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Jan 20, 2013, 11:21 PM
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T was wearing a simple red summer dress with pleats and pockets. I said she was looking young and playful. We flirted for a bit and then we talked about flirting. “And what would happen then,” she asked. I said, “I can enjoy you with your dress on. Quite apart from all the taboos, I think the flirting is more fun than the sex would be.”
She's a good flirt. She always gives me the right amount of encouragement.
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#2
Jan 21, 2013, 12:22 AM
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Hello, CantExplain. Your post here: http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=262940 and this one seem to be part of a plan that raises some red flags.
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Jan 21, 2013, 12:49 AM
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What am I missing? I don't see the red flag.
Do you think that the engagement in flirting is inappropriate? |
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Jan 21, 2013, 01:39 AM
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#5
Jan 21, 2013, 02:49 PM
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I think it can be healthy.
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Jan 23, 2013, 06:52 AM
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Is the flirting you are doing now just a test to see if your T will respond in kind? Or are you hoping your T will respond more to the flirting and take it to the next level? I hope you don't find my questions insulting. I'm curious.
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Jan 23, 2013, 07:31 AM
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I've heard it said that psychotherapy is what happens when you put two people in a room together and tell them not have sex.
On occasion, sexual energy and tension is just a fact of life. Therapy may be a sex free zone, but it can still be sexual. That's why the frame exists. That's why it's so important to stay in it. It creates a safe place for those feelings to exist. I see no harm in flirting, especially if it's acknowledged and talked about.
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Jan 23, 2013, 09:49 AM
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I wonder who you're really flirting with. T is reflecting back how you feel. So you're kind of flirting with yourself. Hmm...
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Jan 23, 2013, 01:03 PM
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I think flirting in a fun way in T can help add some lightness to the session, as long as there's an understanding of the intention behind it and the expectations of it.
My T suggested that he bring in treadmills so that we can do therapy and exercise at the same time, to promote better health. I told him that he would need to wear speedos...and that if it's going to be that kind of work, at least I could get some enjoyment out of it. Not sure if that would be considered flirting, but we both got a good laugh out of it.
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Jan 26, 2013, 10:33 PM
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Or doesn't bear thinking about. One of those.
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#11
Jan 27, 2013, 05:18 PM
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Transference may not be at work here, but there may be something affecting the work, your there to be present for the client, if that requires a little encouragement to get you to the end of the thought process then it's ok, but if there is any counter transference at play, your progress as a client is been jeopardised and that work your doing on yourself will most likely be with you a lot longer than the t, so what's more important to you long term, that's what I'd ask myself, plenty of red dresses out there to flirt with for free, and
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Mar 31, 2013, 10:05 AM
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I also agree that flirting can sometimes merely help with the rapport between client and therapist.
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