Afraid of relationships

Well, the title pretty much explains it. A lot of people tell me I'm normal for my age, that it's not me, it's society telling kids to hook up so early, but heck, I definitely don't feel normal. I've never even had a crush and I'm 17!

(I mean really now, am I really that normal if every single person my age that I have ever known has had a boyfriend or girlfriend at least once in their life? Lord knows at least half of the kids in my graduating class aren't even virgins anymore.)

It just seems like anything beyond "hey let's be friends" is just too close. Frighteningly close. And I've never really felt that way about anybody either. And if it's even mildly hinted at that someone likes me in that way then it's scary, but 99.99999999999999999% of the time it's just some girls pretending that some person likes me in an attempt to harass me. Which got old after 6th grade.

What's "normal" for you and "normal" for me could be two completely diff things. Tho...it does seem a little bit odd you not even having a crush and being 17. One wonders if something has happened to you in the past, or if you have one of a few disorders that would cause this type of avoidance.

Are you actually affraid of a relationship, or do you not feel anything. There's a diff in that if you're affraid, of the intimacy, the closeness, of being hurt, etc., that's one thing, but if you're just numb and don't feel anything, that's another thing.

To be nosey, how's the family life? Do your parents show love, to each other and to you, hug, kiss, etc., do they express their feelings? This could also lead to more answers.

Let us know whats up!

Take care and God bless!

It's sort of hard to explain, because it's a little of both

And yes, my parent's are very loving people, to me and my brother. They've been divorced since I was 5 though, and I'd say my mom and step dad are in a very loving relationship. My dad loves my to-be-step mom a lot but she also has a lot of insecurities from past bad husbands so it seems like whenever they talk to each other on the phone he has to spend a lot of time reassuring her and arguing with her because she says bad stuff about him and herself.

((((((((((((((Kaika))))))))))))))))))

There is nothing wrong with you hun!!!

Everyone grows at their own pace, for some people relationships are something that takes a back burner on the stove of life.

I was just in my first relationship, it didn't last long, but I am 19 and that was my first expernice with it, Don't sweat it, your better of focusing on school and stuff. Relationships are hectic and have a lot of give and take, enjoy life while your young!!

As for the crush thing, maybe noone has caught your eye, takes two to tango and if noone is sparking your interest then your not going to have a crush.

I wouldn't worry about it hun, your graduating school soon and will be going to college, there will be many opportunities there, and you'll meet lots of people and make lots of new friends. Let things flow at their own pace, your doing great hun!

Hugs and always here if ya need to talk
Sparrow

It just seems like anything beyond "hey let's be friends" is just too close. Frighteningly close. And I've never really felt that way about anybody either. And if it's even mildly hinted at that someone likes me in that way then it's scary, ...
kaika, what do u find scary about ppl getting close to you? i agree with SS that we all have our own pace but do u feel that your being scared makes you unapproachable and that feels safer for you? just wondering...

Not necessarily unapproachable, just not easy to love
And yes, it does feel safer, a lot more lonely though