School is intruding into my private business, help

Hi friends. Some background on my story - I am eighteen years old and a senior at a private high school in New York. I was raped 2 years ago and I experience some symptoms of PTSD. I also suffer from depression and ADHD and occasional panic attacks. I used to self-medicate with marijuana but I rarely use it, however, I have a medical marijuana card from the Department of Health that I obtained legally and was approved for by a doctor. I got the card after I turned 18, however, my family did not know I had it because they do not support the use of marijuana. I have never even used the card because medical marijuana is so expensive in New York and I don't it to conflict with my performance in school, however, I was planning on getting a consultation in the future, maybe in the summer.
Yesterday, I was cleaning out my wallet at the end of class and a classmate was standing up next to my desk. He looked at the card and asked if it was fake. I showed him and said, no, it's real. Thought there was't any harm there. At the end of class however the teacher made me stay after class and she said, "Show me those IDs and we're going to the dean." I handed her all my IDs including my med card and told her it was legal. She looked at them and let me leave. I thought I was home free. After all, I hadn't done anything wrong. I came home to being hit and screamed at by my parents because the dean and the school nurse had called them saying I had been "showing off a medical marijuana card." So now I have no idea what to do. I didn't commit any crime. I'm a legal adult. I don't even use weed atm, they can drug test me if they want. The school doesn't know anything about my mental health issues or the other meds I take. I want to confront the dean for calling my parents without my permission but I don't want to get in even more trouble than I seem to already be in. Does anybody have any guidance I would greatly appreciate it

Maybe talk with your parents about your PTSD?

I hope you have support-- a therapist?

it seems like you ought to be all set, since you are of a legal age; however, parents and private schools tend to want to have a strong influence.


WC

I wouldn't try to take it any further, unless the school takes some further action that forces your hand. Going forward, I would endeavor to keep that card (actually, any and all of your personal docs) out of public view - no sense in inviting trouble...

This good advice

I do not know the appropriate person in your area to discuss this with but THIS is something that needs to be addressed in my opinion.

I agree with marvin above with regard to keeping that card and other private documents in a safe place from hereon in, however the horse has already bolted.

The Dean breached not only your privacy, but your civil rights imo. You are a legal adult, and what he divulged to your parents is confidential medical information. If it were me I would most certainly find an advocate and confront the administrative board of your School.

I would sue the crap out of the school. They resulting in you being physically ASSAULTED by your parents? I would also be filing a report with the police for being hit.

Hey there, thank you for sharing your story with us.
It sounds like you've been having lots of things on your plate, as well as a pretty confusing and hard background. I can only imagine how you must be feeling right now because it seems like you were just being you, doing nothing and just living your life but things, such as school, is intruding. It sounds like a really hard situation to get out of, and as you've said - it is what it is. Let me start off by saying, thus, that you are completely accurate and yeah, completely agree with your POV.
Although I think the teacher meant well and everything and that the school didn't know that it would've gotten you in trouble (I suspect that they believe that your family already know, hence why they notified them), I completely get what you mean by you feeling as if they were being intrusive. It's true you weren't doing anything wrong.
I guess in situations like this, there's not much to do. Can't really sue the school for doing this. Instead, have you tried to reach out to your family members and give them a proposition of what you're going through or explaining to them why you have the card in the first place? It sounds like your anger stems from the fact that your family was physical with you after what happened, which is why I said so.