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Old Jun 18, 2021, 07:44 PM
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We met again. He told me about himself. He is nice and sweet. He said he would return to meet me again. So far, it is going well. He has a kid and is working hard to pay for his upkeep. He also has his own store which keeps him busy. I think we are heading in the right direction. I will take it one day at a time. I am in no rush to do anything. I was happy he decided to meet me again. All smiles!
And I’m very happy for you because I know it’s not easy to find a person you (me...whoever) suits well with. And dating sites are like a lottery.
You are being very courageous and you learnt a lot about what you want and what you don’t.
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Old Jun 19, 2021, 02:49 AM
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Who cares about football (soccer) in front of this product of gods.
The majority of men and many women who see more than looks, you shallow lady He lost so many games with my team that I honestly doubt he has balls.. it may change if he beats Spain today (highly unlikely).
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Old Jun 21, 2021, 12:53 AM
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So, this soccer player and I will not work out, I believe. He keeps talking about his ex-wife and son. I think he is having a hard time letting go. So, I will let him go. I understand it is hard for him. I don't have any hard feelings for him but don't think it is going to work out. He also smokes which I don't appreciate. He was a nice fling though.
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Old Jun 21, 2021, 01:58 AM
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So, this soccer player and I will not work out, I believe. He keeps talking about his ex-wife and son. I think he is having a hard time letting go. So, I will let him go. I understand it is hard for him. I don't have any hard feelings for him but don't think it is going to work out. He also smokes which I don't appreciate. He was a nice fling though.

Fling? You already had sex?

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Old Jun 21, 2021, 12:16 PM
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The majority of men and many women who see more than looks, you shallow lady He lost so many games with my team that I honestly doubt he has balls.. it may change if he beats Spain today (highly unlikely).
You beat us. By far. You have the clearest options to score. Spanish selection, my team, didn’t play well from the get go. We have no chance. But, well...it’s a game. I’m happy your team still have chance.
Anyway, I don’t think my team or your team will have much future in this European competition. But, I’m happy to see Paulo Sousa again.
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Old Jun 21, 2021, 12:30 PM
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So, this soccer player and I will not work out, I believe. He keeps talking about his ex-wife and son. I think he is having a hard time letting go. So, I will let him go. I understand it is hard for him. I don't have any hard feelings for him but don't think it is going to work out. He also smokes which I don't appreciate. He was a nice fling though.
Well for you!

What I don’t understand is why in the Earth he’s in a dating site when he’s still hanged to his ex.
It’s clear that you are not gonna be his clear cloth.
You do well with putting a distance. 👍
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Old Jun 21, 2021, 01:39 PM
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We have no chance
Just beat Slovakia and you're back lol
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Old Jun 22, 2021, 12:29 PM
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Just beat Slovakia and you're back lol
I’m not religious, so I don’t believe in miracles lol!
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Old Jun 22, 2021, 12:42 PM
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@bpforever1, my apologises for derailing your thread.
It wasn’t my intention. Paulo Sousa is to be blamed.

Said that, how are you doing? I was just thinking on one side that you are very brave for trying on a dating site (I mean that I wouldn’t ever dare to because of my social phobia with people) on another side, I was wondering if you have time and have considered the possibility to meet people in other social circles, such as, doing tasks you enjoy. I don’t know how much free time you have and from your posts I deduced you are at your limits with energy to do stuff. Only asking you about this possibility where you can see people’s faces right away.
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Old Jun 23, 2021, 06:02 PM
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I am not seeing anyone now. I feel fine. After seeing one man after another, I am tired of it. So, it is nice to be doing things that I want. I will be fine. Besides, I still talk to other men online but they are just buddies for now. One I have known for over two years online. We are penpals. I need to take a rest from dating. I had no luck again and know it might be wise to just be happy with myself.
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Old Jun 24, 2021, 11:01 PM
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Hmm, we- the soccer player and I, did not talk for a few days and he just texted me wanting to see me again. I said ok. So, we will meet again! Someone told me to tell him that I don't want to listen about his ex-wife. Hmmm, I will just nod and listen but not say anything. I am not sure he will bring it up again anyways. It is nice he wants to see me again! I am in a way happy. I'm not perfect either but hope we get along and do well. Thank you all for your comments!!
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Old Jun 25, 2021, 07:12 AM
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One topic that usually gives lots of information is how the person talks about his or her exes but if I would understood well from what you wrote, he practically monopolised the conversation talking about how he is still in love with his ex-wife or at least, he still misses her.

If I’m right in my interpretation, if not, forget about my following comments, if I’m right, he’s anything but considerate. He has multiple options to talk about this topic with someone else but not his date.
Even if he were the same David Beckham himself, I wouldn’t give him a third choice to do this.

