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Right now I am sick and feeling like 'well, when I am not sick, the first thing I am going to do is start being clean and exercising and doing what I plan to because I can't do anything when I am sick.' I always feel that way when I am sick but rarely remember that sense of resolve until I am sick again.
That is exactly me! So now i am trying to exercise at least lightly every day, and if i do TOO MANY chores one day, its okay if i do nothing the next day.

I googled some stuff about chronic fatigue that was helpful in making me feel less guilty about not being wonder woman every freaking day.
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Old Dec 10, 2017, 07:44 PM
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Oooh, exercising every day really works for me! If I skip exercise one day, it's easier for me to skip the next also. Same applies to dishes, I think I'm in skipping mode right now. Have you see the 'don't break the chain' motivational method? The idea is you put a big red x on your calendar every day you do a little something towards your goal and when you see the chain, you don't want to break it so you keep doing it.

You've got me googling CFS now - 'pacing' seems pretty interesting and useful.
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So the closet is the longest reno in history. I keep getting interrupted real life, Christmas, not being able to work with the baby around. Not to mention not being able to paint with my youngest son and grandson at home. Have to find a time when they are both out. Which is tomorrow. So the plan is to paint tomorrow morning. Then put the closet back together. I have bag 7 full and bag 8 half full. Still in the house but it a start. I have a box started too. And a box for the daughter.

I have found that I have too many things on the go which is why it is all so slow. That and the off days. It's awful hard some days to get motivated.
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Old Jan 23, 2018, 12:28 PM
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How's your closet now? I have a contender for the longest reno award. I started redoing a room in 2012, was just going to fix the walls and paint. I'm still not done sanding. The room contents have been blocking a hall and clogging up another room while I do nothing on my renovation project.

This weekend we cleared out the kitchen and did a thorough spring cleaning type scrub down. It took two of us many hours (my kitchen is small, like 100 sq ft). I still need to go over half the floor with the scrub brush, but it feels like a nice reset. Hopefully we will keep it cleaner from now on.

I have a contractor coming tomorrow, need to tidy up the entrance and basement today.
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Old Jan 23, 2018, 02:45 PM
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Well the closet is sorta done, but the doors wont go back on. Decided that I would continue on instead of fixing. I will fix it later. So I continued on I started moving furniture, so of course I found more mold. The old wardrobe is in the garbage the other is going to our daughters place. I scrubbed the wall but found a damaged area so that came out. It's been patched mudded and taped, hubby was home for it. I still need to sand and paint. Then finish moving the furniture Sunday I was standing in the yard and coughed pulled a muscle in my lower back. So movement is painful I will start doing gentle stretches and hopefully be able to sand and paint. My sons are around so I will make them do a lot of the moving but with moving comes dusting and vacuuming. dressers haven't been moved in years.

Still it does really feel as if it's been going on forever. Bag 7 is in my front entry. My oldest boy cleaned his room and so there are two big bags out of his room waiting to go too. I guess I just keep on trucking
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Old Jan 23, 2018, 05:24 PM
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Oh no, I'm sorry to hear you found more mold! Repairing walls is one of my least favorite chores. I initially started redoing my room due to water damage, too. Tempted to just paint over without sanding anymore and move all my stuff back in. I had to set it up as a temporary guest room for family over the holidays so it has to be emptied out again...

I filled up half a bag in the basement this evening, need to get back down there and get on with it. I noticed that someone had decided to store his tools where I like to keep my seasonal cooking gear, cleared that stuff out to put my stuff back where it belonged! There's so much stuff in the basement. Not sure why, it flooded a year or two ago and I thought we emptied it then?

Hope your muscles feel better soon so you can get back to emptying out
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Old Jan 30, 2018, 10:06 PM
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Well my back is feeling better. I'm still moving a little slowly but getting there.

