My husband said he wouldn’t care if I died

I agree that his comments about worthless, etc are abusive and totally unacceptable. Tell him forcefully to stop verbally abusing you and take action if he doesn’t. Get tested as Sarah suggested. Start a separate bank account and get at least one credit card in yr name. Start couples counseling immediately. Get a job if you don’t have one. Would you be able to live w yr parents if you decide to leave him? Have a consultation w an attorney. Consultations are often free. Read up on domestic violence, especially verbal abuse which can escalate. Abusers are often nice after an incident so they can continue the pattern. He needs to shape up or ship out.

^This might be the simple truth! To me, that makes it even worse and more dangerous. As you can see everyone on this thread feels very concerned about your situation. Please take action immediately to protect yourself.

Thanks everyone once again for the advice. He once again crossed a line today, on Thanksgiving. He bailed on plans that I had made for us back in September for this weekend, something that was really important to me. He claims I never told him to ask for it off work but I told him many many times and now he dropped the bomb on me that he will be working and won’t be able to attend. I then got upset and said I don’t feel like a priority to him and he went off into a tangent about how I ruin every holiday, how I’m mentally ill, obsessive, annoying, and no one can stand to be around me. I want out of this so bad but I have nowhere to go and no funds or car to do so. I’m so upset, this holiday means a lot to me and now it’s ruined. The holiday season is really important to me and now I know I’m not even going to be able to enjoy it and it really hurts.

I can tell your resolve is getting stronger. Can you get a job or take classes so you can get one? We are all behind you. Hugs!

I do have a job but it’s only part time so i barely make anything. I also don’t have a drivers license or car and my husband is always the one that takes me to work. There’s so many barriers that I don’t know how to get through. I tried to walk outside a few minutes ago to just clear my head because I told him I can’t take this anymore and he physically held me back from leaving and would not let go of me until I agreed to stay. Is that considered abuse? I’m so scared.

Yes it’s abuse, call domestic abuse hotline now. You are better off at a shelter or family or a friend

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Calling for help as divine suggests will allow you to figure out how to get through the barriers and escape.

You can do it!

All of us are praying that you'll get out of this situation with no damage. We are rooting for you!

My thoughts are with you at this difficult time; please be strong.

Do you have friends or a sympathetic relative who can help you move out? This guy is seriously undermining you. Often those who mentally/emotionally abuse, move on to the physical. He seriously needs help.

My neighbour was a domestic abuse victim and I've learned so much from her. Don't excuse the first incident, in the majority of cases more will follow!

You are VERY young yet and too dependent from what you have shared. Your husband is taking advantage of your not being able to actually leave. You are learning a hard lesson with this challenge, just remember you are still very young yet and you can not only learn from this experience but think about improving your own ability to become more independent so you don't end up falling into this kind of trap again.

Thank you so much, you don’t know how much that means to know that there’s someone out there rooting for me❤️ I’m still not sure what I’m doing, because I am scared and embarrassed to let anyone in my life know what’s going on, and besides, no one I know has space in their homes for me so I don’t want to be an inconvenience.