My step dad bought my mom and himself tickets to a concert tonight as her valentines day gift for some guy named George straight or something like that i think (i may have just made up that name) but anyway they left at 6 and the concert started at 8 and they said they would be home late. Well my mom walks in sobbing at 8 and i am like why are you home so early? well turns out they had a huge fight and i am standing there in the kitchen cleaning this hamster cage and im not really sure what to do so i ask her what happened and she just tells me all these things about how my step dad told her she is OCD and narsastic and he wished she would jump out of the car moving at 65mph and how she runined his life and made him unhappy and everything is her fault. I feel so bad. I hate seeing my mom cry and i wish i knew what to say to her. She says she i so unhappy but she feels "stuck" in the relationship because she cant afford to raise 3 more daughters on her own and she doesnt know where we would go and i dont know what to do because this just assures me that i cant tell my mom my "secret" but things seem to slowly be getting worse in every aspect of my lfie everyday. I dont even know what to do..sometimes i seriously just wonder...if maybe... i should...nevermind..

[Perna]

Court, good memory, there is a George Strait, good country singer :-) http://www.georgestrait.com/

Wait a bit before you panic about your mother and stepfather; it could have just been an ugly fight. Your stepfather should not have called your mother names and yelled at her like that but it is their fight. Hang around a bit and see what happens. You cannot solve your mother's problems or help.

It's too bad it's not a good time to tell your mother about your problems. But see what happens in the next week or so, it could get better. Hang with us here meanwhile and let us know how it's going.

[I_WMD]

Court ,,, WE Need To Talk ....

Ya know me ,, I have that funny way of been there done that thing in many instances through many situations ,,,, But For Real .... I will Listen and Give as to my worn them shoes type opinion .

Perna this happens all the time, these fights of theirs. This one was the wrost in a while but its so.. fustrating.

We all thought he was drunk the other night so we locked ourselves upstairs and i felt like i had to take care of my mom and little sister and make sure nothing happened and that is too much stress for me to add to everything that i go through already. Not to mention the next day we find out oh he wasnt drunk he took too many pills. geez urgdikfml i dont even know what to do

[splitimage]

Court Knee,

I can see why you'd be upset. It's never easy to see our parents fight, or be upset. I also don't think it's particularly fair for parents to dump their problems on their kids. Your Mom sounds like she has a lot of problems on her plate right now, and I know you probably don't want to be one more. But that doesn't mean that you shouldn't be getting the help you need, particularly if things are getting worse for you. Does your school have a guidance councellor you can talk to. That might help, or at least might help you figure out a way to talk to your mom about your problems.

--splitimage

[youOme]

Court...do you live in WV? We had the George Strait concert today too...not that I would know personally, my friend went with her husband.

no the concert was in Philly

[sujunew]

(((((court)))))
take care of you, and remember that you are not the adult in this family, you are the child and are not responsible for any of their fights or for being strong for everyone afterwards. It sounds like no matter how bad things might be at home, or how much your mum appears to need you right now, you need her. And how upset would she be if things went waaay downhill for you and she hadn't known coz you were trying to 'protect' her?
xxx

[ozzie]

Hi Court. I think if you share your troubles with your mom it might distract her from her own. It sounds like it would do her good to be of help to someone. We all feel better about ourselves after we've helped someone through a tough time.

[Bethsway]

I agree with ozzie...please share your hurt with your mom!
and I hope things will get better at home...thinking of you...(((court knee)))))))))

[ECHOES]

Do you have a school counselor or a pastor you could talk to? You can ask to talk to a pastor even if you aren't a part of that church. Or is there a crisis line for families in need of help in your phone book under Social Services or Behavrioral Health services?

Could you suggest to your mom that you and she look to see what kind of help might be out there if she were to decide to leave your stepdad? Right now she's afraid of the unknown and getting some facts might help her to feel better and realize that she does have options.

to you. You have (too) much on your shoulders.

[BalishBun]

wow that was harsh of him. RUDE RUDE RUDE. Stick by your mother, she obviously went through a lot and probably has a lot on her mind. That is so sad that a human being can say such hateful things.