Asking for other people's phone number

Yeah a nice group of friends would be nice but I never truly had a good group since college and even that group was a bit shady. I currently have just one friend but I don't get too close to her due to her on and off behavior which hints that she isn't someone you can get close to. She's one of those people who say you guys are best friends but deep down inside you know it's really not true. Another actual group would be nice though at some point but that most likely won't happen since most adults only have 1-3 friends and usually they're not friends with each other or even know each other which is okay to be honest.

I haven’t had that since I was around that age either and we weren’t exactly CLOSE close, but we knew each other and hung out. Hence I live through my tv shows. Same with the close family on Blue Bloods. On and off behavior is definitely not someone to count on, so not a real friend.

Supposedly most adults do just have 1 or 2 real friends but if they know each other, that could be a mixed bag. They could end up talking about you, that’s happened to me. Or they gossip about someone we both know. Adults, not teens!

I see so many people on their phones all the time and I wonder now who are they talking to. I wonder if they are close friends or just acquaintances. Or someone they know online only. Same with groups of people I see. Are they real friends?



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Yep exactly, basically she is one of those friends that you can hang out with to just enjoy some company but I wouldn't count on her to be there when things get bad or for her to stay if she found someone else she'd rather spend time with. Honestly I think most people are like that, it's so common that I just never get close to anyone. In fact, I do remember someone else responded on a thread I created a while back that when people say they're best friends with you or even just close friends, that's probably how they feel at that particular moment in time but that feeling may be fluid and could change very quickly which makes perfect sense. I've seen people who claim they are the closest of friends and who are seen literally everywhere together just suddenly hate each others guts which is actually quite sad seeing that happen to be honest.

I’ve had “friends” like that. Notice I say HAD. She added no value to my life at all and is not in it now.

I AM close to one person and have had close friends before. But it’s getting harder as I get older and they seem more fluid than before. I don’t expect things to last. “Fair weather friends” are easy to find but not ones that stick by you through thick and thin. Just one more close friend would go a long way. And I know some people have friends they have known since childhood, going through life together. I never had that. I don’t see how they pull that off really.

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Yep most friendships are fluid, I don’t expect anything to last either. I agree fair weather friends are easy to find, I think most people are fair weather friends and have fair weather friends. In terms of people having friendships since childhood, I actually think most of them had a small hiatus in the friendship where they weren’t talking and it doesn’t even have to be for a bad reason. Just the passage of time can separate people and bring them back together, I never had a life long friendship either.

I’m not a fair weather friend and you don’t sound like one either.

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Oh thanks and I'm glad you're not a fair weather friend.