Oh the plus side the dressers have been moved a small part of the floor has been vacuumed. I have discovered that my husband has a lot of clothes I mean a lot a lot a lot of clothes. He has promised to go through it and get rid of some. He had better or I will bury his dressers with neat bins full of clothes.
Oh well the shelves have been set up and there is a light at the end of the tunnel. oh and I found another started giveaway bag. Apparently I have tried to start this a few times.

Well unless you count the fact that I was looking for something in the bathroom cupboard and realized that I really need to go through that too. I may have started spring cleaning.
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Old Feb 17, 2018, 11:12 AM
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Cleaning out more shelves in the basement... found a can of leaking oil, made tossing a lot of stuff a very easy decision. I just made a huge mess taking a bunch of stuff off shelves but not putting it back. Some of this stuff, I have no idea what it is. My boyfriend has to look at the throw away pile to make sure none of it is essential, I guess...

Other stuff... it's so hard to toss. I have some camping gear I never use. It's nice stuff, just not as practical as other camping gear I have and do use regularly. And it's sat here unused for eight years, but I still can't toss it because it's cute! Makes no sense!
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Old Feb 17, 2018, 12:38 PM
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I finally watched some Hoarders episodes on my phone (i dont have cable or satellite). Ennyway, its made me a lot less squeamish about throwing out stuff, when you see that they remove 6 to 20 truckloads from every show.
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I am finally getting the kitchen cleaned up AGAIN. I was sick & busy with Christmas activities befire Christmas that sick with bronchitis on top of 4 weeks of people I knew well dying. The elderly friends wete kinda expected but it just kinda took away any energy I had left while being sick.

I stayed in bed mostly until sbout the beginming if Feb. Dishes piled up. I ciuldn't even find my stove on tje counter & dishes & containers to clean out for recycle piled to the bottom if my upper cabinets. I got the stove cleaned off, loads of dishes done both in tje dishwasher & things that couldn't go in there. Cleaned out mist if the old food in my refrig.

Loads of laundry because I had no energy for 2 flughts of stairs to get to my washer. It's hard to just focus on one area so ehen I take something upstairs, I do stuff therebforba few hours tgan when I take something down stairs I do stuff there for a few hours.

On a warm day the first day I had evergy, it was warm outside & I cleared out & cut back tree branches & shrubs nest to my front deck & garsge & tilled my truck bed with brush to haul to the dump. Got thst & my recycling taken there so now I cancstart over fillibg the recycle containers again. My house us such a mess it will take years to get it organized but this year I have done more even with being sick.

I seriously need my master closet designed & installed so I can quit hanging all my seasinal cloths I wear on wreath hangers hung over all my doors. Finally debts paid off so now I can save up to do the interior work I need to get done.

Ugh, I was folliwing my raccoon trails on a snowy day into my back yard I have just let go trying to keep the rest if my farm under control. The spa tgat wasvdead when I bought my farm has its frame oulled out of my deck. Only thing from it collapsing is a grunge tree from my woods that is growing in front if it. That tree goes & so does that whole section if the decking. The pergola started falling down during the 2009 ice storm & heavier snows after that. The dear live the overgrowth though so I get to enjoy watching my wildlife... trade off, I still need to clean up that fenced in back yard area. I need my loppers & weed wacker when speing starts before the growth starts. Maybe this year I will get more accomplished instead if just doing the same stuff over & over again
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Old Feb 19, 2018, 07:12 AM
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Eskie, I hope things start to get easier now that you are feeling better and winter is finally heading into spring. It's been a hard start to the year for a lot of people.

I'm scared to watch hoarders but it would probably be good motivation...

I learned that I would be better off just throwing stuff out if I don't know what it is than asking because if I ask, it's all vital. We had tubs of weird putties and joint compound, etc. I started opening some of the jars and the stuff was just all dried out.