If you see he’s being bored again about the same topic, as soon as he begins to talk in the same terms about the topic of his wife, I would bring out all the stories about my past exes (even invented) and I would left as soon as I could.
But, this is what I would personally do.
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Old Jun 25, 2021, 07:15 AM
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Anyway, I don’t want to be negative. I’m talking from what I have interpreted. I don’t know this guy or everything you guys talked about.
I wish you enjoy!
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Old Jun 25, 2021, 05:33 PM
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I see what you are saying! Yes! I think this time he won't talk about it hopefully. I will change the subject if he does. Thank you for your insight, Azul!
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Old Jul 03, 2021, 07:10 AM
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We met again and we ate dinner. He did not talk about his family this time. He seemed tired from work and was rather quiet. He was happy to see me. We are talking more on social media than before. I usually wait for him to message me. We are doing fine. He said we would meet again when we both have time. I think after the other man who made me tired or I was tired while meeting him, I realize that I like dominant men who have nice bodies. This is my preference. So, I believe the soccer player- the man I'm meeting now- will satisfy me and does so far. He is tall and has a nice body. He is also polite and nice to me. I like him a lot. Also, I don't think we will be anything serious at this stage. We are just seeing each other for companionship. He makes me happy for now. And, this is all that matters to me. I don't want to be in a serious relationship right now since I need to focus on myself and my health. I think the last man was overwhelming since we met once or twice a week for meals and companionship. I was becoming tired. Now, I changed my diet and cut out junk food. I feel a whole lot better but don't want to repeat the same situation with this current man. So, I'm glad he is busy with his business and sees me only when he has time. I believe it will work out between us. We are not meeting that often and keep our lives separate. I need my space and he needs his. So, this man is a better fit for me. He is attractive, sexy, polite, and nice!
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I don't see why you don't spend some quality time alone without dating? It's been one man after another and each time it ends, you say you want to spend more time alone taking care of yourself and your own life. The last guy wore you out. Then you meet someone else and all that goes out the window. Why are you afraid to be alone? And sorry if I'm being too forward. I just wonder why it is you cannot be alone, when you say you want to be and to spend time working on your own life.
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Old Jul 04, 2021, 02:56 PM
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I like him a lot but don't know if I should accommodate his desire when I'm not really into it.

It might feel good if done right though so I don't know if I should take a chance.

So, I should tell him that I'm not too interested in doing it and have but he really wants to do it.

Well, I will let him go if he keeps insisting on doing it.

But, we should talk and see what he says.

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I don't see why you don't spend some quality time alone without dating? It's been one man after another and each time it ends, you say you want to spend more time alone taking care of yourself and your own life. The last guy wore you out. Then you meet someone else and all that goes out the window. Why are you afraid to be alone? And sorry if I'm being too forward. I just wonder why it is you cannot be alone, when you say you want to be and to spend time working on your own life.
Yes, I have been alone off and on. I am alone still although seeing this man. He is not my boyfriend but just a lover. I don't see any harm with being with a man for sex. We see each other for dinner and sex but that is about it. Is there something wrong with this?

I'm not in a relationship with him so he is not overwhelming. But, he is demanding that I have sex with him in ways I don't prefer. So, I will try to talk with him about it.

I prefer my interaction with him since we don't interfere with each other's lives. I just need to talk to him about his desires.

He is not too much trouble so far.

Also, I'm doing quite well. So, if I work on myself I will continue doing what I am doing whether or not I'm with someone.
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Old Jul 05, 2021, 06:36 AM
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I would just dump him if you've told him no a couple times and he keeps persisting about it - but maybe you haven't told him yet?
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Old Jul 05, 2021, 06:43 AM
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Yes, I'm entertaining the idea. I will try and if it feels awful, I will let him go. I am game for anything at this age. If it turns out well, then I will be happy! If not then too bad for us. I am not a prude and am very in-tuned with my desires. So, I will give it a go and see what happens.

Thank you though for your insight!

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Old Jul 05, 2021, 07:20 AM
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Yes, I have been alone off and on. I am alone still although seeing this man. He is not my boyfriend but just a lover. I don't see any harm with being with a man for sex. We see each other for dinner and sex but that is about it. Is there something wrong with this?

I'm not in a relationship with him so he is not overwhelming. But, he is demanding that I have sex with him in ways I don't prefer. So, I will try to talk with him about it.

I prefer my interaction with him since we don't interfere with each other's lives. I just need to talk to him about his desires.

He is not too much trouble so far.

Also, I'm doing quite well. So, if I work on myself I will continue doing what I am doing whether or not I'm with someone.
No, there is nothing wrong with just wanting sex with someone. I just was observing and perhaps I was off-based. It seemed as though you were going from man to man without any breaks or real time alone.
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Old Jul 05, 2021, 11:52 AM
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I will try and if it feels awful, I will let him go. I am game for anything at this age.
Why would you do something against your will for someone you barely know? If he cant accept you not wanting it, you should let him go because hes a very low quality man.

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Old Jul 05, 2021, 11:54 AM
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I like him a lot but don't know if I should accommodate his desire when I'm not really into it.

It might feel good if done right though so I don't know if I should take a chance.

So, I should tell him that I'm not too interested in doing it and have but he really wants to do it.

Well, I will let him go if he keeps insisting on doing it.

But, we should talk and see what he says.
I agree with Big Bubba. You stated you're not into this idea and it does seem you are just accommodating HIS wishes. Why do something you're not into? BTW, it HURTS and is NOT comfortable - for me anyways.
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it HURTS and is NOT comfortable
Everybody always say the same thing
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