[agony007]

well as many of you know i have been going through the seperation process since march of this year. things are pretty smoothe now between us now. but now we have a new dilema. it appears that my hub may have cancer. i feel devastated for him. he doesn't want to confirm for sure that he does have it to me. he doesn't want to include me in this ordeal, yet the devastation on his face spoke a million words yesterday. i cried with him because i was so taken aback by the mere possibility that he may have this terrible disease. i still feel emotional today when i think about it. and it has basically consumed my thoughts all day. i know that i want to be there for him 100% through it if he does have it. because he has been there for me when i have been sick. i don't feel that i owe him this, but i can't imagine not supporting him through this situation even though it was me who asked for the divorce. just wanted to let this out, thanks for listening.

[CedarS]

I fully understand, when I found out that my sister had leukemia, any past problems were no longer important at all.

Please take good care of yourself through this.

[wanttoheal]

((((((((((Agony))))))))))
I'm so sorry. I understand. It's very understandable that you would want to be there for him. I wish you guys both the best.

(((agony)))))))))))))))))))
I am so sorry I just saw this
I hope things have turned around
muffy

[Wants2Fly]

Wishing you all the best. You sound like an honorable person.

Statistically,many men leave their wives soon after a serious illness is diagnosed.

[agony007]

thanks muffster, thanks wants..

we are waiting for results. he is on some meds. he is still of the same opinion, not wanting to include me in his ordeal. though we have been spending time together, and to be quite honest i have been questioning my decision to divorce him now. not because of the possibility of him having cancer but because of my feelings for him. i think that there may be hope for our relationship. maybe if we really did try counseling which we never did before it might help. i don't know i am confused. i am not going to make any rash decisions right now. i am gonna try to sort out my feelings and see where my heart truly lies. thanks for hearing me out guys.

-agony

[sabby]

(((((((((((((((( agony & ex )))))))))))))))))

Such a difficult time for you both right now. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.


sabby

[MyBestKids2]

Hi agony007

I went through the almost same exact thing last year, and posted about it here. I had so many people suggesting this and that, but in the end, I had to make the final decision. Perhaps having young children swayed mine a different way ...I dunno.

Please PM me if you need someone to talk to, or just whatever!

Take care,


Dee

[agony007]

thanks sabby and mybestkids.

mybestkids, i have 2 little ones to ( 9 and 4). i am really not sure what to do at this point. last night i was thinking, an ex is an ex for a reason. and i was recalling all the reasons why i asked for the divorce in the first place. we spent the weekend together and it was nice. but i realized that the reason i enjoyed it is because at the end of the day he can go home and i can stay in my home. i want to be there for him through this ordeal. but i think that we are better seperated than we are together. we'll see what happens. argh i hate this. thanks for listening to my rants.