[rdgrad15]

I've heard of people claiming that they may not like someone for no particular reason or that anyone can dislike someone for no reason at all. I've always thought there really is a reason. The reason may be small, may even be stupid and judgmental, but it's still a reason. I've always thought when someone says they just don't like someone and they claim they don't know why or they just say there is no reason at all for the dislike, I think there honestly is a reason but either there is a reason that they haven't accepted yet or they just simply don't want to say anything, which I respect that. I can understand why someone may not want to get into the reasons they dislike someone. Usually due to a fear of backlash and may just simply not like gossiping, especially if it's something stupid and insignificant.

In most cases, I've seen it where someone may claim to not like someone for no reason but it turns out it is because of conflicting personalities. Usually one person, or even both people, don't like something they see in each other that they dislike about themselves. Do you think there is always a reason someone may dislike someone? I do agree that no one likes everyone. That's not possible. It's human nature to not be pleased with everyone. But I do believe there always is a reason, in a lot of cases, conflicting personalities that one or both people have but they may keep it to themselves. Have anyone ever had someone claim they dislike someone for no reason, but you can tell there actually is a reason? Just wondered what you guys thought. I honestly think there's always a reason. May be small and stupid, but there's a reason.

[divine1966]

I personally don’t tend to dislike people for no reason or just because of conflicting personalities . If I dislike someone it’s because they are either not a nice person, refusing too take responsibility for their actions, causing problems for others, not completing their tasks properly and again make it difficult for others, or drama instigators. Usually it’s just few people here and there. Mostly I either like people or don’t have any opinion about them.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by divine1966

I personally don’t tend to dislike people for no reason or just because of conflicting personalities . If I dislike someone it’s because they are either not a nice person, refusing too take responsibility for their actions, causing problems for others, not completing their tasks properly and again make it difficult for others, or drama instigators. Usually it’s just few people here and there. Mostly I either like people or don’t have any opinion about them.

I'm like you. I never dislike someone due to conflicting personalities or just for no reason either. If I do dislike someone, it is usually due to one of the reasons you mentioned. And in other cases, I'll have no opinion on someone as well just like you mentioned.

[ARaven0137]

Originally Posted by rdgrad15

I've heard of people claiming that they may not like someone for no particular reason or that anyone can dislike someone for no reason at all. I've always thought there really is a reason. The reason may be small, may even be stupid and judgmental, but it's still a reason. I've always thought when someone says they just don't like someone and they claim they don't know why or they just say there is no reason at all for the dislike, I think there honestly is a reason but either there is a reason that they haven't accepted yet or they just simply don't want to say anything, which I respect that. I can understand why someone may not want to get into the reasons they dislike someone. Usually due to a fear of backlash and may just simply not like gossiping, especially if it's something stupid and insignificant.

In most cases, I've seen it where someone may claim to not like someone for no reason but it turns out it is because of conflicting personalities. Usually one person, or even both people, don't like something they see in each other that they dislike about themselves. Do you think there is always a reason someone may dislike someone? I do agree that no one likes everyone. That's not possible. It's human nature to not be pleased with everyone. But I do believe there always is a reason, in a lot of cases, conflicting personalities that one or both people have but they may keep it to themselves. Have anyone ever had someone claim they dislike someone for no reason, but you can tell there actually is a reason? Just wondered what you guys thought. I honestly think there's always a reason. May be small and stupid, but there's a reason.

For my, usually there always is something overt, like the way that they treat me or other people. I'm going to chalk this up to stereotypical 'woman's intuition' but there are times where my spider senses tingle and I get a bad vibe from someone. It doesn't have to be anything major, but it could be a pattern of how they say things, their tone or their viewpoints on things. And, it has to be a pattern. I rarely base judgment on one incident.

