see a movie or something. The size of the crush doesn't matter; you still have to get to know her, the crush is just pushing you in her direction, that's its job :-)

I'm thinking of asking her out to a movie. I'm not too sure but I think she may like me...she has asked if i have a girlfriend, how long it's been since I was in a relationship, she asks what I'm doing this weekend, and there is a little flirting going on to. I'm nervous but I like being around her.

Ask her out for a "safe" date, coffee, lunch, even Christmas shopping. You'll know if she's interested, without putting yourself "out" there. In my experience, nothing ventured, nothing gained (and if you don't have it in the first place, it's not really a loss!). You never know, this could be the right person for you. Why not take a chance? Good luck!

This is sooo cute! Especially your response, Psycho Phil!

Spoken like a true male....

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I needed a good chuckle!! (And I am sorry if it wasn't suppose to be funny. It just struck me that way)

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she has asked if i have a girlfriend, how long it's been since I was in a relationship, she asks what I'm doing this weekend, and there is a little flirting going on to. I'm nervous but I like being around her.

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Eeuuhmm... so now you are asking us if you should ask this girl out? You have no idea, can't start to imagine why she would ask what you're doing this weekend? You're thinking "Ok, I'm so in love with this girl, and she obviously takes an interest in me... pleeaase.. tell me what to do!"?
Ask her out, kiss her, something like that maybe?

And for the "obviously male" behaviour that says not to be too sweet because girls don't like it? That's not typically male! typically male is "don't be sweet when you don't feel like it, and get to the having sex part asap, without letting her know that you feel like having sex: they don't 'put out' then". These are just two good strategies to get what is desired; in the first sentence that is "getting a girl that you like to like you back" and in the second "getting sex". Women, even people in general, don't want to be begged, they want to be conquered in a pleasant way. Just too bad that even knowing this, doesn't mean that you're able to actually hide that you're head over heels in love with her.

I already know I should ask her out, I'm just letting my low self-confidence get in the way. All these signs show me she is interested, i know. I'm just hoping to get some encouraging words here. I had heartache before, i just don't want it to happen again. I realize my feelings have become stronger since starting this thread...thanks for all the responses!

just go for it, and hope everything goes well. Avoiding opportunities to gain self-esteem and love won't get you anywhere... but I understand, it's easy for me to say that, but when I'm in female company, I chicken out myself =

You need to play this right. It is obvious to me that this girl has an interest in you. Crush is a scary word for her to be using. It should be interest, not crush. People with crushes sometimes become weird-o's.
I would ask her out on a date and see what developes.
Throw caution to the wind because if you let your low esteem get the best of you then you masy miss out on one of the most exciting times in your life....dating.

Go have fun and be safe.

well I told her and while she does like me, she doesn't feel the same...we are going to be friends though...and that is perfectly fine with me...I'm happier just having told her and glad we can be friends

Good for you!

In my experience, it's a lot easier to just be friends with someone of the opposite gender. And it's more beneficial on both sides, if sex isn't an object.

For instance, I'm friends with a guy who almost all of my friends have crushes on. I don't understand this at all. He's nice and funny and smart, sure, but I don't feel like I need anything more from him, and that's a wonderful thing! Everyone else ends up feeling dissatisfied.

Friendship with someone you really like is a wonderful thing. In my case, I appreciate my friend even though I'm sure I don't have a crush. This makes him more comfortable with me, so I get to know and talk to him twice as much as some of my other friends do.

So I think you made the right decision. Kudos to you!