Didn't toss the camping stuff, but there's about half as much stuff on the shelves as there used to be. I was reading some blog posts this morning and people were talking about going through their houses in a short time period, six weeks. How??? I would like to do that, just get it over with instead of dragging it out for years.
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I’ll try to do some cleaning today. I guess I’m staying in my house and not running away, so I may as well clean the bathrooms.
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Old Feb 19, 2018, 05:43 PM
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I'm still plugging away. Things have gotten really slow as I'm having problems with my thyroid meds. If I went any slower I think I would be going backwards. The reno stuff is mostly done but no one has removed the wardrobe or the two bags of donations my hubby has bagged. Of course the pause in finishing the bedroom mean I can't start in other areas of the house. So frustration is high or would be if I was awake enough
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Old Feb 19, 2018, 10:44 PM
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I hauled away 5 good size boxes plus a stuffed old suitcase last week. That's the good news. The bad news is 2 boxes of deceased mother-in-laws stuff came in.
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I have found that getting the stuff like recycling & give aways out of the house as I get containers filled really helps in organizing & I don't think sbout them or second guess myself then....it's gone
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I'm starting this thread because I know checking in on a regular basis helps me. If anyone else wants to check in, go for it

Two incidents last week gave me a kick in the pants to start getting better about keeping up with housekeeping. I visited a friend whose house is under construction yet 10x neater and nicer than my own. A few days later, a different friend of mine made some sort of joking reference to me being a hoarder. I'm not a hoarder - more like a pack rat - but I know that I am happier when I am not surrounded by as much stuff as I have at the moment. I had enough space for my stuff, but when my boyfriend moved in six years ago with all of his stuff -- well, there's not enough room.

Anyway. Today I decided to go through a pile of papers I had sitting on a table. There are about six gardening magazines my mother gave me, a newsletter from a nature group I belong to, an application to join a gardening group, a poem someone gave me, some papers from my gardening class, and notes for a trip I already took.

I tossed a few of the papers but put the rest of it in a pile. Then I stopped and asked myself what I was doing. The magazines went in the recycling bin. I read the newsletter and decided to save it because I may want to sign up for some of the events they are holding and there's some reference info. I'm also hanging onto the garden club application, although I am not sure I want to join. I put the gardening papers in with the binder I used to store the rest of the coursework from that class. I took a photo of the poem and tossed a few odds and ends.

What I am noticing about this is that I like to hang on to things for a later that never comes. The nature newsletter has some information about courses I might want to sign up for. I need to look at my calendar and either do it or not do it. This is a real pattern for me, finding things that look interesting and then dithering about them until it's too late to sign up. Fear of commitment?

Okay, back to tossing.
I feel the same way I am like that myself.
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Old Feb 20, 2018, 04:19 PM
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I'm watching a Hoarding Buried Alive show. I haven't seen this before. It's very disturbing. I worry about the after effects for the people who appear on the show. I really hope these people are getting a lot of money and help and aren't just being exploited. I'm watching one that involves a whole family and feel so sad for the kids. What do people at work or school say after something like this airs???? I hope I remember this the next time I feel like shopping.
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Old Feb 20, 2018, 06:04 PM
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(((Hvert))) i got the impression that everyone's next step on the show is eviction, so they do usually get more time from the city inspector, or alternative housing is found, or a studio type apartment is fixed up in the dwelling. Also there are some after funds and aftercare. A pc member was on one of the shows, i dont remember exactly what she said about it.

Yeah i was binge watching for a while there.
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Old Feb 20, 2018, 11:18 PM
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I binge watched some today and am not sure I will be able to sleep tonight! Just watched a truly awful episode involving kids, bugs, trash, and an abusive parent. I remember a thread on here about doing one of those shows. Iirc it was not a positive experience.

I'd like to think my place 'isn't that bad' but tbh probably 1/3 of my living space is too crowded or under construction to be used. One thing I see in these shows nd identify with is the unpainted walls, the half finished or half started repair projects...
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Old Mar 03, 2018, 07:47 AM
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There's been a pile of junk in a hall for months/years. A gift I never took out of the shrink wrap. A peg board I bought 17 years ago that needed to be repaired before it was rehung. Some stuff that was interesting but which had no use. I put it all in a trash bag, along with some random odds and ends that I just couldn't be bothered to find a home for (old batteries, pens, etc).

