[Lady Courtesan]

When I was younger I took much better care of myself. Took at least one shower a day, my hair and nails always perfect, dressed nicely and always
wore make-up.

But now, it's not that I don't care, it's just that it all seems so much harder.

Does anyone else here struggle with this?

I guess I would feel differently if there were a man in my life, right now. But I don't want one. Not right now, anyway.

It's worse when the blues come knockin'. Stay in my pj's, and it seems I've become incapable of caring.

Have you found a way to overcome this? Or is this a problem for you, as well. Maybe it's the medication.

LC

believe me, their are a lot of people on this site that feel like you- and i think a lot of the time it's because of our illnesses (whether that be depression, low self esteem) or something else.

and it makes us think what's the point.. you know why bother doing this that and the other, all i'm doing today is sitting here in my room- does it really matter how i present myself to others?
i suffer with this, yes. and for me it's just because i don't see the point of looking like a movie star when i'm not even planning to leave the house

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

Sometimes wonder how I manage to do the stuff I do, but it's like if I stop, I will get worse and I know that... don't make yourself look great for us dudes, but do it for YOU, to keep your grounded and happy. I dunno about you, but I feel amazing after a shower, so I have extra incentive to workout because I know there's a shower after it. So, maybe... I guess what I'm on about, is to do stuff for you, not for others.

But yeah, I've most definitely been there, trust me on that much... minus the makeup.

Oh, and having a good routine helps me; it's just a pain to get into.

[Fuzzybear]

I can relate...

I am in a mild bipolar depression, and I find that I don't care very much what I wear lately and I hardly ever wear makeup anymore. So you're not alone.

[Webgoji]

I do make sure I'm shaved and shower, etc. Because I need to, not because I really want to. It's pretty much like pouring perfume on a pig ya know?

Taking good care of myself is one of the few positives in my life, it comforts me.

Originally Posted by Webgoji

I do make sure I'm shaved and shower, etc. Because I need to, not because I really want to. It's pretty much like pouring perfume on a pig ya know?

lol, pouring perfume on a pig

i think even the farmers would have something good to say about that.

lol

[meganb22]

Oh yes! I can totally relate. In general, I'm not so much of a fashion plate, but there was a time when I cared how I looked. When I was younger I would dress more carefully and even put some make up on. High heel shoes and jewelry, were staples of my wardrobe. But now that I'm struggling with moods and I'm also overweight, I find that I don't give a crap. For example: I have 4 cats and love black yoga pants, so when I go out I'm usually bringing a gallon of cat hair with me. Yuck, I know.

I'm hoping as I start feeling better mentally, emotionally, and physically, I will get this girly side of me back. But until then I'm just going to keep enjoy my "I don't care" mentality. I have years and years ahead of me to care how I look.

[gayleggg]

I feel the same. When I'm depressed everything is a struggle. And since I don't work anymore it's even worse.

[Lady Courtesan]

You are beautiful to me, Gayle. Beautiful heart.

I usually try to be upbeat, supportive, but I'm in a slump or maybe a swamp of self pity. Don't wanna get dressed, or eat (I am taking my meds). I'm having a hard time getting over that 'locked up for Christmas' thing.

And I had to spend hours in the seventh circle of hell-also known as the online maze for the Army because my lawyer needs a certain form. I just wish this whole thing were over.

I miss Florida and the Pacific so much. I think I'm going to move back there when the hearing is over and they give me my money. Want to look at palm trees and feel the sand beneath my feet and go to Disney World.

Freakin' snow.

But I think I'll have this pity party for one more day and then it's back to
taking care of myself again. Someone in here said girly. I used to be such a girly girl.

And I hope we can keep this thread going so we can encourge each other.

[Marla500]

Originally Posted by EmpressEugenie1982

Taking good care of myself is one of the few positives in my life, it comforts me.

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You are right about that, it's just hard to find the motivation to do enough of it. Sometimes I leave the house wondering why I don't care more about how I look but I just dont.

[hvert]

The other day I wanted to go out to an art studio. I knew I would be making a mess, so I didn't want to take a shower... but it had been like three days since I washed my hair (I'd taken a hot bath but forgotten to wash my hair). Dry shampoo wasn't cutting it. I started trying barrettes. I wound up realizing that it was kind of dumb not to take the ten minutes to wash my hair.

Anyway, yeah, I also struggle with this. Why get out of my PJs if I'm not going anywhere?

[puppylove_me]

Yep. I struggle with this too. I used to take time to look nice and didn't leave the house without makeup and such. Now days I feel like I have to make myself even shower. I rationalize that all I've done is sit in the same spot on my laptop but it just feels like it drains me. Its not that I wanna be dirty. I even have a new, big reason that I SHOULD take better care of myself!! I'm in a new relationship of 6 months. I think he's seen me made up, hair fixed like 5 times. I've let the housework go too. I'm so lucky and very thankful that he is super supportive and loves me for who I am AND who I want to be!!

[puppylove_me]

Not literally sit on my laptop lol!! I meant sit in the same spot on my bed while using my laptop!! My communication with the outside world haha!!

[Verity81]

Originally Posted by puppylove_me

Not literally sit on my laptop lol!! I meant sit in the same spot on my bed while using my laptop!! My communication with the outside world haha!!

well my cat sits on my laptop....when I'm trying to use it!