soooooooooo..... when I get done talking to my friend.. I feel exhausted....

I can... say... I am enjoying the cooler weather... and SUDDENLLY... she is debating that it is really not cooler.. and what am I talking about.. and.. and.. and.. and.. and..

and 10 minutes later... she has wound down... and I have been listening the whole time....

and then... I will say... ahhh... I saw the cutest.. German Short Haired Pointer doggie.. and he was.. smaller than yours was.. and he was friendly... and licked my face..

and then... well friend says.. well she couldn't have been a pure bred.. and.. and.. and.. and.. and.. and.. ending with.....you had better not be thinking about getting one...

is this the way conversations are supposed to go?????

I mean I have male friends.. and it is just sorta... well.. not Great Debates....

so is it me???? are there "safe" topics I could talk about with my friend???
Ones that won't..... trigger her...

[Fuzzybear]

[Conquistador]

Some people like to argue. That is just the way they are, they are comfortable with that type of relationship. They'll go "Blah blah blah you suck because of this and that and I'm always right Blah blah blah."

It's most likely not the topics, it's just the person you are talking to.

[bonaire]

A bit narcissitic. My mom is like that. Every conversation I've had with her is 90% one sided, on her side. I'd feel lectured to at the dinner table with her as a kid. And, it was just me and her (dad had died when I was 6, no siblings, adopted). Even today, at 43, the conversations are all the same. If I bring up a topic, she talks about her perspective of the topic with very little interest on my part. I guess that's what narcissic tendencies do. She "means well" - but doesn't empathize well.

[recluse1]

maybe this friend does not have anyone else to talk to so while she has your attention she talks your head off because she is lonely.

then again, it may just be her personality. Some people need situations like that to feel excited about something.

IDK, I hope you can find a way to deal with it so that you don't feel exhausted by her. I have someone too who is like a energy zapper when I get around them. It's no fun for sure!

[crazybones]

i can relate i some times do that to my friends they will try to talk and keep going and going like the energizer bunny for hours to i cant seem to stop myself i get so into a topic i just get lost in time

I had a friend who was draining me. She was having difficulties with depression, but wouldn't seek any help as far as treatment so our conversations were coming to a standstill.. She would just complain about how awful everything was.

I was seeking treatment for my own depression & just felt like she was "stuck" & dragging me down. I tried to talk to her about it & it didn't go well. We hardly ever speak anymore.

Good idea on my part? Don't know for sure, but I felt like I needed to have more positive people in my life. I felt like she was dragging me down.--Suzy