Dating again!

There's nothing wrong with what two people do consensually.
Him pressuring you to do something you don't want to do is extremely disrespectful. He doesn't care about you, only about his own pleasure. What you want doesn't matter to him. Made even more egregious as it's your body.
If the pain is unbearable, is he going to stop?

I did not see him this past weekend. I am not really encouraging him to contact me again. But, if he does, I will see him. He tried last time to orally stimulate me down there but it is too small for him to put IT inside. He is well-endowed so I'm thinking we don't see each other that often so he may just get tired of this nonsense. I did not buy the plugs or anything to please him. I am just going about my business as usual. I do like him physically but know he may just move onto someone else if that is all he wants. So, I am laughing about it for now. But, do believe, he will get tired of trying and move on to someone else after realizing I have no interest in doing it. I do find him very attractive so telling me to dump him for who? Truthfully, all the men I met on dating apps want sex from me. PERIOD. Every man has asked me to have sex. So, I just say the heck with it and find someone I find attractive and have sex with whom I prefer and like, not someone unattractive and plain old disgusting.

bpforever1, You are right not to do what he wants for a number of reasons, including personal choice. It's the one thing I would never agree to.

It's good that you are now better informed on the subject. No amount of lube could take away the pain or prevent discomfort now or as you get older. Sorry, but trying to avoid being too clinical.

Whether he's good looking or not, if this guy has any respect for you, he will abide by your decision. If you don't see him again, then the answer is pretty clear.

I wonder what made you try it when you didn't want to? Because he's good looking? I bet there are hundreds of men who are better looking than him somewhere around you. It shouldn't be the case. I find it troubling.

He is very good-looking! I have not attracted a better-looking man yet. Yes, I probably can find someone even more attractive. But, I am tired of looking around for now. May be, I will later but for now, he will do.

So what? There are so many men out there who are very good looking. It doesnt mean they can do whatever they want with you.

All I'm saying is that your needs and boundaries should be your top #1 priority. Please, take care of yourself.

Fun fact: girls who get all the handsome guys have strong boundaries. If they dont like something, you either accept it or you're out. It's very attractive trait in women

How do you feel after interacting with this guy? Do you feel comfortable with him? Apart from having tried different sexual activities. This is normal among a couple.
The key is how you feel towards the relation and how you feel towards yourself. I mean, consider if you are giving too much and you can end up being hurt. If he’s showing empathy towards your needs...I lack of information about all this.

I’m not intended this to be a third grade, so, no need to answer.

I’m taking into account what you said about being neglected by your close family, so this is always something to consider when relating to other people.

He and I chatted online for a while. I still like him a lot. He and I are busy now so can't see each other in person. I am having some health issues so need to be alone and see the doctor to address them. He is understanding.

I asked him why he likes sex in the back


So, we are getting along well. He is charming and sexy. I adore him. but know I need to be happy with myself and take care of myself first. I am trying to do this. We don't see each other that often for now. I need to fix my health issues then see if I can see him afterwards.

Asking someone you've just meet for **** sex is a definition of charm LOL

You have hardly been together long enough for him to need variety. I think it says a LOT about this man that he asks for this type of sex upfront. I am not sure WHAT it says about him, but to me, it rubs me the wrong way. Like, that's something you work into as the relationship progresses and as you learn to trust someone and want to experiment. But to ask for this upfront? Very bold.

And you say you adore him again, without hardly knowing him. Be careful please.

Yes, I understand. He is aggressive and forward. But, this is what makes him attractive to me. I like dominant men who are assertive. So, sometimes I get run over by them so I need to be careful. However, I do like him so I will try to sift through his flaws and see if his personality is compatible with me.

He talks about other things besides this.

But, he is fixated on it. I have met some other man where he is from who also suggested to me. I think it might be his cultural upbringing. I just can't get over his appearance. He has long legs and is in great shape. He has an ideal body for soccer. He is macho and dominant. But, getting back to the point, I think men from his area of the world are sexist pigs, and I'm used to this kind of behavior from my family.

I should get a nice man who treats me well, but I have never met a nice man who treats me well. They act nice initially but just want sex also.

So, I have to say I will just stick to this man for a while until I get tired of him.

I heard that men who demand anything out of the ordinary are usually porn obsessed. They don’t care about the woman, they just got to play the fantasy. Or they don’t want to really do it but they sure like to talk about it. He probably watches lots of porn. He doesn’t even know you yet he already wants variety like he is already tired of regular sex with you. I am not impressed.

But, does he has a fixation with **** sex or he’s open to other kinds of sexual activity?
Because **** sex hurts as hell. But on his behalf is very pleasant. While it’s not his @ss the one that is put on the table.

You already got the answer when you didn’t include him into someone who treats you the way you want. Kick his stinking @ss out, at once.

I don't talk to him that much or see him that much. When we do talk, he is pleasant. I like him so will keep him for a while. We are just sex buddies. We get along though as well. I understand how people feel about him. But, I'm the one dealing with him and am happy with him so far.

I don't know when I will see him again. I am having my own problems that I need to resolve first. I told him about them, and he is understanding. He is willing to wait for me.

As for his fixation, I don't think I'm going to do anything about it until I resolve my own issues. So, there is no rush. We get along really well.

He is nice to me so far.

I am ok with him. Besides his fixation, we do talk about other things. He seems to be doing ok and is overall happy.

I don't have problems with him for now. So, if we continue to get along, I think we will be ok.

I heard that she said her brother's sister... you know how it goes I watch lots of pornn and I don't do as this man does. It's not a rule IMO.

I think the man's attitude has a lot to do with some deeper psychological issues that may cause some kind of a drive for adrenaline? That'd be my guess.

I agree that of course it’s not a rule. I just heard from actual people who actually had partners asking for it and every time it was because they saw it in porn and thought it would be exciting. Could be psychological issue too. Listen, overall whatever consenting adults want to do is fine. What makes it ridiculous is him insisting to get it from a total stranger before he even get to know her and learning what she likes erc

I have not been seeing him lately due to my minor health issues. We still talk but nothing important. I am happy nevertheless. I am not too concerned about him and vice versa.

I think we might drift apart. I'm not sad about it.

As long as you are feel ok, it’s fine.
Having minor health issues shouldn’t have to be a problem to have a relationship with someone. And much less a relation like the one you mentioned you wanted. A person to spend some free time with.

I don’t remember if I already mentioned to you this, but maybe trying somewhere else, not in the dating sites but doing an activity you may enjoy and where you can meet people. If you don’t have problems to connect with others, maybe it’s a better context to meet the person a little, with other people around, see how this person manage with others. Maybe, being only friends at the beginning. I think in this context, you will have more opportunities to save your time and see what it may be more worthy.