My boyfriend went through the trash bag when he got home and pulled some of the little odds and ends out. It's stuff we haven't used in at least a year and he could replace it for a buck if he ever needed it again It's frustrating because he thinks *I'm* the one with the problem but we both have issues.
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But you did good by trying! You lifted a finger and moved a muscle, sometimes that's the same as moving a gigantic mountain!
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Speaking of trying...I have, I do and I will continue but Gawwd it's sooooo depressing! I get no help...AT. ALL. This drives me to resentment and resentment always puts me in a bad place. Yes, I do express my needs and expectations but all I get are ears that listen to me and words that agree with me but nothing happens. Nothing changes. Just the same ole, same ole.

Right now, I have a pile near my desk of deceased mother-in-laws recipes. Maybe dating back 30 odd years? There are 2 more boxes of it too. Yes, it's spouse's job to go through this but let's get real, if it's going to get off the dining room table it will be because I do it. I could just throw them out but I want to make sure nothing important gets thrown away. She had Alzheimer's and toward the end started hiding valuable items, some we haven't found yet. I'm just feeling overwhelmed and appreciate venting.
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I'm starting this thread because I know checking in on a regular basis helps me. If anyone else wants to check in, go for it

Two incidents last week gave me a kick in the pants to start getting better about keeping up with housekeeping. I visited a friend whose house is under construction yet 10x neater and nicer than my own. A few days later, a different friend of mine made some sort of joking reference to me being a hoarder. I'm not a hoarder - more like a pack rat - but I know that I am happier when I am not surrounded by as much stuff as I have at the moment. I had enough space for my stuff, but when my boyfriend moved in six years ago with all of his stuff -- well, there's not enough room.

Anyway. Today I decided to go through a pile of papers I had sitting on a table. There are about six gardening magazines my mother gave me, a newsletter from a nature group I belong to, an application to join a gardening group, a poem someone gave me, some papers from my gardening class, and notes for a trip I already took.

I tossed a few of the papers but put the rest of it in a pile. Then I stopped and asked myself what I was doing. The magazines went in the recycling bin. I read the newsletter and decided to save it because I may want to sign up for some of the events they are holding and there's some reference info. I'm also hanging onto the garden club application, although I am not sure I want to join. I put the gardening papers in with the binder I used to store the rest of the coursework from that class. I took a photo of the poem and tossed a few odds and ends.

What I am noticing about this is that I like to hang on to things for a later that never comes. The nature newsletter has some information about courses I might want to sign up for. I need to look at my calendar and either do it or not do it. This is a real pattern for me, finding things that look interesting and then dithering about them until it's too late to sign up. Fear of commitment?

Okay, back to tossing.
I am the same way.
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I'm watching a Hoarding Buried Alive show. I haven't seen this before. It's very disturbing. I worry about the after effects for the people who appear on the show. I really hope these people are getting a lot of money and help and aren't just being exploited. I'm watching one that involves a whole family and feel so sad for the kids. What do people at work or school say after something like this airs???? I hope I remember this the next time I feel like shopping.
I watch that show myself. I never been that bad. But I do feel for the family especially the one who have kids.
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Speaking of trying...I have, I do and I will continue but Gawwd it's sooooo depressing! I get no help...AT. ALL. This drives me to resentment and resentment always puts me in a bad place. Yes, I do express my needs and expectations but all I get are ears that listen to me and words that agree with me but nothing happens. Nothing changes. Just the same ole, same ole.

Right now, I have a pile near my desk of deceased mother-in-laws recipes. Maybe dating back 30 odd years? There are 2 more boxes of it too. Yes, it's spouse's job to go through this but let's get real, if it's going to get off the dining room table it will be because I do it. I could just throw them out but I want to make sure nothing important gets thrown away. She had Alzheimer's and toward the end started hiding valuable items, some we haven't found yet. I'm just feeling overwhelmed and appreciate venting.

I am the same way
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