Forgive me for being a kid for a minute....

Good to see you defining yourself and not accepting poor treatment from morons

Ugh, I'm so sorry Christina. If you are still wanting a relationship at some point, the right guy will be out there. Someone who wants to partner, not control. Schmucks need not apply. I'm sorry that happened to you. You are worth a lot more than that and I'm glad you know that.

Hi,
That guy is not a flirt, he's a cad. A big difference between the two.

I am a flirt and I do it with taste. A true flirt leaves you feeling good about yourself and a bit of mystery about him. Flirting can be and is fun. The boundaries need to be respected. I like flirting because it does no harm and makes people feel good. Leading someone on is not flirting, it is caddish behavior.

Just my .02cents on the subject of flirting.

I am glad you found out about him and then disposed of him.
I wouldn't not avoid his place of work or give him the satisfaction of knowing how I feel about him. I would just be polite and civil to him. That would be oh so powerful because you are rejecting him with out anger.

> Schmucks need not apply.

Wear a sign that says that?

(((((((((Everyone)))))))))))))

Your thoughts, wisdom and support (and even the laughs..., thanks pachyderm, that's funny!) ... are greatly appreciated.

I think perhaps I will go see him later this week. But for now, I need to deal with other things... and I'm being good, none of my friends (minus one or two) know where he works, so they cant go hurt him (believe me, some of my friends *really* want to hurt this one).

Ah well. Good experience... and he did make me feel a bit better about myself, however temporary.

((Christina))

I agree with 50's Guy. Flirts just want to make everyone feel better.
Cads are creeps. Dishonest intentions.

I have guy friends who are flirts. They don't have bad intentions.

You can have a wonderful relationship or marriage, whatever you want with a flirtatious guy or gal, and because one flirts, it doesn't mean you aren't exclusive to them - visa-versa.

A flirt may not be a good match for a possessive person, a controller, or a very insecure or jealous person.

Just a few thoughts so we aren't hating on flirts ... after all, who would make our day when our self-talk doesn't make it over the net?

A cad now - that's a person cut from a different cloth.
They are users and their words are cheep.
Actions speak louder than words... and a cad will usually get found out.
Selfish is as selfish does.

Glad you gave up on him, and remember, never let him see he got to you - he doesn't deserve to think he is that special!

peace and love,
night