Should I write a book?

Ok to cut a long story, very short. At 18 I was hospitalised after a meltdown and put on bipolar meds (one tablet olanzapine)
I had went off the rails and struggled to secure a job for a long time, after being dismissed from a couple of jobs and not being in the right mindset for studying at college. My family were not helpful. I was the scapegoat growing up and it was partly their fault I went so wild.
The only person who stuck by me was my boyfriend. He was never perfect and said that I would never have a good job after being in hospital. I forgave him because everyone else had given up on me or kept their distance. We were ok for a few years but when we moved in together, our relationship was tested .
He was always possessive. He began to become more and more controlling. From pressuring me to wear less make up and stop wearing heels to threatening to hit me and have me put back into hospital if I tried to leave him.
After five years together I told my mum on the phone that me and him were over and I told my brother he was far too possessive. So my abusive old flame realised that he had to let me go. He would threaten to set up a meeting with my parents if I left him while we stayed together and I would be admitted to hospital for "a holiday."
There is a lot more layers to my story. My friend was telling me about her friends daughter who went through an ordeal with a possessive man. She thinks I should try and publish my story.
I said that I had been on forums for years and that I had allready given my story away for free online. So she said: it's not about money or success, it's about helping yourself in order to help others. I said: Yes I know it is not about benefiting financially but my story is online all ready and I don't want to write about people, even if I change names. I will probably find myself in court! I have to think of my family. We get along now.
But she wouldn't give in. Just write about that ar**hole who left you high and dry, a nervous wreck and almost homeless. You took a f***ing overdose because of him. He took away your prime years to go out and enjoy your life and get your education. Your mum thinks he smells of roses after all he put you through. DO IT.
Well when she puts it that why, I do wonder if she has a point. I have been writing on the creative section in the forum. Not sure I'm good enough yet.

Your goal should be learning about managing your condition and healing. Also, it's not unusual for someone to struggle with bipolar and end up in bad situations that traumatize them where they experience ptsd. I am not diagnosing you when I mention that either. The important thing now is to work with mental health specialists to get you on the right medications that can help to stabilize you so you don't experience these extreme mood challenges.

This bad relationship was a significant number of years ago now. I don't feel the need to write a book. I decided never to write a memoir to protect other people. I know I need to let sleeping dogs lie. I think I would rather be someone's sponsor or a peer support worker. I am an expert by experience after all.
I have no symptoms of mania or depression. I have developed keen insight over the years. I know when my meds need adjusting. I don't think that I should blame the bipolar for having had an abusive ex-partner. He would have been the same towards another girl (Possessive, manipulative and trying to have constant control) I was one of his first serious girlfriends. When I left it shook him up.
I think if you knew my full story you would think other wise. Who threatens to have someone they love put into hospital when they are fine, just to prevent them from leaving?

Being a pier support worker sounds good. It's good that you have gotten a handle on your condition and have gained on managing it. You are proof that it's possible and that can most definitely help others who struggle.

Your question was if you should write a book. It doesn't sound like you want to and something your friend is pushing for you to do. So I guess the answer is, don't.

I did not enable him to carry on being the way he was with me. I didn't invite the pain. I wanted to be happy and independent. I was young and he made me feel powerless. I tried to leave him. The doctors encouraged me to still aim for a career. I think he felt a malicious satisfaction in bringing me down. What I went through shouldn't be happening in Modern Britain. But yes I know that domestic violence is still a huge problem in western democracies.
But sorry open eyes. You were correct in saying that after trauma a person needs to heal first. Seven years since it ended. Reliving traumatic memories too soon is not conducive to a person recovering. I had to get away from everything first. I mean everything and everybody.

To answer your question, if you don’t to write a book then you shouldn’t.

I am sorry you encountered abuse. I hope you work with mental health professionals and seek help in getting over it, seeing red flags in relationships and always standing up for yourself

After being in hospital, I wish it was as easy as spotting red flags. My esteem and sense of worth took a nose dive. I had a bad breakdown at 18. My family thought that no young man in their right mind would have stuck by someone whose future was uncertain. They said they thought he would have run a mile. My friends didn't care, being caught up with their own lives and problems and thought it was all alcohol addiction I was in for. They suspected a suicide attempt but pretended they didn't know. In all honesty I went off the rails and had a full blown psychotic break. I didn't deserve to be messed around. But I took the good with the bad as I felt like I didn't deserve any better after being a mental patient. Back then I thought that maybe my soul was irredeemable after losing it. Because that was how a lot of people treated me. Like I was a lost cause.

I understand. That’s why I said I hope you continue working on it, not that you should already know how to do everything.

You certainly aren’t lost cause

I was thinking of getting some telephone counselling. When I stood up for myself they would more often than not make jokes and deride me. But I realised he was a young man with insecurities and I hoped he would change. When it was apparent he wouldn't I left. Women let men get away with more than we should and we make excuses for them. In the UK women get imprisoned for not paying their TV licence when they are living in poverty where as men do much worse and commit violent crimes and get a slap on the wrist or community service.