Cheating......

What are some signs that your partner is cheating? My boyfriend has never been a romantic but lately he has been watching romantic movies with me and bought flowers for me the other day. It has been over a year since I received flowers last. He also has been doing more around the house. Its like he is covering up something. Can someone please assist.... Thanks

Kayle, I wouldn't necessarily say that these are signs of cheating. How long have you guys been together, if you don't mind me asking. Maybe he just realized that he hadn't been contributing much. Took me at least 9 months to realize that my gf at the time (the ex I always refer to) needed more than I was giving. So one day, I just decided to try doing some of the things she was wanting me to do... all the things you just mentioned. Hope this helps.

ryan

Doesn't sound like cheating to me. Of course, my hubby didn't realize he was cheating (he was dissociating). However, we began to fight a lot. He started acting very secretive. Intimacy went to nil. Plus I had a gut feeling. I trust my gut now. I had to learn that the hard way.

Feel free to pm me you need to talk.

Have you thought of asking him?

It's simple, it's direct, it's brilliant. Just watch out for the "You don't trust me?" line. Give him the reasons you feel this way if he takes up that response. If he gets upset, just say you read something on the net about it... and you got your wires crossed.

ryan

Be prepated to use other methods too. I asked. But he had no memory of it/ lied well. Its sad...some people are EXCELLENT liars unconciously or conciously.

I really hope the two of you can resolve this.

ryan

signs of cheating?
ive been cheated on by almost every guy i can remember being with, and ive been the other woman also...
chicks just "know"
maybe its a smell, or intuition.....
i dont know if yours is cheating on you, but if you live in cali and your near me , he might be, cuz guys who are married and have girlfriends try to get with me all the time....
no worries though.... (got off topic for a sec)
i know some very faithful men... who just do things "out of the blue" for their girls....
their motives can vary, might be to get more sex from you, might be because youve been feeling down, might be because he just happened to pass a guy on the corner selling flowers and was feeling generous.

just wait a bit, and trust him if you can, cuz once the trust is gone, its hard to get back to good.

dont worry about being made the fool either if it turns out he's cheating.... he'd be the only fool if that were the case, and you'd be the one who had integrity by trusting.

Good point, CCL, about it being impossible to regain trust once it's gone.

1Day, I also like your point about how hard it is to detect lying. In fact, people who are successful liars ARE good at it. If they weren't, they couldn't succeed at it. Also, communication research shows that, because good liars are effective, it is very, very hard to detect lying. People often think they are good at identifying liars because they can read the small, nonverbal signals of their children, parents, mates, close friends. However, when dealing with people they don't know in controlled experiments, they are not as good as they thought.