When you feel guilty or regret it after venting or opening up to someone

Does anyone start feeling guilty or have a sense of regret after venting or telling someone about something that is upsetting you? Even if the reason was justified, you may start wishing you never vented or opened up at all. I tend to experience this anytime I open up to anyone in real life. It is also why I don't get emotional in front of others, since I start feeling guilty and regret my actions and even wonder what they think after it is all over.

If I ever get really annoyed or start feeling upset and I start talking about it with someone else, I always wish I didn't say anything later on. Not sure why, since when I do vent or open up about something, it is for a legitimate reason. Although I never get mad and yell, I don't make myself look like a fool especially in public. I just may walk away feeling that I said too much and worry that they may be thinking differently of me.

The rare times I may not feel guilty is when it is with a close friend, other than that, I always feel guilty even when there is a legitimate reason for it. I know there is nothing wrong with opening up or venting, but sometimes I wish I kept quiet after opening up about something. In a way, it causes a sense of embarrassment too. Another reason I don't open up much, even with close friends at times, is because there is really not much they can do.

If I feel like I need open up about something., I may intend to tell someone but then when it comes time to tell them, I'll think that it is pointless since there is nothing they can do about it and I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable or distance themselves. Another thing I may do is wait awhile before venting or opening up so the feelings aren't as raw. Do you have trouble opening up due to feelings of regret afterwards? Just wondered what you all thought.

I also feel badly most times if I open up or vent to someone. I mostly feel ashamed about it and vulnerable.

I feel the same way that you do at times. Have you ever been judged or rejected for opening up to much to other people in the past? I sure have! It hurts to be called 'whiny', that I'm to "sensitive', etc...

If you feel that some people will distance themselves from you or judge you for opening up and venting about problems, then don't trust them with your problems. Also, they're not really your friend. Real friends support you and they don't judge you or try to avoid you when you're going through a hard time.

I can't help but think of this Black Flag song now. The lyrics go something like this:

Every time I open my mouth, I wish I would've kept it shut

Also, "My War"

You think that you're my friend, but you're one of them

Congratulations!!!!
I’m kinda try to progress on this, too. And I’m becoming pretty proud of myself for what I’m achieving.

Yep. I have anxieties so when I do finally open up to someone, I often regret it. Part of it is to do with shame and embarrassment.. or perhaps I realized afterwards I didn't articulate my story in a way I wish I had.. perhaps not using enough filters or saying something that may (or may not) have sounded immature, irrational, or disproportionate. My heart races and I perseverate.

Really though, what I've experienced is complex trauma, none of which would be considered disproportionate or childish.. and nothing that I'd need to be ashamed of.. but my anxiety still brings me there.

Does anyone start feeling guilty or have a sense of regret after venting or telling someone about something that is upsetting you? Even if the reason was justified, you may start wishing you never vented or opened up at all. I tend to experience this anytime I open up to anyone in real life. It is also why I don't get emotional in front of others, since I start feeling guilty and regret my actions and even wonder what they think after it is all over.

If I ever get really annoyed or start feeling upset and I start talking about it with someone else, I always wish I didn't say anything later on. Not sure why, since when I do vent or open up about something, it is for a legitimate reason. Although I never get mad and yell, I don't make myself look like a fool especially in public. I just may walk away feeling that I said too much and worry that they may be thinking differently of me.

The rare times I may not feel guilty is when it is with a close friend, other than that, I always feel guilty even when there is a legitimate reason for it. I know there is nothing wrong with opening up or venting, but sometimes I wish I kept quiet after opening up about something. In a way, it causes a sense of embarrassment too. Another reason I don't open up much, even with close friends at times, is because there is really not much they can do.

If I feel like I need open up about something., I may intend to tell someone but then when it comes time to tell them, I'll think that it is pointless since there is nothing they can do about it and I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable or distance themselves. Another thing I may do is wait awhile before venting or opening up so the feelings aren't as raw. Do you have trouble opening up due to feelings of regret afterwards? Just wondered what you all thought.

Yes. All the time.