Very upset... very hurt

So the closest thing that I've had to a real friend just totally blew up in my face and it makes me realize how stupid I was... thinking I could seriously have a friend that cared about how I feel and would be patient with me. I'm so mad right now that I don't even know if I should even be posting.
About a week ago my friend whom I have known for about 7 years told me that if I wasn't even going to open up to him more and let him help me then he was going to give up on me. So me being to scared of people person that I am pushes him away and stopped talking to him for a week. I felt bad so on friday I called him to say I was sorry for freaking out and that I wanted to be friends under one condition... that he would be patient with me and let me take my time. He didn't answer.... so today I saw him online and started talking to him stating my conditions on rebuilding our friendship. Well one thing led to another and finally he ended up telling me that I was selfish for thinking that my problems with so much worse then some people in this world. When he didnt even KNOW what my problems were... I hadn't told him anything that has happened or anything about my life yet. He told me that I was "lame for thinking my life sucks so much" I don't understand how he seriously thought that this was going to HELP me. He swore that he cared about me and he swore that he wanted me to trust him.. He knows I have major trust issues and he just made them a million times worse... He told me that he is glad it's so easy to throw this relationship out the window... I just am so upset right now... I'm sorry about the rant. I guess I was stupid for thinking I could seriously have a real friend someday...

Oh sweety!!! I am so sorry. You have to be hurting so much right now! Is there any chance you two can meet face to face instead of online? Then you can read emotions, he can see how much he means to you and you can see that you are still important to him. Is there any chance that he has something major going on in his life right now so that he can't respond to you in a gentle and caring way?

You aren't stupid, you aren't!

He knows you have a hard time trusting--does he know why? If he doesn't have something going on in his own life right now, maybe he is frustrated at not being able to help you. You've known him for 7 years, he obviously cares a great deal about you and it's hard on us watching someone we care about hurt and not be able to help them. It is possible he just let his frustration with himself overflow to you. Please don't totally give up on a 7 year friendship. Those are hard to get over. I know he said some very, very hurtful things. Please know that you aren't lame--you are taking care of yourself, acknowledging your own issues, things you need to work on and that is mature, not lame.

I am so sorry that you're feeling this way. The ones we love the most are the ones that really know where our weak spots are.

I wouldn't write the friendship off just yet. My closest friends and I have had the worst fights imaginable and come out the other side still being friends. A friendship is like any other relationship it has it's ups and downs. But true friends don't have conditions, there are boundaries of course which is the source of the majority of fights.

Perhaps your friend was attempting to make you see that things are rarely as bad as they seem. That no matter what you've gone through in life, there is someone out there that has had it much worse. Sometimes when we get so wrapped up in everything that has gone wrong, we forget to appreciate the things that have gone right.

Sounds like your friend is as empathetic as my Dad&my bf. My Dad always says "Quit feeling sorry for yourself, go down to the ER& see how good you've got it." And my bf is always saying "I'm sick of your ****, I don't care about YOUR problems&the world isn't out to get you." Sure seems to me like it is an AWFUL LOT. Your friend was a butthead&I'd also try to talk to him face to face&ask him "What exactly are you expecting me to trust you enough to share&what have you done to earn that trust-what you're doing now isn't helping."

hugs for you
maybe you need to talk to him and explain what u have to deal with, coz he not even 1 second live ur life so he dont know for sure how its feel ...if he ur best friends he will understand and will never give up on you no matter what....i believe he really care about you he just dont know what to do to help you..so if you want he not give up on you so u must help him to help you....i know for sure its hard when everyone just give up on you....
more hugs for you....hope both of u could work it out soon

...... 1 ...... >>..... I was thinking you are getting better at sharing [ in chat ] ,,, that mmmmmmmm?? * Practice * dropping the guards a bit ,, and >> let out a laugh !

Here would be a way to go about it ; when ya hear something while hanging out , walking past ,, or in convo ,,, that you stifle a giggle from ....
Think ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, " P I C K L E S " ............now if this image doesn't get a full out LOL.WMD.

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