Am i stalking him? Im serious. I dont think i am.. but...

thank you deliquesce.

going with ur advice.

i think there are two issues here.

one is that you need your money back.
the other is that you are still contacting him thinking that you can still be friends.

decide which one is more important to you, and stick to it.

if you want your money back - contact him regarding only that.

if you want to be friends - then understand that he *might* (errrr.... i doubt it) be going through a hard time, and need some space. or something.

who cares if he thinks you are stalking him? seriously. just get your money back from this guy and cut your losses. the only reason you would care is if you valued his opinion, and i don't think he's shown himself to be someone you should really respect in that regard.

thank you. this time im going to take that advice. i get advice and everyone says something different and i always go the wrong way!
Yeah i want my money back. thats it. i was trying to catch up with him to explain stuff but maybe theres no real point...he says he cares, but dont show it.

thanks. i didn't think it was stalking. i dont call him on the phone. i dont go to his house. i dont go to his work. its like text messages.We both go on an internet site that has a chat feature. soon as i go on he goes offline. or hides. I dont know why. even if we are both on i dont send him any messages to chat. . . . . . if he wanted nothing to do with me, why ask to borrow money.

i will just contact him re the money. wait a week and then send a text.

Would there be anything i can say to make him realise that i took this MASSIVE leap of faith in him, ive trusted him and he is not acting the least bit grateful or appreaicative of it?

oh sweety - i forgot to give you a hug .

i just read over my post and it sounds so harsh and bossy . i just wanna look out for you and make sure he doesn't take advantage of you, yknow? maybe... a better idea would be...

get your money back (first) and then afterwards, see if he is still interested in an explanation? if he really does care, he will want to hear it. if he is just being a jerk, then at least you got your money back.

aww thanks thats ok. i think i needed it. i keep getting mushy advice from friends to tell him how i feel. its not working. i think im hurt more because he was my first. i dont know why he bothered with me. i dont want to go back there at all....i mean im even kind of seeing someone else lol

yea wanted to explain, mainly coz i have found out that i have actually been pretty sick for the past 2 months... ive only just found out why but been feeling really crap for ages. plus other stuff too lol.

i think he is a jerk right now. i dont know what i saw in him. he's damaged my trust in people a bit

Bebe...I hope you realize that any civil communication you receive from this man is probably only because he owes you money, and he's trying to placate you.
You can and will, I feel, hear only what you want to hear regarding advice, but the best and most self-respecting thing you can do is to let it go, stop contacting him, and get on with your life.
IF you want to file a police report and try to get your money back, that may help, but continuing communication with him is just futile.
Patty

i know your right. but for reasons i cant let it go. ive let him go ages ago. its the money.

once we get a transfer set up i can check if its going in my account with out even contacting him. thats what i want. once that is done. im done.

i think seeker's idea of filing a police report is a good one. will give him the kick he needs to set up the transfer.

i dont think there is anything you can say. stop trying to reach him, be_be. do what it takes to get your money, then run .