Great guy, but he smokes pot

wants2fly,

This is great insight ! here you have the ability to see how you can help in this matter not only others but myself here. I have a 51 year old boyfriend never married who just after 8 months replied to my question when I asked him if he was back to smoking that he was doing another kind of smoking. He did not mention marijauna but that is what he is doing and has done this throught out his life 30 plus years. TELLING me this has now placed me at risk with my Govt. job . I feel that I do not know enough of this drug and what makes me sad is that he is always at church with a confession of being a right and just man .Without seeing what this drug is doing inside of him .He is always working out at the gym his eating habbits are so poor and well he is highly successful as a editor for a local newspaper but what can I look forward to in a future with a man who is a pot smoker ? Give me some insight here.

Thanks Texaswoman 2468

texaswoman,

if it will hurt you professionally, that is something that you will have to deal with. as far as affects on him, he has been doing it for 30 years, if it was going to do something horrible to him i think it would already have done it. imho pot smoking is no worse(if not better) than drinking alcohol. and like alcohol if taken to the extreme, it can be harmful, but occasional use is(other than the legal ramifications) better than drinking. jmho

lost

I can't grasp the idea that it's okay to do something that negatively affects your partner's career or safety or legality. The justification that it's better than drinking is absurd, imo. It's illegal. If a person needs a way to unwind and relax there are many other ways to do that. Conintuing a behavior that has harmful consequences to oneself or an important other speaks loudly about the relationship. Being a willing partner in that kind of relationship also speaks loudly.