Certain guys just gave me creep factor and I was usually right. But, I am always willing to adjust my viewpoint if I was wrong.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by ARaven0137

For my, usually there always is something overt, like the way that they treat me or other people. I'm going to chalk this up to stereotypical 'woman's intuition' but there are times where my spider senses tingle and I get a bad vibe from someone. It doesn't have to be anything major, but it could be a pattern of how they say things, their tone or their viewpoints on things. And, it has to be a pattern. I rarely base judgment on one incident.

Certain guys just gave me creep factor and I was usually right. But, I am always willing to adjust my viewpoint if I was wrong.

I’m the same way. There are some people who I get a bad vibe from after I’ve seen a series of repeated patterns of how they treat others in a not so friendly way. Whether it’s face to face or behind their back. I’m like you, I never judge based on one incident unless it was really bad and even then I’m willing to change my viewpoint if they show they are much better than that. And yeah, I get tingly sensations too and they are usually right.

I feel that way towards some people. Anytime I see them, I get this heavy dreadful gut feeling that they are up to no good. I get this feeling after seeing them turn on people and tear them down like disposable trash. The gut feeling I get is similar to the heavy dreadful feeling you get when someone is being a creep. Makes me want to stay away from them and only talk to them when absolutely necessary.

[MsLady]

I find that hard to believe, as well. I think sometimes people are unsure about what it is that's off putting about someone else .. and there could be a gazillion reasons why. I trust my gut instincts (I don't always listen to it, though) and keep my guard up a lot.

I agree, though.. they may not want to say why, either. Maybe it's an insecurity issue, or pettiness, or jealousy.. or they simply don't want to speak negatively about someone they don't like .. wouldn't that be super?

Reasons I may not like someone is if they appear arrogant, non-authentic, or gossipy. If they come off judgmental without concrete "evidence", or if they monopolize a conversation.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by MsLady

I find that hard to believe, as well. I think sometimes people are unsure about what it is that's off putting about someone else .. and there could be a gazillion reasons why. I trust my gut instincts (I don't always listen to it, though) and keep my guard up a lot.

I agree, though.. they may not want to say why, either. Maybe it's an insecurity issue, or pettiness, or jealousy.. or they simply don't want to speak negatively about someone they don't like .. wouldn't that be super?

Reasons I may not like someone is if they appear arrogant, non-authentic, or gossipy. If they come off judgmental without concrete "evidence", or if they monopolize a conversation.

I agree with you and I’m the same way.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by MsLady

I find that hard to believe, as well. I think sometimes people are unsure about what it is that's off putting about someone else .. and there could be a gazillion reasons why. I trust my gut instincts (I don't always listen to it, though) and keep my guard up a lot.

I agree, though.. they may not want to say why, either. Maybe it's an insecurity issue, or pettiness, or jealousy.. or they simply don't want to speak negatively about someone they don't like .. wouldn't that be super?

Reasons I may not like someone is if they appear arrogant, non-authentic, or gossipy. If they come off judgmental without concrete "evidence", or if they monopolize a conversation.

Monopolizing conversation is a big turn off, some people make every conversation about themselves no matter what’s the topic and who is the audience. We all know people like that. And I could see when asked, people wouldn’t say what is the issue: you make everything about yourself? Not everyone would admit it

Yes sometimes it’s just a gut feeling. Hard to pin point right away. But when you give it a minute, it’s getting obvious. We have somebody at work who changes topic of every conversation and interrupts every meeting in order to talk about herself, then she doesn’t understand why people stir away from her

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by divine1966

Monopolizing conversation is a big turn off, some people make every conversation about themselves no matter what’s the topic and who is the audience. We all know people like that. And I could see when asked, people wouldn’t say what is the issue: you make everything about yourself? Not everyone would admit it

Yes sometimes it’s just a gut feeling. Hard to pin point right away. But when you give it a minute, it’s getting obvious. We have somebody at work who changes topic of every conversation and interrupts every meeting in order to talk about herself, then she doesn’t understand why people stir away from her

Yeah I agree with you. It becomes obvious why someone may shy away from someone else.