[SpazKatt]

So... here we go Monday is Feburary 14th, we all know what that means! Huge romantic pressure on everyone with a significant other and the feelings of worthlesness of those who don't seeing all the flowers, cards, kisses, and expensive dinners given to those who are blessed enough to be loved. I didn't hate it so much untill I broke up with my first serious boyfriend 2 years ago. This will be my second year alone on this day, and wow do I feel like crap about it. It seems that EVERY relationship with people that has clicked the person leaves within a few weeks yes the past FOUR relationships... ok Rich goes to Australia for a year to study, Chris#1 leaves for Switzerland for the summer, and comes back with a new love of his life, Adam leaves for florida, and now Chris#2 is leaving for Germany for six month ON MOndAY!!! how lucky am I??? Yup yup yup I'm doomed to die alone!!! or at least that's how I feel at the moment, why can't anyone see how beautiful I am or how fun I am or how wonderful I am??? and now, I've made myself cry... I knew I would. Dear god... why do you hate me so? what have I done to deserve this pain, why was I raped so that when I DO get close to someone I freak out, cry and those people run away from me...

[h0kie]

((((((((((Katt))))))))))

Valentine's day is just a day. It's a holiday dreamed up by card makers and chocolate makers. In my opinion, its a crock. Hubby and I resolved long ago not to do "Valentine's Day". We prefer to show our love everyday, not just one day a year.

I know right now it seems like you will never find someone. But you will. I promise. I've become a true believer in "these things happen for a reason". Who knows, Chris may be leaving Monday so that six weeks, six months, six years from now you will be available to meet someone better.

You're in my thoughts. You're a wonderful person, someday, a man will realize that. Maybe you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince.

[kimmydawn]

((((((((((((((((((((((((( katt ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

there is someone for you, sweety. someone who will be kind, understanding AND patient. you have so much to offer the right man...he's out there.

i'm sorry for what you've gone thru and how it's affecting you today. katt, you are so bright and special...ppl such as you are rare, so finding a mate to be equal to you may take some time but will be well worth the wait.

love,

kd

[SpazKatt]

1 day- my mom said the same thing about the frogs and gave me a little porcelian frog with a crown on it. She also said to never settle for anything less than wonderful.

Kimmy- thanks I can't belive it actually came out... I cried for a while after I wrote it... I still have tears but.. Im ok right? now am I?

[nothemama8]

Katt, you got to look for the prince and to find him takes time, ya don't want to get stuck with a frog do ya,
my hubby and I don't celebrate cuz we ain't going to make big companies wealthy
Angie
P.S.
Will you be my valentine

[kimmydawn]

katt,

usually traumatic things (when they do find their way "out") are just blurted...quickly. that's what happened with me when i was a younger woman. i was going to a p'doc for meds only...depression/anxiety. i was sitting in his office and blurt! he immediately scheduled me with a counselor in his office.

it's what you do with the information now that it's been blurted...often honey, that's the beginning of true healing.

sweet, safe hugs for you miss ((((((((((((((((( katt ))))))))))))))))

kd

[kimmydawn]

oh, and, katt? pm if you ever need to.

[obsids]

*big hugs*

Katt,
Valentines day is a marketing ploy. It is just a chance for card manufacturers and candy companies and jewelers to get their hands on your money. It was always a traumatic day for me, starting when I was schoolaged.... you know how those little valentines card things go... some kids always get left out.

I've been with my husband for 10 years now, and the anniversary of our first kiss is infinitely more important than some commercial spending spree day.

Don't feel bad about being alone on the 14th. It might be what you need right now... time to figure yourself out. Take some time for yourself instead... indulge in something special... a long hot bath or a new book or new shoes or whatever would be pampering to you. And don't let the stupid Hallmark company ruin your day.

Obsidian

[Wants2Fly]

Y'know what Katt? I hadn't given much thought to Valentine's day -- in fact, I still have the cards I usually send to my Mom and my aunt's on the table next to me still in their plastic wrap. But now that you mention, I am starting to feel a bit down about it. Or more truthfully, I had been starting to feel a bit down, and now that I've given it some thought, I think I'll just Valentine's Day to my list of justifications for feeling blue. Sigh.

[phoenix30]

Jeez, I know that feeling.

It seems that Val Day sucks for a lot of people - you and me included.

For those of you who have posted about budding/blooming relationships ending before they have begun - wow, thought it was just me...

I've made sure that i am going to be really busy on monday so with bit of luck, I'll be too busy to cry, haha.

A friend of mine always says 'you'll meet the right guy, when you least expect it blah blah blah'.

But really, how many frogs can a girl kiss???!!!

On days like these tho, when I'm feeling low, I think to myself "I've met a prince, and I turned him into a frog. It's my own fault.Somehow, I spoiled it." On good days, I know that's not really true. But when Monday comes along - it'll still suck, over commercialised mumbo jumbo or not, it'll still suck.

I hope you all have a good day, whatever your situation. I don't mean this to sound bitter (I really, really don't) but for those of you who have met 'the one' - I'm so jealous, I wish there was someone so significant in my life that 'we' could 'choose' not to bother with the whole Val Day Thing. How good must that feel?!

Stuff it - from me to me for Monday - a hug - (((((((((phoenix30)))))))))

Still going to suck tho.