People getting overly angry at you over small stuff as a sign of disrespect

Same here, though the government calls me "elderly". I think you once said you're in your 30's. That's not even CLOSE to "elderly." Yeah I see both sides too. Not everyone feels their chronological age or look it; people have judged me for my appearance and ask what am I doing in a senior center?

I'm not too thrilled with it but there's nowhere else to go around here.

Yep I'm 33 and yeah it's common for people to judge unfortunately.

My ex liked to judge and make character assessments, or attacks based off of small things I did, or misunderstandings.

A week after I broke up with him, he started text bombing me about that one time I didn’t do his laundry for him, or complete the yard work because I didn’t live there and had to go into work. Of course he forgot about the fact I had to go to work and said I just left it because I am lazy and self centred.

He also brought up that one time he was opening up to me and I was cold to him. Nothing of the sort even really happened to my knowledge. It was something that happened a couple months ago but of course this was never really discussed while I was with him at the time.

It’s like they’re digging up anything they can to make you feel bad or sorry in a hopes they’ll feel some sort of control or power over you.

My mans could not understand I broke up with him because I considered his addiction to be out of control and toxic to my health. He got mad at me and accused me of making him uncomfortable for asking him to smoke outside; like most smokers get that’s just basic consideration to the health of others.

The accusations of “greedy and selfish” could really be applied to the lack of consideration surrounding his addiction to smoking and alcohol.

He got mad at me for not relaxing and drinking more around him.

Like if your partner breaks up with you because you refuse to acknowledge how toxic your addictions are, and in fact you try to make your partner feel uncomfortable for setting reasonable boundaries, the problem is you.

I broke up with this guy a week and half ago so it’s still fresh in my mind.

I’m sorry you went through all that and I’m glad you broke free. Some people refuse to accept they have a problem and don’t want to accept responsibility for their mistakes. They will always find fault in others and blame others for their mistakes as well. You made the right move and hopefully you find someone better and know you now have some peace in your life.