My Father is a Control freak

Things I cannot do because of him

Drink a glass of milk without permission
Drive
Have any kind of discussion on anything
Drink a Diet Coke (those are your mother’s @#$&amnit)
Get a ride to the store for dinner
Go anywhere without explicit permission

Why. You ask?
Because he is controlling, angry old man who wants completely control every part of my life. I am a 39 year old woman , who this man will not let grow up. He never speaks to me like a human. I am in remission, I just got a job. But I’m terrified this man will throw me in the abyss.

What does he do when yiu attempt any of it? Can you just ignore him when he rants? If he physically assaults you, call the police.

I'm so sorry, Paraisiut39 It must not be easy to deal with him. Please don't give up. Try to stand up for yourself and explain to him that you're an adult and that you can make your own decisions. How do you think he would react? Like divine1966 has suggested, if things get violent call the police. He needs to learn that you're an adult and that you can take control of your life. It's a good thing you've got a job at least. Can you save some money so that you can move out as soon as you can? I'm so sorry. Please try to hang on. I hope things will get better for you soon. Stay safe and take care of yourself. I hope writing here helps a bit. Feel free to PM me anytime. I'm always available if you need to talk. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you

Do you have to stay with him? What does your mom say?

Why are you living with him? What are the benefits of staying? Does it really justify why you can't move out?

Unfortunately, many parents don't fulfill their duties when they bring children to this life. Their only job is to create children that are capable of facing hardships in life and be independent and strong human beings. I understand what you are saying, because my parents are abusive, controlling, and overprotecting, and I have suffered a lot with them. If your health allows, I think the best course of action is to wait until you are fully capable on your own, and then move out. In the mean time, I would stand up to myself in a non-provocative way, or just ignore him if you feel you would be in danger.

Tell him to duck off. Kidding, not kidding.

Yeah my dad is pretty controlling like that too. I’ve had strict parents all my life though so I’m not too annoyed by it. I just spend most of my day not near him and then I’m all good.

Wow you need to move out asap. See if maybe you can get a flat mate to share the rent with.

Sounds familiar. Why are you at home? I did not even go to my father's funeral.

I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. If it is possible, moving out and blocking communication with your family members for awhile will be nothing but beneficial. No matter if you stay or leave your family, setting some firm emotional and physical boundaries will prevent you from becoming a walking doormat. As already mentioned here, if this escalates to something physical, call the authorities. You have every right to protect yourself and your dignity, while refusing contact with people who continually make you uncomfortable.

I'm sorry my parent are like this. Move out as soon as you can.