Dating again!

I guess it takes one to know one!

Just do not refuse to see the red flags ^ You'll be fine.

He can get any woman he wants. Believe me!! He is a catch!! He is classy and a gentleman. He is also well-educated and has a good job. He is my prince. I see that people on here have been burned by dating apps too. I have and know how you feel. Yes, I was skeptical too. I thought he could not be the real deal. But, the longer I spend time with him, the more I like him. I had the opposite feelings for other men I met on the dating apps. Also, I met him on a totally different dating app than I usually use. I got off the other dating app because it gave me nothing but snakes. So, I have been blessed this time and may be the only time. He is a sweetie. I am truly happy. I never have gone out with a man more than twice and we are going on our fifth date. Yes, I don't know everything about him yet. But so far, he has been a gem. I am really happy about him. I am crossing my fingers we will stay together. I am really hoping for the best. And, I wish all those who use dating apps the best too. Sometimes, one gets lucky!!! I have never been happier in my life. I met many frogs but this time my prince arrived. And, yes, I think if he is not perfect it is still ok by me. But, he is single, available, and my man!!

Yes, I gush about him. But, he is my man now. I am not totally blinded. I know if he has some health problems or something he can't help, I will accept him. For me, his character is important more than appearance. So far so good. He is ideal for me, He is really kind to me. He is always supportive. I really like him a lot!! Yes, I may be infatuated with him but at least this is better than being appalled by him.

I am honest to a fault. If I find any red flags which are glaring, I will be honest about them and let him go. But, so far, he is a gem!!

I am well-mannered guy and they say I'm attractive. I can befriend anybody within few minutes. I've got a sense of humour and I can talk pretty much about anything.

Yet I have few weak spots that trigger my anger problem. And when that anger strikes, I can even choke someone to death because I can't control that madness.

Point being, tread lightly and lower you expectations. I'm happy for you, but if you think he's your "prince" then you will be disappointed. Nobody's perfect and you only know his first surface. There is more than one when it comes to a human being and every human carries a shadow behind him when the sun goes down.

So he can't get women who are into aggresive street guys. No guy in the world can get any woman one wants.

I could care less if you are attractive or whatever. I am not dating you!! I said he is not perfect but yes I'm infatuated with him right now. Yes, he has some f physical flaws but so do I. His character speaks for itself and his actions speak ever louder. He spends time with me whenever he can . This means a lot to me!!

There are a lot of women here who like foreign men. The world here is his oyster. I was not born yesterday. Yes, may be, he can't get every woman he wants but he has a lot of women who would love to be with him besides me.

I was just giving you an example of a situation when what's on the outside is not a full picture of a true person. Do not be rude to me. It's against the community rules. I came here to help you.

I'm not being rude to you!! Your comments sound acerbic and caustic. I am being honest, not rude. If you are offended, then please don't bother to write on my thread. I am being myself. If it sounds rude, I did not mean to be rude.

Thanks. We're cool.

Oh, that's just a little bit of tough love. I mean I know what it means to get disapointed in love and I'm just sharing my honest thoughts, hoping they may help you. They may sound acerbic, though my intentions are good and I'm sorry if it rubbed you wrong.

Yes, I looked back on my older threads and I realize my luck with men has been awful before. This is the reason why I took my last chance with this last man. I said to myself if he is another jerk, I will swear off dating apps forever and just be happy with myself. But,it worked finally. He is all that I was looking for in a man. I am really attracted to him and he is decent to me. This is all I wanted. I just wanted a decent man who treats me well and to whom I attracted. I was not looking for anything else more. Also, I did not have such high expectations because of being burned so many times. He is more than I expected though. I can't complain. So, anyways, we are meeting again soon. I am truly happy!! And, if he does not work out, I am not going back to dating apps anymore. I had enough and took a chance. This is my last chance and take it or leave it, I thought. All I can say is I got lucky. I hope we make it as a couple. I am really hoping for the best. Lol, I never have gone on five dates with any man before. So, we shall see. I will wait for another month or two to see if I am still infatuated with him. I have a tendency to get tired of people. So, I'm at fault too. But, I want us to work out so will do my best to stay with him if he wants to be with me too.

He could be a jerk, you don't know yet. It takes way more than 4 dates together to see a person's true character. Everyone is on their best behavior in the beginning. How old are you? I sense that you don't have any experience with dating or relationships and are very young.

I understand your point. Yes, he could become a jerk still but has not. Thank you so much for your insight.

We met again and are doing well!! I am happy about him. He is good to me. I have no complaints. We still text twice a day. He is nice to me and treats me well. We will meet again soon.

We are meeting next week again. It is going well. I am feeling tired though, not from him. I like cooking for him. He is sweet to me. We get along well. Sometimes, I wonder if I'm in a dream. I like him much. He is good to me. He is not perfect and neither am I. But, we are good for each other. He still has not turned into a jerk. So, I'm keeping my fingers crossed. I'm happy that he is doing well. I'm doing fine too. I was a bit saddened by two acquaintances dying just these past few months. I realize life is short. They died suddenly. I was shocked and sad about their deaths. They were about my age. So, I'm not going to take anything for granted. I cherish my relationship with this new man. We are happy with each other. I find him cheerful, kind, and optimistic. He also told me to enjoy the moment too. I understand. I enjoy being with him. We have not talked about being exclusive or anything. But, I don't think he is seeing anybody else given his schedule and neither am I. We met about a month ago so time will tell how we endure. I'm seeing him for the sixth time next week. I feel good about him. He is a good man to me. I am myself with him. He gives me good vibes. So, we are happy still!! I feel blessed! I know not to rush matters. So, I will give it more time but honestly we don't argue nor criticize each other. We are affectionate with each other and enjoy each other's company. I am hoping for the best with him. Who knows how we will feel about each other in a month? But, I'm certain we will still be seeing each other and enjoying each other's company.

It sounds like a lot of fun

After being on the dating sites for many years, I can tell you that"on assignment" "foreign company" is a huge red flag; I have seen that so many times.

I checked his background and he is being honest. But, I understand.

Could you elaborate? What happened?

Didn’t get it when you said that you were feeling tired. Tired of what? If you don’t mind to share.

Sorry for your loss! 😔

Do you say that because the matches are made based on algorithms? Someone wrote about this here in another @bpforever1 ‘s threads.

I'm just tired in general. I think it may be due to my hormones which are undergoing a change from age. Otherwise, I am fine.

He and I are doing well still. He writes me twice a day to wish me well. I reply all of the time. So, he is the head manager of his division and goes on a lot of business trips throughout the country. He comes back and visits me afterwards. This is nice of him. I cook for him. He stays over now overnight. This is fine with me. I do like him a lot. We get along well. Well, so far he has not turned into a jerk yet. I don't know if I'm missing anything. We don't talk about everything but talk about how we feel about each other. He is nice and sweet with no drama. I spend my time now thinking of meals to make him and me. It is nice when most of the time I was eating out. So, he likes eating my meals. I enjoy his company and vice versa. He is quite involved in his work but makes time for me. I always open my apartment to him. So far so good. I don't know where this is leading. I just take it one day at a time given my situation. I am good to him and he is good to me. I have no complaints. He tries to pay for the meals but I am not into asking him for such petty matters. He does pay when I ask but for the most part I just go grocery shopping on my own and pay myself. I am not going to ask him to pay everything 50/50 when I appreciate his company and we are still getting to know each other. I am happy to say the least. This is the first relationship that has gone well although for a short period. I don't know what happened to my liking abusive men but this man is not abusive. I am blessed for now.