Help me distract myself...

Anyone got any advice on how to stop thinking about someone that you shouldn't be? I met up with an ex the other day to catch up when he visited my city, and it was fun (no lines were crossed) but now he's returned home, and I feel.... weird. I don't want anything to happen there (nor should it, as I have a bf who I am in love with) but I just can't get him out of my head... Ideas for distraction mechanisms? This will go away eventually right?

Allow yourself to think about him, no laws broken there, I'm sure you still hold postive feelings toward him as we don't just switch on and off emotionally as cut and dry as you may like it to be.....the more you tell yourself not to do something, the more you do it...

That is certainly true... in anyone's experience, do these feelings fade away eventually? I have no doubt that in a few weeks I won't be thinking about it so much, but if this happens every time I see him (which is roughly once a year) maybe it would be best to cut off contact?

I agree with Mouse, let yourself think about them...only I would recommend thinking about what the feelings *mean to you*.

Often times we are triggered by other people, and your ex is definitely triggering something inside of you...what is it?

In my experience, once I figure out what it means for me, personally, the feelings fade in intensity. It is like they are there to teach me a lesson, and once the lesson is learned, the feelings go on their way.