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Oct 13, 2008, 06:04 AM
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and he said I got mad at him over nothing. I explained the tone in my voice wasn't mad, I was irritated by the conversation and the fact I was repeating something that I had told him several times, and up until then didn't know that he had no clue I had been bringing it up. Then when I pointed out bringing it up he goes "oh well that was 2 months ago." I said that's fairly recent and he said "No! It isn't!" I said well still I'm not mad just irritated, and he even argued with me about that, saying the difference doesn't matter the tone in my voice bothered him so it doesn't matter that I wasn't mad. Said I may not "know" that I'm upset, but I am.
This was all yesterday evening and I'm still crying about it I don't know what to do about it, am I really wrong for being "irritated over nothing"? He said I was mad but I wasn't, and to me it wasn't nothing I was irritated over feeling all the times I brought it up and said something about it, I was wasting my time and getting nowhere because it obviously had no impact kept telling me too that he couldn't remember me saying anything (we even had a big argument about it about 2 months ago, and trying to bee a good g/f that was the last time I said anything about it to him. I did not realize he would forget. I hate myself right now and I'm not sure if that's fair because I don't know I did anything wrong?
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Oct 13, 2008, 06:40 AM
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what sucks is that i'm not telling him he's wrong for having a feeling based on how he thought I was sounding, but please listen to me and don't disagree with me when I'm trying to tell you about my own feelings! I wasn't irritated by just the way he felt, that had nothign to do with it but of course I'm the bad guy and I should not have even felt irritated at all, so in this I would not have expressed any irritation at all. I wasn't insulting him, cursing at him, or raising my voice, NONE OF THAT. I DON'T NEED THIS **** RIGHT NOW.
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Oct 13, 2008, 07:49 AM
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I'm sorry 2bfree,,,but I can't find the reason for the miff...
I think when there is uncertainty in our lives we can tend to be fearfull and insecure and thus work things into more than they are..When frustrated and/or in pain we tend to look for absolutes,,real answers or reasons for what is or has happened...but generally there are none.. We need to seek a sense of thoughtfull duality,,where we are working as hard on understanding the other side as much as our own....or in some cases even more so... It seems you love him...tell him that and let it go...  IMHO.. With care, Lenny
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Oct 13, 2008, 09:28 AM
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 He's upset with me, that's why I'm bothered, I was not upset with him, but this is why he is mad at me. I don't know what to do about that. I explained that my tone of voice was irritation at the topic, not at him, I'm not mad at him, what do I do about that? I know this is confusing that's what's wrong with me right now I can't get it worked out! I don't know how to apologize for being mad if I'm not mad? Trying to explain you are not mad when someone is telling you "you may not know it but you are" is something I can't figure out!
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Oct 13, 2008, 09:58 AM
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How bout getting him a small but 'special" little gift..something he enjoys with a card that simply states.."I Love You". Lenny
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Oct 13, 2008, 10:16 AM
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thank you for being there for me though I feel calm enough now to enjoy a walk, maybe that will do it  also he just asked me about something and didn't seem as grouchy as earlier
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