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Jan 22, 2019, 11:19 PM
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Things I cannot do because of him
Drink a glass of milk without permission Drive Have any kind of discussion on anything Drink a Diet Coke (those are your mother’s @#$&amnit) Get a ride to the store for dinner Go anywhere without explicit permission Why. You ask? Because he is controlling, angry old man who wants completely control every part of my life. I am a 39 year old woman , who this man will not let grow up. He never speaks to me like a human. I am in remission, I just got a job. But I’m terrified this man will throw me in the abyss. |
 Anonymous55888, Buffy01, MickeyCheeky, mrsselig
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Jan 23, 2019, 11:35 AM
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What does he do when yiu attempt any of it? Can you just ignore him when he rants? If he physically assaults you, call the police.
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Jan 23, 2019, 12:11 PM
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I'm so sorry, Paraisiut39
 It must not be easy to deal with him. Please don't give up. Try to stand up for yourself and explain to him that you're an adult and that you can make your own decisions. How do you think he would react? Like divine1966 has suggested, if things get violent call the police. He needs to learn that you're an adult and that you can take control of your life. It's a good thing you've got a job at least. Can you save some money so that you can move out as soon as you can? I'm so sorry. Please try to hang on. I hope things will get better for you soon. Stay safe and take care of yourself. I hope writing here helps a bit. Feel free to PM me anytime. I'm always available if you need to talk. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you  
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Jan 23, 2019, 12:28 PM
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Do you have to stay with him? What does your mom say?
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Jan 23, 2019, 08:14 PM
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Why are you living with him? What are the benefits of staying? Does it really justify why you can't move out?
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Jan 23, 2019, 08:31 PM
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Jan 23, 2019, 08:50 PM
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Tell him to duck off. Kidding, not kidding.
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"I get knocked down, but I get up again..." Bipolar 1 |
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Jan 23, 2019, 09:08 PM
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Yeah my dad is pretty controlling like that too. I’ve had strict parents all my life though so I’m not too annoyed by it. I just spend most of my day not near him and then I’m all good.
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Character is like a tree and reputation its shadow. The shadow is what we think it is and the tree is the real thing. ~Abraham Lincoln. Last edited by CelestialFlame; Jan 23, 2019 at 09:45 PM. |
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Jan 23, 2019, 11:34 PM
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Wow you need to move out asap. See if maybe you can get a flat mate to share the rent with.
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Jan 24, 2019, 07:10 AM
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Sounds familiar. Why are you at home? I did not even go to my father's funeral.
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I go about my own business, and keep my mind on myself and my life. I expect the same courtesy from the rest of the world.
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Jan 24, 2019, 06:12 PM
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I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. If it is possible, moving out and blocking communication with your family members for awhile will be nothing but beneficial. No matter if you stay or leave your family, setting some firm emotional and physical boundaries will prevent you from becoming a walking doormat. As already mentioned here, if this escalates to something physical, call the authorities. You have every right to protect yourself and your dignity, while refusing contact with people who continually make you uncomfortable.
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Jan 28, 2019, 02:30 PM
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This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
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